Nicole Kidman: ‘I’m an introvert, so my nature is very quiet, and I prefer being home’

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Big Little Lies 2 starts in beginning of June. I’m interested to see the central conflict of this season, and what Meryl Streep adds to the drama. Will BLL 2 be must-see TV? I don’t know. The reason, I think, so many people enjoyed the first miniseries was because it seemed to have a definitive end point, although the characters were so well-drawn and it was such a high-brow soap opera, I can understand why there were people asking for more. I’m particularly interested in seeing where Nicole Kidman’s Celeste goes from here. To promote the second series, the five main women all got individual covers for the June issue of InStyle. All of them were styled like ‘60s housewives/sexpots, like Mad Men-era stuff. Nicole’s Ann-Margaret look is particularly fetching. You can read Nicole’s profile here. Some highlights:

How she thinks of ambition: “Gosh, I always align it with passion because if you’re passionate, then that’s the pull. I have an enormous passion for my art, and there’s a wonderful blossoming in terms of being able to produce as well. It’s just a beautiful thing to be in a position to say to someone, “There’s this great role here,” or “I read this book, and I think we can get this produced for you.” I love having my artistic path, and then my other passion is my family. That’s probably all I need in my life. Other people are off doing things like having a girls’ weekend. I don’t have that because I go home. I want to be with my children and my husband. I will sort of get lost in a character or whatever I’m doing, but I’m constantly working to keep that balance.

She gets a lot of sleep: “Eight hours. I go to bed early, and when I do go out [for work], I leave early…. I’m an introvert, so my nature is very quiet, and I prefer being home. I love my work, and I can push through in different places and explore things, but if you look at my Myers-Briggs [personality] test, yes, I definitely qualify as an introvert. I’m deeply sensitive, so my ability to handle an enormous amount of exterior stress or toxicity … I know when I’m in the wrong place, and I go, and I leave. My home is very nourishing.

Being responsible for her own emotional health: “My dad would get us out of bed in the morning and go, “OK, 10 push-ups. Now you’re going to walk to school instead of catch the bus.” That sort of thing. And he would also say we’re all responsible for our own emotional health. I just know what I feel works for me, and maybe it doesn’t work for somebody else. I’m always trying not to go too far in because I can get to the point where I become more isolated. I’ve got to always be pushing out. I’ve got to get out more.

How physical activity helps her: “It’s very important. I love the outdoors. The ocean for me is like a balm; I’d be in there every day if we lived near it. But we live in Nashville, and we love Nashville. We have no water, but we have lots of beautiful trees.”

[From InStyle]

I’m stuck on the fact that she gets eight hours of sleep every single night. I only get more than seven hours of sleep (a night) a few times a month. Most of the time, I’m getting six to seven hours of sleep. I’ll go through a jag where I’m very “up and at ‘em!” and I can go on less sleep, but as I get older, I find that my body really feels it and I probably do need to sleep more. I’m amazed at the ability of people whose “job” is their body/physicality (athletes, actors) can just prioritize sleep this way and just do it, just will themselves or train themselves to sleep eight or nine or even ten hours a night. HOW? I want to know their secrets. (I imagine money helps.)

I’m also including Reese Witherspoon’s InStyle cover, which is the best part – her interview is not great, it reads like a Time’s Up pamphlet.

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Covers courtesy of InStyle.

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  1. hmm says:

    I’ve been sleeping at least 8 hrs a night my entire life, often 9! It isn’t a choice. I am not a functioning human if I get a minute less than 7.

    • Susan says:

      Nine hours is my body set point as well. It’s what it craves. Now, having said that, I have gone years where I wasn’t able to get close to nine hours of sleep and I survived. But if I was given the opportunity (rainy Saturday in with no obligations), I could sleep that or more to catch up. It’s not hard to do, lol. The harder part is not getting those hours in sleep.

      I’m also a night owl and can pull all nighters at will with very little problem. I don’t need to go to sleep at any particular time but when I do, I like to sleep longer. So maybe if I tallied up all the hours I slept in a year, it might not average to 9 per day.

  2. Nev says:

    Nicole my fave actress!!
    excited for BLL2!!!

  3. tealily says:

    I always get 8 hours of sleep. My body just shuts itself down at 10pm and I go to bed. I can do a late night here and there, but I feel best with a full 8. I don’t have kids, work regular hours, and live really close to my job, so all of that helps.

    • Amaryis says:

      I’m the same way. I simply shut down after a certain point & can not stay awake even if tried.
      I’m prone to migraines if I don’t get enough sleep or hydration. I’m grateful to be able to work from home 4 days a week (I only have to go in to the office Mondays).
      That’s helped tremendously with being able to stay in top of those routines.

  4. Onerous says:

    I used to suffer from wicked insomnia but now I get 8-9 hours almost every night. I just started prioritizing sleep and it totally shifted. It took time, of course, and I do still have bouts of late nights or awakeness in the night, but for the most part I am able to get a lot of sleep every night. It’s the number one thing you can do for your overall health!

  5. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    More introvert, extrovert misconceptions. That woman isn’t an introvert lol. Go ahead, shoot me…lol.

    • Josephine says:

      In what way doesn’t she qualify as an introvert? Introverts are not necessarily shy and retiring and they can be incredibly socially adept. But being in a big group often can suck the energy out of an introvert while energizing extroverts. Being home often can give introverts energy and suck the life out of extroverts. But both can be equally charming, engaging, and social.

    • curachel20 says:

      How so? I am an introvert, and need alone time to recharge- so I enjoy being home and quiet. However, I’m not necessarily shy-I can be outgoing and loud when needed or around my close friends, so people think I’m not introverted. That seems like how she is saying she is. In what way do you think she’s incorrect? Just curious.

    • CharliePenn says:

      Mabs I’m afriad you might be thinking more of the stereotype of an introvert than what an introvert actually is. Common misconception. My therapist actually told me I’m an introvert because I need to recharge after being with people and I draw energy from solitude. That’s what it means really.
      I am very friendly, enjoy hosting, and I don’t suffer from any social anxiety. But I do feel exhausted by people when it’s all said and done and I hit a wall if I don’t get my alone time. Solitude is vital. Having time with my own thoughts is vital. I do not find myself missing people very easily. But again I really enjoy people when the time comes to be social. Many people close to me, even including myself, had no idea I was an introvert!

      • Amy says:

        Totally! I get a lot of flack for it too. I travel for work and try to cut costs by staying with people, and then they get their feelings hurt when I don’t have energy at the end of a long day interacting with people to hang out with them. I even explain I AM AN INTROVERT, but it doesn’t help. Sigh.

        (I sometimes call it being a “social introvert” so I get less shocked looks from people when I tell them I’m an introvert.

    • lucy2 says:

      What she described sounds exactly like an introvert to me, and gels with pretty much every interview and such she’s done.
      Unless you know her personally, I’m guessing you feel she’s not because she’s an actress and in the public eye?

    • Alyse says:

      introversion/extroversion (and there are ambiverts ofcourse) are defined by where they get there energy from, so it def sounds like she’s an introvert.

      I’m an extrovert – I energise from being around people, and being social. Doesn’t mean I don’t want a quiet weekend in every now and again. Same goes the other way for introverts – they energise from home/alone time, but doesn’t mean that they’re hermits!

  6. Mumbles says:

    Anyone who’s seen a televised interview with Kidman knows she’s an introvert (and as a fellow introvert I sympathize). They’re usually duds, she’s so reserved and wound up. (Exception – Graham Norton but it’s because of the other folks on the couch). That said, her one-on-one print interviews are usually good because she does seem to be an intelligent and thoughtful person and the absence of cameras and audiences may put her at ease. She did a Desert Island Discs on the BBC a few years ago that was great. She talked about her Catholicism and her family’s work in psychiatry, all very interesting.

    I do love the styling, that mid-1960s aesthetic is so good.

  7. AryasMum says:

    I believe it was Penelope Cruz who claimed she slept twelve hours every night. I’m sure that changed after a baby.

  8. Victoria says:

    I’m aggravated this series is coming back, it was great and it ended. American TV shows NEVER END and keep going on forever… look at GOT that kept going and no one is satisfied with how it ended, take note Hollywood with Batman, write something original.

  9. runcmc says:

    “Other people are off doing things like having a girls’ weekend. I don’t have that because I go home. I want to be with my children and my husband.”

    I think this is unhealthy, actually. Having healthy friendships with people outside of your marriage is good for you. Having a varied support system and spending time with them is not a bad thing. I don’t like the dichotomy she seems to be painting: she’s basically saying other people need friends because they don’t love their families as much as I do!

    Nope. I am obsessed with my husband, he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. And nothing makes me happier than coming home to him and our dogs. But I ALSO love my girlfriends and devote time to make sure our friendships are alive and healthy. It’s not either/or.

    • tealily says:

      I think she realizes that too, though. Where she says, “I’m always trying not to go too far in because I can get to the point where I become more isolated. I’ve got to always be pushing out. I’ve got to get out more.” I can feel her, because my home is my happy, safe space too, and I usually don’t feel like reaching out and being social. When I do, though, I usually end up having a wonderful time. It’s just not my inclination.

  10. lucy2 says:

    I’m excited for the new season!
    I’d love to get 8 hours every night but it rarely happens. I’m just too busy with a million things. I’ll intend to go to bed early, but the dishes need to be done, or the laundry needs to be done, or I’l just watch one more episode on Netflix…