Hugh Jackman & Deborra Lee Furness have 21st anniversary: #relationshipgoals

To the love of my life. 21 glorious years. I love you with all my heart.

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*Sigh* Can we just… honest to Christmas, I am at a loss for words when it comes to Hugh Jackman and Debbora-Lee Furness. I’m not, that’s a lie – I have words, they are just so effusive and adoring it would leave you all with stomach aches.

The Logan star and his bad@ss wife have just celebrated 21 years of marriage – how many is that in Hollywood years? Hugh commemorated the milestone with the above IG and caption. I love that shot – they always look like they have so much fun together. Deb, who was just honored by the UN, and Hugh first met when he guest-starred on her show, Correlli and married about a year later. They have two kids, Oscar and Ava, as well as two pups, Allegra and Dali. So what is the secret to their union’s success? Hugh sings to Deb when she’s drunk… well, that and a whole mess of love and respect for each other.

Hugh Jackman’s wife asks him to serenade her when she’s drunk.

The ‘Logan’ actor has been happily married to Deborra-Lee Furness – who he met on the set of TV show ‘Correlli’ – since 1996 and he believes singing show tunes was what made his wife fall for her, and even now she still loves listening to his voice.

He said: “I think she probably first fell in love with me when I sang ‘You and I’ from the musical ‘Chess’.

“Well, maybe not entirely because of that but it didn’t hurt my chances. 

“Deb will still ask me to sing it for her at home, although she’s usually a bit tipsy.”

He gushed to The Lifestyle Library: “Meeting Deb was a blessing. We have a beautiful life together.

“There was something that clicked between us right away. 

“It was the feeling you get when you sense this connection that tells you this is the kind of woman you want in your life. 

“You don’t even think about it – you just know that it’s going to work between you and that’s exactly how it’s been ever since.

“I wasn’t even looking to settle down at the time, I was happily single.”

[The Hamilton Spectator]

Throughout their marriage, they’ve endured countless rumors, most involving Hugh’s sexuality. I can’t even bring myself to list the ways poor Deb has been maligned, mostly ageism and misogynistic measures of beauty standards. They also struggled with fertility, Deb suffered two miscarriages before they accepted they would not be able to carry to term. This led to Oscar and Ava’s adoption, which Hugh said, felt like ‘destiny’, “From the moment we started the adoption process, all the anxiety went away. I don’t think of them as adopted – they’re our children… Obviously, biologically wasn’t the way we were meant to have children.” As far as I know, Deb and Hugh are as marvelous as they appear in interviews. In the 17 years that I have lusted after Hugh, I’ve only ever read one account of someone who said he was rude – and that was some guy who approached him in a random record shop, I think. (Yes – all of you getting ready to tell me stories of him being a jerk will break my heart into many, many pieces.)

When Hugh isn’t adoring his wife of two decades, he’s a superhero. No, that’s not a joke about his being Wolverine, that’s because he saves people from burning buildings. On their set of The Greatest Showman, Hugh was supposed to carry co-star Zac Efron from a burning building for a scene. However, during the scene, the pyrotechnics got too hot. After Hugh burst through the door with Zac in hand, the building later exploded, which means Hugh literally saved Zac from a fiery death. Zac said, “Hugh Jackman saving you from a burning building? It’s every girl’s dream.” I didn’t have that particular fantasy before, but I’ve just added it to the catalogue.

My wife – smokin' hot in every photo. And then – there's me

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Happy birthday @deborralee ! I love you with all my heart.

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360 DEGREES OF SENSATIONAL!

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  1. Luca76 says:

    Very cute mazel tov

  2. Incredulous says:

    Well congratulations to them. They always come across to me as a couple, not “Hugh Jackman and wife” and that takes trust and work and love. Keep on keepin’ on, you two.

  3. Chelly says:

    I admire ANYONE, & EVERYONE who can go the looong mile with their partner. In times of turmoil, rumors, & just the everyday work it takes to be completely & utterly in love for 20+ yrs. I tip my invisible hat to you bc it is HARD, & it is WORK. I admire/respect those who make love seem effortless. Kudos

  4. Rapunzel says:

    My parents are celebrating 40 years on Sunday, and I can’t even imagine how much effort it takes for even 20/21 years, let alone 40. Congrats Hugh and Deb. They seem in it for the long haul.

    • Kitten says:

      My parents have their 50th in October. Insane.

    • JustJen says:

      My parents were married 41 years when my dad passed. My husband and I will celebrate our 19th anniversary this September. We’ve had our ups and downs, but the love is always there.

      • Rapunzel says:

        My sis and bro-in-law are hitting 16 years this year. I’m amazed at how these long term relationships succeed.

    • TQB says:

      Congratulations to your folks!!

    • Jellybean says:

      My parents managed 52 years of marriage and 62 years as a couple before my dad died. I am coming up to 18, one sister is on 31 and the other reached 15 before her husband died and is now 5 years into a second marriage. Anyone can be unfortunate in their choice of partner, but we do learn a lot from watching our parents’ relationships; mostly that you have to work at it and you can get past bad patches.

  5. astrid says:

    Great post to start the day!

  6. Suki says:

    I love them together.

  7. Kiki says:

    Congratulations to Hugh Jackman and Deborra Lee Furness. It would be impossible for any married Hollywood couple to stay married for 21+ years. Impressive Feat…. Hears to many more to you.

  8. third ginger says:

    Lovely couple! My parents were married for 62 years. Mom died at 89, Dad at 91. Over their graves it says “Married 62 years. Together forever.”

    • slowsnow says:

      And here I was thinking this post would not bring more bliss. I don’t think we are all meant for eternal love but when it happens… Boys is that beautiful to watch.

      • Lady D says:

        Why do you think we are not all meant for eternal love, slowsnow? I personally happen to think you are right, based on my 56 levels on the planet and discovering 3 happy marriages so far. For the record, I’ve never been married and don’t expect to.

    • Snowflake says:

      Awwww

      • Lynn says:

        I am happy to say that my parents just celebrated their 71st wedding anniversary. My Dad, almost 95), frequently says marrying my Mother was the best thing he ever did in his life. Both are wonderful people and I consider myself to be incredibly fortunate to have such great parents. By the way, they still live independently and have a pretty good social life.

      • third ginger says:

        Lynn, this is the best!!

    • madonami says:

      My grandparents were married for 67 years when he passed. They met in elementary school. She was a safety crossing guard. He saw her and said “Someday I’m going to marry her.” He was totally smitten with her and only her ever, his whole life. When he got dementia and had to be cared for like a child – fed and clothed, carried to his wheelchair when he couldn’t walk well/safely anymore, couldn’t speak well anymore – she did a lot of that. He knew who we were, but couldn’t say much or recall names most of the time. We were sitting outside with him one day, and one of us remarked that the flowers in the garden were “beautiful.” He didn’t quite catch the full statement, but he did catch the word “beautiful” – and he pointed at my grandmother and said “beautiful.” We all just about lost it. He could barely speak, his cognition was deteriorating, but he was *still* adoring her.

  9. kNY says:

    I saw their picture and for a second I thought the headline was going to announce a divorce (because they are so lowkey they are not trying to make news) and I was like, “Nooo!”

    They seem so sweet and genuine.

    • Kitten says:

      Haha…me too. I definitely had a moment of panic. Phew!

      As someone who is in a serious relationship with a guy who is 8 years younger than me, I definitely see these two as #relationshipgoals. I really related to what he said about just knowing that things are right and that you’ll stay together.

      Congrats to Debbora and Hugh!

      • Kathleen says:

        There is still so much ageism and misogyny tied up in couples where the woman is older than the man and it just fills my heart with joy that we are slowly, slowly (iceberg slow) breaking down the barriers. We have no problem and don’t blink twice if a man is 8 years older than a woman but when it’s reversed the misogyny that comes to play makes me sick. I love Hugh and Deborah so, so much. And can we PLEASE PLEASE get some more examples in movies/TV with women who are older than the male co-stars? I crave this. A man who is secure enough to be with an older woman is so attractive.

      • layla says:

        As a fellow 8 years older than my guy club member ***HIGH FIVES ALL ROUND KITTEN*** :)

        As a side note: I may be 8 years older than my partner, but he’ll ALWAYS be 20 years grumpier than me! Hahahha.

      • Wurstbonbon says:

        6 years older here! Woot woot! :D

    • JustJen says:

      Me too!!! Great minds. Thank heavens we were mistaken. Phew.

    • Ari says:

      me too i almost cried

  10. smcollins says:

    21 years together and still just as cute as can be. Congrats to them!

  11. Mia4s says:

    How many years is that in Hollywood? Like…9,462. Seriously though, love them.

  12. mkyarwood says:

    Congratulations, cuties!

  13. mia girl says:

    I’ve met Jackman and he was nothing but kind, gracious, charming and yes, disarmingly handsome. The man is a specimen… and a treasure.

    He is one of my forever favorites.

    • third ginger says:

      Rare in show business, but some people may be beautiful inside and out.

    • OhDear says:

      I’ve heard that from people who have met him as well.

      Congrats to them both!

    • Becks says:

      My friend met him as well and said the same. He’s down to earth, very, very nice and handsome!

      He’s the whole package…..his wife is very lucky!

  14. robyn says:

    I love Huge Jackman’s performances! It’s so great to see people who make commitments to one another actually keep those commitments. They make a beautiful couple and they look healthy, too, with those tennis rackets.

  15. Delta Juliet says:

    They are a delight. It’s so heartwarming to see two people who enjoy being together. I know plenty of people who have been married for quite awhile (myself included) and honestly, just being married a long time doesn’t necessarily mean they are happy. These two bring a smile to my face.

    • damejudi says:

      Agree! They always look like they are having fun and enjoy being together. Marriage is hard, but how happy they look together is what I want!

  16. Insomniac says:

    Thanks for posting about something happy! Really like these two.

  17. TQB says:

    Awww, thanks for this. Congratulations to them, although it seems like their happiness is their best reward.

    To all the “nice guys” out there, this is what an actual nice guy is like. Effortlessly kind, faithful, and loving.

    • Brittney B says:

      … and never, ever pointing at themselves and saying, “see, I’m one of the good ones!” I’ve learned this lesson the hard way, but I’ll never forget it. If they have to tell you how nice they are to women, they’re not.

      • madonami says:

        I find that, often enough, whatever thing a guy makes a big point of telling you he is, he’s not. I’m SO honest, never lie to anyone! Liar. I’d never, ever cheat, I can’t stand that. Cheater. I’m very wise, have learned a ton about life. Immature idiot. Etc, etc.

    • Abbess Tansy says:

      Agree completely. Kindness is shown though actions JMO.

  18. KatieBo says:

    Gah! She has such incredible bone structure…

    Congrats to them! They’re cute.

  19. Hazel says:

    It’s nice to see a positive post about nice people. A welcome break from dumbasses doing bad things.

  20. Brittney B says:

    People constantly use her looks as “proof” that he’s gay… but I’m pretty sure they’re blind, because he’s right, she’s smoking hot. She reminds me of Malin Akerman, but with more style and swagger and maturity.

    • msd says:

      Jackman doesn’t make a big fuss about it but he and his wife are strong Christians. They truly feel they were destined to be together, that their kids were always destined to be with them, and also that being a Christian means being a good person etc. I’m not religious in the slightest but I have a lot of respect for that, and for them.

      As for the rude things some people say about her…. she was established when they met, he was a nobody. The double standard is so infuriating when guys marry much younger women all the time.

      • Dottie Hinkle says:

        I didn’t know they were Christian (not in name only). How did you find this out? That’s great if they are but it’s not something I would have expected from hollywood actors.

      • msd says:

        Jackman’s father was converted by Billy Graham I believe. He doesn’t talk a lot about it, and I think his faith morphed into a personal-based Christianity rather than a church-based one but it’s there in interviews if you look. They both talk about destiny and spirituality and a higher power, and it influences their idea of being good people leading good lives. They’re Christian in the real/best sense of the word.

  21. hmmm says:

    Thanks. This gives me hope for life. For a moment, all the shadows are chased away.

  22. S says:

    Hugh Jackman is one of the folks we’ve been able to meet through being a military family and, wow, he’s just awesome. Posed for every picture, took time to talk to every person and hear their stories. Very few handlers moving him along. Really geeked out about getting to fly with the squadron. I have only good things to say.

  23. Jess says:

    Aww they’re my favorite! I’ve really never understood the ire for this woman… Hugh is obviously head over heels for her and she seems really interesting in interviews. Some people just kinda ooze sensuality and she’s one of those people for sure! Congrats to them!!

  24. deevia says:

    Why do they have similar faces? Like they are brother and sister or distant relatives. His and her botox?

    • HadleyB says:

      Really? A great article and moving posts and you have to post this? They look fine, they look happy. Let’s move it along.

  25. Kasey says:

    He seems lovely and I think she’s adorable, with a gorgeous face. Also it’s beautiful seeing two people who still adore each other after so long, not just in Hollywood! :)

  26. LA Elle says:

    I don’t know what their relationship is, but they seem to be great friends and committed to each other and their kids.

    I’m mostly posting to say I watched Eddie the Eagle a few weeks ago, and it made me remember how much I love seeing Hugh Jackman in non-superhero movies.

    • Annetommy says:

      He was terrific in the very underrated “Prisoners” a few years ago. I hope they have many more happy years together.

    • K.T says:

      I like your comment about “I don’t know what their relationship is…” That’s how I feel about their long term marriage. I feel like there’s probably *something* in the rumours about sexuality and his long term friends. BUT life, family and relationships can be much more complicated then what Hollywood mainstream stardom allows?! They seem like a lifelong commitment to their family and is just phenomenal in whatever variety or form.
      Also, he’s an action actor I love to watch, plus his musical theatre experience is great (never seen live but on YouTube ;) . Go, go HughDebFam!

  27. Rob says:

    Dude your wolverine you can do so much better and a more natural girl with no surgery not a drunk u publicly promote she’s tipsy we all know that means drunk I’m there and been there she won’t make you as happy as you were years ago she’ll get worst more and more drunk and I’m far from a homo my boy just keeping it real and my life experience fuck I wish I was wolverine…I’m followed u since you and Travota made that movie with Holly Berry I knew you be something serious

    • Jaded says:

      You are utterly disgusting. Get off this site and never darken its door again.

    • Ange says:

      Having a drink every now and then doesn’t make you a drunk. Australians have a much more relaxed view towards alcohol than Americans so it’s not shameful to admit your wife likes a glass of wine.

  28. Mia LeTendre says:

    I’m 40 and I’m hoping to one day have a relationship that lasts a year (i made it to 9 months 21 years ago, and 6 months 7 years ago!).