January Jones: ‘I just don’t feel I need a partner… I don’t feel unhappy or lonely’

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January Jones covers the latest issue of Red to promote her TV show, The Last Man on Earth. She stars with ex-boyfriend Will Forte – they dated for something like a year, but I’m pretty sure they’re over now. It’s been a while since I’ve read a January Jones interview, and I was surprised to discover that she’s chilled out a bit. Maybe she grew out of her icy-bitch-realness phase, or maybe motherhood has chilled her out a bit, but she comes across as very down-to-earth and relatable in this piece. She seems to live a quiet, hipster life in Topanga Canyon with her son Xander and her Yorkipoo, Max. You can read the full Red piece here. Some highlights:

Moving to a gated community in Topanga Canyon three years ago: “It’s like in a Spielberg movie. The adults have more drinks and the kids are dirtier… but it’s safe. Photographers don’t follow us up there, so Xander has a pretty normal life now.”

Giving birth to Xander as a single mother: “My younger sisters [Jacey and Jina] and my mum and my doula were in the room. My brother-in-law and my dad were next door. I only wanted women with me. Female energy. And I was embarrassed – your body does all these crazy things. It was a 30-hour process but it was awesome. I’d love to do it again.”

Xander is surrounded by female energy: “Maybe I should get a manny soon. But Xander has a lot of bro time with the neighbour dads and my dad, who is super young. It’s good to have strong women around a man. To teach him to respect women. He doesn’t have a male person in his life saying ‘don’t cry’ or ‘you throw like a girl’. All those sh-tty things dads accidentally do.” Her male friends “want to be around him because he’s such a fun kid”, but she’s candid about the fact that she doesn’t have a partner. “People want to set me up all the time and I’m like, ‘No way.’ If I meet someone and we go out, then fine, but I’m not going to go look…” She makes a puke noise and grins.

She belongs to a Fantasy Football League with the Mad Men boys: “We don’t play for money. If we win, we just get to gloat. It’s how we keep in touch.”

Turning 39: “I’ve done so much more than I ever would have hoped for. I don’t have a 40 by 40 list. I have no New Year’s resolutions. Everything I’ve done is everything I would have dreamed of. I have had the most wonderful, unexpected, joyous life. Bizarre to me. Maybe because I never asked for it.”

Her average weekday:
“It’s just me and a nanny. No one lives in the house with us. I go to work, always leave at 5pm, come home, let the nanny go and then I’m mum. I put Xander to bed. Watch two hours of reality TV, then go to bed myself. It’s escapism. The Bachelor, Bachelorette, The Housewives of Whatever – all of them.”

The men she likes: “The moment I see someone who I think is cute, I google him and, oh, he’s 25, and I’m thinking, what is my problem?! My sister, too. She lives in LA and we both like tattoos, guitar, kinda dirty…” I say, what’s wrong with younger rocker men, surely the sex would be great? And she says, “Is the sex great though? Do they know what they are doing? I guess you can teach them. I guess they are mouldable. But I want a manly man in flannel, with a beard and an axe. But then there’s always something wrong with him. Like he’s a Republican.”

She doesn’t need a partner: “Something else would suffer if a relationship came along. Yes, I’m willing to make that sacrifice for the right relationship – I just don’t feel I need a partner. Do I want one? Maybe. But I don’t feel unhappy or lonely. It would have to be someone so amazing that I would want to make room. Someone who would contribute to my happiness and not take away from it. I realise I have very high expectations and will probably have to compromise – but my life is so full. It’s not like, ‘Aww, I wish I had a man.’ After I had Xander, I went on a couple of dates and I was like, ‘I’d rather be at home sleeping, or watching TV or hanging out with my kid.’”

[From Red]

I think getting away from the paparazzi has been good for her. Even though I miss gossiping about January – God, she used to be so much fun! – she does sound happier and more stable these days. I like what she says about not needing a partner – some women actually do feel that way, and some single moms feel that way too. That being said, I could totally see her with some 20-something beardy hipster-rocker.

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  1. Pri says:

    The older I get, the more I consider single parenting.

    Dating is hard, esp. in this age of apps. I mean, none of the people I date who say they’re ready for kids and serious relationships actually are.

    • Sally says:

      I am in the same boat. I’m tired of putting in the time and energy toward relationships and men who are not ready for a family. I’ve been seriously thinking of becoming a single foster mom and adopting a child through there.

    • Ramona says:

      I remember when the Conservatives had a collective aneurism because Murphy Brown (a tv character) made this choice and was depicted as happier for it. So glad, its easier now. Do what you need to do, ladies. The traditional road doesnt show up for everybody and even when it does, its not always what it cracked up to be.

      • Esmom says:

        Amen. And man, I’d forgotten about the Murphy Brown dustup. That was Dan Quayle’s thing, wasn’t it? Seems almost quaint in retrospect when you consider this past election season.

      • jetlagged says:

        “Murphy Brown has baby, Dan Quayle has cow” was an actual newspaper headline from that time. The headline itself was sublime, but then the show went and used it in one of their episdoes. It was one of the best television moments in history, imo. And yes, very quaint given where things have gone since.

    • HappyMom says:

      Go for it. If you meet someone later on, great. But don’t postpone having a child if you really want one. I have several friends who waited–and then it was too late to have a kid.

    • Dolkite says:

      I turn 40 this year and I am really, really scared of what dating will be like. I only want a serious relationship and I don’t want kids nor have them nor want to date someone who already has them.

      I also use no dating apps; I don’t have a smartphone and don’t want one.

      • Kitten says:

        I really urge you to give online dating a try. You don’t need a smartphone, just access to a computer.

      • Dolkite says:

        I’ve done it in the past. The women only look at my picture and stereotype me. I’m 6’3″ and bald, so I got all these dumb “Oh, I love a big man who can protect me; did you ever play football?” messages when I clearly stated in my profile that I’m not into sports and am more likely to go to the library or (no joke) the symphony.

        40 is also the magic number where a lot of younger women (as in under 35) aren’t interested in you anymore.

      • paleokifaru says:

        I live in the Phoenix area and there are a lot of ads now for singles adventures and trips. I have no idea if they’re available in your area/you’ve tried them/what the typical age range is but I always think it sounds like a good idea to meet through some activity that you enjoy, even if you can’t dedicate a lot of time to it as Kitten says below by joining a weekly thing, etc. My impression is they’re organized group events that include everything from weekend getaways of wineries or kayaking to a night out at a pub, a one off cooking class, or a day of hiking. Anyone have experience with this?

        And Dolkite I also work at a museum and our volunteers really enjoy the social aspects of that and meeting like minded people. If you have the time and inclination volunteering for an organization that really resonates with you can be a great way to meet people.

      • Dolkite says:

        We have MeetUps in my city, that’s another reason I’m concerned. Many are 20s/30s. When you’re 40, you’re paired up with the 40s and 50s and that’s not the age range I’m looking for dating.

        We will see in regards to volunteering. I live in Chicago, so there are definitely places for that.

      • DesertReal says:

        Don’t be scared.
        I met my silver fox when he was in his mid 40s, and we crossed paths right at the exact time we were both ready.
        Bottom line, mature guys know more (and are better at every thing because of it).
        You rock.

        *I’m not the only broad that knows it either.

    • Veronica says:

      A woman I went to high school is going the single parent route and seems really happy with it. We are only 33/34 but she has a good job, good family support and didnt want to wait around for the “right” guy. She did an IUI and is expecting a baby girl in April. If it’s what you want, go for it.

    • Nancy says:

      She says potato, Jude Law says potatah. It’s all about your own experience. I can’t imagine not having my husband and kids. Went through a rough patch after 16 years, but whew, I love married life. Can’t imagine being single. But then again, I was 20 when I married, so it’s part of who I am. The most important thing is to be happy with who you are not who you are with.

    • Mikeyangel says:

      Hold on to hope ladies. I am impressed with how many thoughtful men I have come across lately. My bestie’s ex hubs was a douche canoe (got a juicy girl while stationed in Korea, even though he was married and they had three kids). When she started dating found a horrible guy who may have burnt her house down (different story). She was done dating. She found an awesome guy. He loves her kids, loves her deeply, is financially stable, isn’t a rage monster, narcissist, or liar! He can’t have kids so meeting my bestie who has kids he loves, and her not wanting more worked perfectly for both of them. There are good ones. I agree with JJ though it has to happen, can’t look for them.

      • Andrea says:

        I met an amazing man at work. 41 with a 5 year old daughter. I am 35 almost 36 and we flirted for a few months and finally I asked him out He told me he is going through major transitions in life that he has a lot riding on that could affect his daughter. He left it very open ended and acted like we would have some intense thing that could mess up his life when I just asked for coffee. I must admit though, I can’t stop thinking about him. It’s scary dating 35+

    • Betsy says:

      Know yourself. I am a somewhat high anxiety person who definitely needs a partner to share the work and talk me out of anxiety. The physical exhaustion, too…. I’d never say never, but know yourself!

      • meow says:

        it’s so funny how brains work differently. i am bipolar with high anxiety and the thought of having a partner makes me even more anxious. i like my alone time and doing things my own way. i don’t usually like someone else’s input when i’m processing something.

  2. Alleycat says:

    I feel her in this. I am single and I honestly don’t want to be in a relationship. There are times where I may feel lonely and would like a companion to eat or travel with, but it really is so hard to find some body. I too want a scruffy bearded guy but they do tend to be conservative or hipster and that’s not what I want. I also can see myself being a single parent.

  3. Jayna says:

    I saw her on I think it was Conan two years ago or maybe more, and she was adorable. She’s a massive NKOTB superfan. She was telling the story about being extremely pregnant and going with the sister to their concert and going wild over them, this very preggo woman out in the audience. She was joking about almost going into labor she was so geeked out over them. She loves Tears for Fears too.

    I like her.

    • Esmom says:

      I’ve always liked her, too, she’s always seemed really interesting and quirky to me. And I know others disagree but I thought she was one of the best performers in Mad Men. Very underrated, imo. She brought so much subtlety and nuance to her character.

      • Bridget says:

        I hated how the finished her story. It felt a little cruel.

      • Ally8 says:

        Yes! Honestly, I’m still mad at Weiner over this. Season 1 had her on an interesting arc, and then from season 2 on, it’s like he decided to clip her wings. Working out his mommy issues, I guess.

      • pf says:

        Sorry for the spoiler alert but Betty dying at a young age kind of fit her character. She was always into her looks, and although it’s sad for her kids to lose their mom (and kind of a bad mom) Betty will never grow old, which she would have hated to be honest.

  4. Cdoggy says:

    I want that big ass sweater she is wearing inthe bottom photo. Any I.d. On that?

  5. Lucy says:

    Sure, why not? Totally believe her. It’s a very healthy outlook, really. And it shows that she’s happy with her life just the way it is.

  6. QQ says:

    I came out the other end totally loving the chick, I liked everything I read, especially about guys “There is something wrong like, he is a Republican” LMFAO

    • Kitten says:

      Me too! I don’t know much about her aside from the sketchiness but man, this interview really made me like her.

    • OriginallyBlue says:

      That line made me laugh. I never felt one way or another about her, but this interview was pretty good.

    • HappyMom says:

      I fell down the rabbit hole of her IG a few months ago-and I felt the same way. I’d always thought she was this really cold person-but she’s hilarious and super close to her family. I have a completely different perspective of her now. This interview is more of that.

    • Little Darling says:

      So true QQ. I found her a smidge insufferable for a long time, but then, almost every time I read an interview or see her instagram I think, nah, this chick is all right!

    • Little Darling says:

      When my ex and I split up, I made a very conscious decision to stay single. I didn’t want my kids to go through a revolving door of rando “uncles” while I tried to figure out my dating habits after being married for 10 years from the age of 19. From 19-29 the world changed in regards to men. Camera phones were common, pubic hair was not and it was just SO overwhelming to me!! I felt like I had always been in a relationship, and that it was REALLY important for me to grow up a little without falling right into another relationship or marriage just because I wanted to be a team.

      It has NOT always been easy, but I can’t begin to tell you how proud I am to be at a point, 11 years later, age 40, where I have a successful career of my own where I don’t need child support to take care of my guys (that money goes straight to college funds) and I never needed a man to swoop in and make it all ok for me.

      What I DO hate about being single is taking out the trash. HATE it.

      My kids are mid teenagers now, and I think I have a year or two of working on my business before I will start that mating call to see what I get back.

      • paleokifaru says:

        Little Darliing I can’t like your reply enough. I choked at the “pubic hair was out” line! Sounds like you have really taken the time to think about yourself, your kids and how to move forward for EVERYONE. Your boys are lucky to have you.

      • QQ says:

        Props and Fortitude to you Sis.. cause Let Me Tell You… Men are doing the absolute most in the past 5 years from my POV I oddly lucked out but also my guy is like a frozen in amber teen princess

      • detritus says:

        Darling, this is BAMF material because its so damn hard to do.
        So many ladies just get right back on that shitty horse, without thinking about why they picked the wrong ride in the first place.

        You are an excellent mom to be such a strong role model for your kids.

      • Jaded says:

        Little Darling – I was done with men by age 50. I did not have ONE date or get laid for 10 years. And my life was just fine – busy with good friends, good job, nice home, looked after my mom, Then within a period of about 6 months, my mom died (she made it to 92, God bless her!) and an old boyfriend from the seventies (who I was desperately in love with then but he moved away and married someone else) wandered back into my life (divorced) and we now live together in connubial bliss. Sometimes if you just let it go the universe takes over and sends you the right person at the right time.

      • Little Darling says:

        @ Jaded I am so, so sorry about your mother hon, but what a nice long life you got to share with her. It’s nice that someone you had already connected with came back in, and now you have the “happy ending”.

        I am SOOOOO not done with men, in fact I still quite like them a lot!! In my work (birth worker) I am constantly reminded about how partnership looks when it is strong and healthy. It’s helped to keep love in my heart. I absolutely 100% intend on partnering up in a few years, I am a fantastic partner and I know this about myself. I also know that I don’t want to spend my good years uncoupled.

        BUT for now, the mating call is being silenced as I finish some certifications (working on a paper on socioeconomic status and breastfeeding initiation in California mothers currently) and continue building my business. I work a good 18 hour day, night shifts in hospitals etc. so there simply isn’t the room or desire, but thank you SO MUCH for sharing your story and reminding me of all that I have to look forward to!!

        @paleokifaru,QQ, detritus ~ THANK YOU for the props. I truly truly appreciate it, because it hasn’t always been easy! Hell, it’s still not easy but I’m almost at the other side! Love, LD

      • Amity says:

        The ONLY thing I hate about being single is the lack of sex. But on the positive side after masturbating I can just roll over and go straight to sleep without having to feign interest in someone I have no further use for.

    • popup says:

      I never read any of the older gossip about her, but I love her, too! And she’s great on Instagram. Like her a lot and now wonder if she got a bad rap with the whole ice princess critique. Some people just have natural bitch faces or remote personalities until you get to know them better.

    • Jess says:

      Ditto.

    • Ella Bean says:

      *sigh*. “There’s always a problem… like he’s Republican.”

      It’s passive aggressive digs like this that continue to sell the whole west coast/east coast elitism that was the hot topic yesterday via Anthony Bordain.

      News flash – ALL republicans aren’t evil/racist/greedy. It’s such a tired cliche to lump everyone together and refuse to give people a chance exclusively because of their political affiliation.

      • Esmom says:

        Geez, she was joking around. And even if she was serious she’s entitled to her opinion. I don’t think it’s fair to blame a comment like this for the “elitist liberals are responsible for Trump” narrative.

      • Little Darling says:

        But for some it’s the ONLY deal breaker. Whether she was joking or not, that is her truth and she said it outloud. I personally would never, ever date a Republican. I simply couldn’t. To me it would mean that some sort of core value somewhere in there isn’t aligning, and I don’t care to wait to see a year down the road where that might come up.

      • detritus says:

        Is that passive aggressive? isn’t it just straight?

        I feel her on this, I would never date someone who voted was socially or fiscally conservative. Because I, quite simply, am not. It does not align with my values or my politics even remotely. You support removing access to health care for lady parts? I support removing your access to my lady parts.

      • QQ says:

        I’m with you Guys that’s not even shade, I don’t think a Republican dude is a Thing I wanna ever do.. I’m pretty sure it was on my Now Defunct OK Cupid profile: If you are Dowdy/super traditional values/religious/or into “Ayn Rand”/Atlas Shrugged (YALL KNOW THOSE GUYS ARE A THING!!!) I’m really not for you, I Promise you ( Plus I answered tons of questions and added Extra explanations so there was no doubt whatsoever where my head/mores tend to go, Makes life easier

    • Kitten says:

      She looks 29.

      • Jess says:

        She really does look like she’s in her 20′s and I thought she was, which doesn’t even logically make sense given her time on Mad Men. She definitely either lucked out or has a secret she won’t tell, baby face!

        I couldn’t tell if her acting was really bad or really good on Mad Men, I think Betty overall was kind of cold and boring, she had that part down. Man I miss that show.

    • paleokifaru says:

      She really does look fantastic. She was not my favorite actress on Mad Men (although I always found her character fascinating, her portrayal seemed just down to luck that JJ’s bad acting didn’t take away from it) but I could never get over how consistently great she looked year after year no matter what styles they threw on her. I would DEFINITELY take her beauty advice, which is probably just to win her genetic lottery.

  7. paleokifaru says:

    I completely get what she’s saying and I felt like that when I was single too – that I liked a lot of my space and time and that to change that meant it was going to have to be a really great relationship and not just a string of dating so-so guys. BUT I will say that having spent a lot of time with single parents and formerly single parents that it can be important to date, or at least have a part of your life that is truly adults only, so that you are not relying on your kid to fill that space for you. That seems to be something that is very easy to fall into and, at least from what I’ve seen in my own life, maybe more so when it’s a single mom with one male child. It just seems like it’s extra hard for some people to not end up treating the kid as their partner instead of treating them like the child being nurtured into adulthood and that world. And that can cause problems for the kid and for the adult.

  8. African Sun says:

    January didn’t seem like she could handle the fame when MM was in its heyday.

    She is still stunning, just can’t click with her personality.

  9. Kitten says:

    I completely get everything she said. When I was single, I never felt lonely or unhappy and I loved every second of it. Now that I’m in a great relationship, I’m also not lonely or unhappy and I love every second of it.

    When I’m not with my guy, I miss him a lot but that doesn’t mean that I suddenly hate my alone time–I enjoy both equally, for different reasons.

    Independent people who enjoy their own company are really lucky like that: we’re happy with/without a partner.

  10. Becks says:

    I love her! And she perfectly described the dating scene here in LA. It’s so hard to find a decent man who actually wants a relationship. I’m 41 and I get a lot of younger dudes because I look so young, but I just can’t relate to them….
    Every one here is on those dating apps and looking for bigger and better, sigh. It’s so exhausting. I have a very full life, but sometimes I wish I had someone to share it with, but I refuse to settle.

    • paleokifaru says:

      That dating app thing really reminds me of Aziz Ansari’s book and stand up about the problems with dating now – that everyone seems to believe it’s just limitless possibilities and there is some kind of upgrade waiting for them. I think it’s made worse with the apps but I also felt like that was a mentality even among people not using those in the last couple decades. It’s such a weird cultural mindset that, I believe, comes off as really juvenile like the jr high/high school mentality of always wanting to be with someone cooler for the optics.

      • Kitten says:

        I agree with your assessment and I suspect that the obsession with upgrading and limitless time thing was precipitated or at least helped along by online dating sites. That being said, I met my guy on Tinder and my BF before him on OKC.

        Online dating sites are great for busy people in their 30s who don’t have time to join a club or local sports league or whatever one does to meet men. It’s hard at this age because many men are married or divorced or divorced with kids, which might not be an issue for many women, but it is for me.

        I love online dating because while I’m 38, I live the lifestyle of someone much younger. I have very few responsibilities compared to most people my age– I don’t have kids, I don’t own a house, I don’t have an ex-husband, etc. Meeting a guy who has the same lifestyle as me was really important and online dating allowed me to “filter out” the ones who didn’t fit.

      • paleokifaru says:

        Did you come across a lot of that upgrade mentality? I’m 34 and was in grad school when the online dating stuff was exploding but also still kind of at the tail end of being people’s dirty little secret that they wouldn’t admit to it being how they met or they’d get defensive. I never did it because although grad school is not the same as college, I still met a fair number of people and they more or less fit with the lifestyle I was living at the time…I just wasn’t that interested in them and didn’t quite have a handle on the lifestyle that I actually wanted! So I maybe should have checked it out to get out of my comfort zone. But I eventually got involved with and married an old friend who no website would have matched me with who was divorced with a kid and a crazy ex! Tinder, etc started up while we were dating and seemed like the ultimate in trying to upgrade.

      • Little Darling says:

        I read about OKC in an article about polyamory, and told my best friend about it, thinking it was free and really seemed to show you people who were VERY local and I liked the question process. She was the ultimate single person who wanted a man SOOOOOOOOO badly and literally tried EVERY single dating site out there, she even had a matchmaker that her father paid for.

        Anyhoo, at the age of 38 she met her guy on OKC and now they’re married and she’s due to give birth any day. Online dating is not anything like it seemed to be years ago, I think it actually works, and it gives you a GREAT headstart in terms of common core values. I liked that for her.

      • Becks says:

        Yes, in theory online dating seems great, however the idea of endless possibilities is also the problem. It’s a double edged sword. People swipe like mad and are always in search of that “perfect” person…..which we all know doesn’t exist, haha. It’s too much, especially here in LA, where it is actually overwhelming.
        I’ve had better luck meeting men when I travel outside of Los Angeles, especially in the PNW.
        I vibe better with dudes who are not in this city. Just my opinion, although some people seem to have had luck with those apps.

      • Kitten says:

        @ paleokifaru, Little Darling, Becks – I can’t say that I personally experienced the upgrade mentality but I absolutely know that it’s there.

        I also have friends-both men and women, but mainly men-who use online dating to keep busy with multiple people, without ever having the intention of investing in a relationship.

        Also, one of the worst issues with online dating is that you could be corresponding with someone for a week or so and really be vibe-ing off of them and then they disappear off the face of the planet, never to be heard from again. Either their profile is deactivated or they simply never respond to your last message (and NO, I refuse to message again after one non-response, I have my pride!).
        So you’re left wondering what happened because things were going so well: did they meet someone else? Are they already in a relationship and trying to get a sidepiece? Did you say something offensive/irritating? At least that was how I felt when I first started online dating but after a few years I just didn’t GAF if people never responded again. I would just shrug and move on to the next dude. Anyway, the online dating forum is really conducive to ghosting because you don’t even know the person and you feel no sense of obligation to them.

        Another hazard of online dating is that it’s easy to get really carried away with the “idea” of someone, which is usually a complete fantasy not even remotely rooted in reality.
        When you meet someone in person you get a sense of what they’re like: their mannerisms, their voice, the way they smell, the way they talk and look at you, etc–all the intangibles that make you like someone (or not).
        Obviously, all those physical elements don’t translate via a few nice snaps and a cute profile write-up.

        Anyway, it’s surprisingly easy (and trust me, I consider myself really grounded when it comes to dating expectations) to go from “wow this guy seems to have potential” to “this could be my next boyfriend!!” just based on cute pics and great email banter. As you can imagine, that can be a perfect set-up to be hugely disappointed if, when you meet in person, there is ZERO chemistry.
        Or the guy has bad breath.
        Or he’s 4 feet tall.
        Or his profile pics are from 15 years ago.
        Or he has an accent that is impossible to understand.
        Or he’s just a huge douchebag in person.
        Or any number of possible deal-breakers.

        That has only ever happened to me with online dating and I notice the same shit with my friends who online-date so I think it’s just due to the fact that it’s easier to create an imaginary relationship with someone who only exists in Interweb Land.

        I resisted Tinder Forever. I swear, I was the last hold-out because I HATE the swipe shit. It’s so freaking superficial plus you can’t really create a profile like you can on OKC and other sites–there’s just no room for it. But I finally caved after my last break-up and I’m so happy I did. The ironic part is I swiped right for my guy because he’s hot (I know I’m a hypocrite) never thinking it would be anything because he’s 30 and frankly, too good-looking (I’m not that secure lol) but I basically hit the lottery with him because we both love weed, beer, politics, traveling and running. Oh, and he’s really cute.

        So here is my advice to anyone thinking of online dating: keep your expectations low, don’t get invested too quickly, keep your options open, be on at least two sites at a time, and don’t get discouraged if you have a few bad dates in a row. At the very least, it makes for funny stories to tell your friends ;)
        And just because you’re online dating doesn’t mean you should give up on the idea of meeting someone *in real life*. Just keep your profile up and log on when you have time, set up a date here and there, but don’t let it consume your life. Don’t manage your online profile with gusto, but rather with a sort of benign neglect lol.

        ETA: sorry for the insanely long post. I guess I have a LOT to say about online dating O_O

      • Wurstbonbon says:

        @kitten: perfect summary of online dating. Once fell madly in love with a guy I met online. Months later we met irl, only to find out that I don’t like him because he’s smaller than me and weighs half my weight and has a terribly girlish voice. He didn’t like me either, because I am of normal shape and he prefered “sporty” girls. c’est la vie. In hindsight I figured that I was actually in love with the idea of someone that never existed because my mind filled the blanks and gaps of what you learn about a person online with what I would have liked best.
        Funny story happened later: some guy wrote me a message on an online dating website and I totally ignored it because his profile was lame and he didn’t meet my expectations. Met the guy by chance in a restaurant half a year later and we immediately fell in love and stayed together for 9 beautiful years. Imagine our surprise when we found out that we already met online and it didn’t spark.

    • Little Darling says:

      @kitten I found it VERY informative for when I’m ready to jump in!! I wish we were penpals so you could coach me through it when it happens!! Haha. Glad you found your weed loving, beer swigging, running man!

      • Becks says:

        Kitten, ugh you’re so right about the ghosting! So annoying, but I do agree with you about having low expectations. That’s the way to go, I figure it’s good to put the energy out to the universe, and just be open to meeting someone….in real life or online.

  11. Michelle says:

    that baby is jason sudeikis’ ! just look at the baby’s face kaiser !!

    • HappyMom says:

      I thought the rumor was Claudia Schiffer’s husband-the director-whose name I am too lazy to google.

  12. Shijel says:

    I’ve followed her on instagram for quite some time now. She’s absolutely hilarious. Really liked reading this interview too.

  13. Katherine says:

    I feel the exact way she describes

  14. notlistening says:

    Well, I think there is something wrong with people who are unhappy alone and are desperate to be in relationship just to be in a relationship. I don´t get why her outlook isn´t the standart, it should be. 

    • Wurstbonbon says:

      You’re right, it should be. I was like that in my 20ies. Now I’m in my 30ies and the world has become a very sad and frightening place and I’m not a fan of being single anymore. I want to have some well shaped male arms that I can wrap myself in at the end of the day and pretend that the outside world doesn’t exist and all that matters is the awesome smell of my sweethearts skin.

  15. Racer says:

    Invasion of the body snatchers. When did JJ become so likable! I’m diggin her. I’m a very proud republican and I thought her comment was hilarious.

  16. Elle R. says:

    On the one hand, I agree with her about being single.

    On the other, she’s in a really unique position as a single mother to be able to afford the support that a second parent would provide (plus, if rumors are true about the father of her kid, she’s probably got a pretty nice cash flow for the next several years even if she doesn’t work). So good for her, but she’s definitely not the norm.

    • Lolamd says:

      Okay am clueless. who is the rumored father?

      • Racer says:

        Jason Sudekis and Bobby Flay seem to be the top contenders.

      • Elle R. says:

        Racer, it’s been a while since I’ve read anything about this, but I thought Claudia Schiffer’s husband, Matthew Vaughn, was considered the most likely contender?
        He directed January in the X-Men and would partially explain how hush-hush the identity of the father has been kept.

        I thought Jason said years ago he wasn’t the father – given they had been dating around the time she got pregnant, I always thought he would have admitted if he were the father.

  17. Anilehcim says:

    I love that January is so vocal about being cool with being single because, frankly, there is WAY too much of a push for people to settle down. There is still such a stigma about women feeling good without being in a relationship. I’m 30 and not even dating anyone and I feel like I’m judged for it constantly. At family functions, my elderly aunts and uncles ask me when I’m going to get a boyfriend or if I have one, and I’ve even been asked, “what’s wrong with you?” I was in a verbally abusive horrific relationship for five years that ended four years ago and I’m just perfectly content by myself right now. Prior to that relationship, I dated casually and had two long term relationships, but I’ve always enjoyed my alone time as well. I have no idea if I’ll ever get married, but I know that I don’t place any kind of pressure on myself to get into a relationship.

    I don’t think that people realize how often people stick with horrible relationships simply because they don’t want to be alone, and this is an unhealthy trend that needs to end, and I really believe with January and people like her talking openly about just being happy solo regardless of what society or others expect, the stigma might finally go away. Whenever someone asks me when I’ll “finally” get another boyfriend, I really just want to tell them when I feel like it, because that’s the honest answer.

    • Elle R. says:

      Amen! I still remember, right after I turned thirty, having someone say to me something about how I wasn’t planning to get married since I was single. I don’t even remember what I said in reply, because i was so shocked. I hadn’t realized there was an age limit on getting married.

      And agreed about the bad relationships. As a society, we really need to change that attitude – along with the enormous amount of pressure put on women. I had a young girl tell me recently that it was almost impossible for women to get pregnant after 35. For all the talk about infertility has been good, I also think it’s created a generation of young women who feel like they need to establish a career, get married, and have kids before they turn 28. Yes, there is a biological clock, but there’s also mental and emotional maturity!

    • scootypuffjr says:

      Ani, I’m with you! I was in a relationship for 9 years, and after it ended I just wanted to focus on myself. I’m 30, single, and very happy that way. I love January’s attitude about it. If someone comes along who’s worth making some room in my life, great. Otherwise, I have a full, fabulous life and I’m not looking for anyone. Some people just can’t wrap their head around the fact that just because someone is walking a different path than them doesn’t make them wrong or weird.

    • GigiC says:

      Are you guys ME? I’m turning 30 this year and I just got out of an 11 year relationship/marriage last year. For a little while, I was kind of lost at what to do because I was used to thinking in terms of two. It was refreshing and kind of bewildering to do whatever I wanted without heeding someone else. But that’s what I wanted, why I chose to be single. I dated other people casually for a few months after (getting spooked when someone tried to mention marriage lol) that then after a while I realized I just liked being alone. I don’t like having to consider anyone else’s opinion when it comes to my decisions. I don’t like anyone influencing my life or having to compromise when I know I really want something/want to do something. I don’t feel lonely, I feel pretty free, yet everyone in my family thinks I’m going to rush into getting married again or they think I’m going to jump into another relationship right away. No one believes that I feel great being solo. If the right person came along, sure, but …I’m not looking for it. I’m just comfortable.

  18. Betsy says:

    Honking for January.

  19. Sam says:

    If i was single i would be fine with it too. Being a parent is frigging exhausting, i can’t imagine dating on top of it.
    Currently in a shitty marriage and trying to figure out if we can fix it or call it a day. We have 2 kids and I know they would be fine if they had good divorced parents, but my husband definitely couldn’t make it amicable. That is one of my main reasons for not pulling the plug right now. He isn’t man enough to be strong for the kids. He would make it a horrible situation that would be even worse then our bland loveless marriage. Sigh.

    • Wurstbonbon says:

      Sam I am so sorry to hear this. What an unfair situation you are in. That sounds like you made up your mind about wanting out. One can only hope that maybe your ex meets somebody at work or at sports or somewhere and gets distracted and wants out on his own and lets you and your kids go without a fight. Wishing you all the luck in the world!

  20. Erica_V says:

    Her face looks different…

    It’s amazing how she’s been able to keep the identity of her child’s father a mystery considering it’s rumored he’s famous.

    I’ve always despised her for the pics of her partially hiding her sh*t eating grin while leaving a club with Miley’s fiance. That was gross.

  21. GigiC says:

    Oh man, I love January. I couldn’t stand her sketchiness a few years back with that wreck and I used to think she was a one-trick Ice Princess pony with her acting …but when she got pregnant with her son, I took actual notice of her. Mostly because it was kind of ~scandalous~ that she never revealed a father (and the guessing game!). but I liked that she made it her decision not to. It was pretty interesting and brave to me that she didn’t care about anyone’s opinion and made it her and her sons business alone. I think it’s bad ass that she chooses to be a single parent. Her interviews, I’ve always rooted for her after that. I think she’s gorgeous and has a unique personality and I think her idgaf attitude is inspiring without being obnoxious.

  22. Amity says:

    The beardy hipster is a cliché.

    Plus, the ONLY thing I hate about being single is the lack of sex. But on the positive side after masturbating I can just roll over and go straight to sleep without having to feign interest in someone I have no further use for.

  23. lostinthought says:

    I think in print lately, she comes off as funny and cool. However, I’ve heard that in real life that January is very icy and mean. She only talks to guys and ignores the other woman at her son’s school. She seems to be always in a married man’s life, ex. Jason Sudeikis, Bobby Flay, and Matthew Vaughn.

  24. jinglebellsmell says:

    I follow her on instagram and she’s actually pretty cool. glad she’s in a good place.

  25. KiddVicious says:

    I always get January Jones and Katherine Heigl mixed up. Took me a couple of years before I realized they weren’t the same person.

  26. Lena horne says:

    I met my hubby at 41. Met him on match.com. he wanted no kids nor I. Best move I have made.

  27. lemonbow says:

    She is a beautiful woman but they did not do her any favors by choosing that cover photo. Worst photo of her I’ve ever seen (and she still looks good). She seems very chill in this interview, kind of girl I’d love to grab a drink with!

  28. Allaiyah Weyn says:

    Get a partner or get married for the benefit of the child. Single parenting just sets your kid up for failure, either socially, romantically, or financially when they become an adult.