Chloe Sevigny: Having babies in your 30s ‘unfortunately ages women’

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Chloe Sevigny is 41 years old. Is it wrong to say that she looks her age? Well, with the certain kind of makeup and styling, I think she could look early to mid-30s. But to me, she looks her age, no shade intended. I like that she’s not Botoxed, filler’d, plucked and tucked into oblivion. She’s always had a quirky, avant-garde style which she doesn’t exactly carry the same way after two decades in the spotlight, so that’s throwing things off too. And I believe she’s probably pretty fun, meaning she’s spent years partying, drinking, smoking and probably not taking great care of herself. I bring all of this up because Chloe has a new interview with W Magazine about beauty, aging, skincare and more. W Magazine says Chloe never ages, and Chloe takes the compliment and runs with it… right over a cliff. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

Why she looks ageless: “I think it’s not having had a baby yet. Because I think the baby wear and tear and stress on your body is part of the reason why people say, “Why do you still look so young?” I really think that that unfortunately ages women, especially when they have children in their 30’s, not in their 20’s. So I think, first and foremost, it’s that and genetics. And then I’m really into all the things they tell you to do, like moisturizing. I go to Dr. Colbert, who is this fancy dermatologist. I haven’t really gone the Botox route yet, but he does lasers and very expensive facials and stuff like that… I do lots of moisturizing, lots of water. I don’t do a lot of caffeine. But once I hit 40, I feel like things are starting to happen now that aren’t very exciting, and I’m starting to get a little scared.”

Whether she’ll get proactive about anti-aging: “I don’t know that I’m more proactive. I mean, what do you do? Do you let it happen? Or do you start the preventive measures? It’s kind of terrifying. The under-the-eye thing, there really isn’t much to do for that. I also always slept on my side, and now I’m trying to train myself to sleep on my back for these lines [she gestures at her face] and these lines [neck and décolleté]. And with the pillow height, so it’s more with those kinds of things. I mean you’re in bed for what, seven or eight hours a night. That’s a long time! So I’m trying to shift things like that, which are difficult. But it’s hard after 40. Everyone says that once you hit 40. I mean not only that, it’s sort of different things, like the knees.

Her knees: “I mean I was asking Dr. Colbert, “What can you do? I heard Demi Moore had some sort of knee thing.” And he said, “Oh, don’t be crazy Chloë.” But I’m kind of known for my legs. So it’s kind of a terrifying time, but instead of being scared I’m just trying to enjoy it. Because I have lots of friends in their 50s and they say, “If you’re like that, it’s only going to get worse.” So just being confident in your 40s. It’s a big mental thing.”

Whether she would go back to having bangs: “I have. I mean, I’ve had so many hairdos over the years—some good, some bad, some wild, some whatever, some recovering from parts. I don’t think I’m a bangs person. I have to say, I did the show Hit & Miss and I had black hair in it. Going back to blonde was like so hard. We did a bang and this Louise Brooks bob, and all of a sudden all of my outfits looked so great. I feel like when you have a real haircut—especially being a blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl with my texture—I could wear almost anything and it would look cool. But I’m trying to go for something softer now.”

[From W Magazine]

She also goes on at length about perfume, why red carpets suck these days (the photographers are too close & high-def cameras), why sitting in hair & makeup is demoralizing and how she’s still trying to get the perfect ashy blonde. It was actually a really enjoyable (if superficial) read. As for Chloe’s opinion that pregnancy in one’s 30s is why women don’t age well… I always thought that the pregnancy and post-partum hormones made women look better, regardless of age? And I feel like Chloe isn’t aging any better or worse than her contemporaries who have had children. If anything, Chloe just has more time to obsess about her looks… and how she’s known for her legs? Is she really known for her legs?

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  1. BooBooLaRue says:

    so dearie, what’s your excuse?

  2. truthSF says:

    I really wish I can respond with a Prince side eye gif on the baby aging mess, because…bitch please! And baby or not, this chic has always looked 10 years older than her age.

  3. Lora says:

    She shouldn’t talk

  4. meme says:

    she’s known for her legs? really? she sounds like an idiot.

    • Marny says:

      I’ve never known her to be known for her legs BUT…she actually does have great legs!! I’ve noticed that before when I’ve seen pictures of her that show her legs. I’ve always thought she had great hair and legs and I guess she agrees :)

    • Moneypenny says:

      She’s not known for her legs, she’s known for giving a real BJ in that Brown Bunny movie, if we’re being honest.

    • teacakes says:

      Vogue knows her for her legs, so it’s a fair enough statement.

      The amount of outrage -usually from sanctimommies – literally every time a female celeb says they’re better off without kids/have no interest in having kids, is mildly terrifying. It’s all too easy to see how childless women are demonised, whether they’re famous or not.

      • Kate says:

        That is true. Choosing to having children is a personal choice and more people could stand to be a bit more pragmatic in their approach to family planning. i don’t have them. I love other people’s children; I just don’t want any of my own.

      • BFDL says:

        No one cares about childless women. They’re way more invested in their paranoia about mothers caring about or even noticing them.

      • WTW says:

        @BFDL Sorry, but they certainly do. I’ve had strangers get on my case for not having children multiple times. People may not care so much if you’re single and childless/child-free, but if you’re married, they see it as your God-given duty and give you judgy looks and lectures to let you know that you should be procreating. I actually do want children, but my husband and I both have fertility issues. That said, I don’t go around telling strangers and acquaintances about my fertility problems, so I usually bear the ignorance of people I don’t know well in silence.
        Anyway, I think what Chloe is inarticulately saying is that the body bounces back more quickly from childbearing in one’s 20s than in one’s 30s. Since that’s true for a number of things–babies or not–I tend to believer her. And I do think she looks great for her age, and I’m a couple of years younger.

  5. Dee says:

    Ageless my ass. I thought she was 45.

    • Scotchy says:

      I ran into her in a grocery store near my place in LA and let me just say.. she is delusional if she thinks she is aging well. .

    • isabelle says:

      To be fair she has always looked older for her age when she was 25, thought she was in her 40s.

      • tealily says:

        I was going to say the same. She looks the same to me, really, but she always looked older when she was young.

  6. Oh shut up, you mad cow. Growing old is a luxury that so many people don’t get to experience because they die so early. Ageing is natural, embrace it. On another note, Women look more pretty to me after giving birth.

    • anna says:

      harsh. mad cow? what did she do to you?

      • Oh, forgive me for the harsh language, if it offended you. But really, i hate anti-aging comments these so called celebs make.

      • anna says:

        i’m not offended. i like chloe and i don’t see how she deserves so much negativity. she’s not working in the grocery store, she’s an actress. her looks are very important for her livelihood.

      • Naya says:

        Well she sounds incredibly deluded in this piece. She isnt just ruminating over her looks in a way that would get any other celebrity laughed at (Aniston?). She is giving herself points that nobody thinks she deserves. “I am known for my legs”, really Chloe? Where, in the chicken leg pageant circuit?

      • Elisha says:

        Ummmmm, I dunno, implying she looks better than every woman having babies in their 30s?

      • anna says:

        that’s not what she said.
        man, chloe really hit a nerve it seems.

      • BFDL says:

        @Anna Is that so? Where have her looks gotten her so far?

      • anna says:

        @BFDL glad you ask. take a look at her filmography, it’s rather extensive: http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001721/

    • Locke Lamora says:

      I find it refreshing when actresses talk about growing old in way that seems honest, and not in a “I’m over the moon, never felt better” way like Gwyneth does.

      • ab says:

        same here. I kind of like that chloe’s not playing the “aging is the best ever!” game. I’m sure a lot of actors are just as neurotic about it behind the scenes.

      • littlemissnaughty says:

        Yep. She sounds like she’s talking to another woman over drinks. I like it. It’s definitely better than listening to a wax face talk about how everything is real and they drink lots of water. Please.

        Also, she compliments herself and bam, this whole thread is full of “You look old.” comments. Jesus.

      • Antigone says:

        I can understand why people would be annoyed by her comments but I like the fact that she’s honest. Of course she’s vain-how could you not be if you’re an actress! The comment about looking younger because she doesn’t have kids comes across as being kind of obnoxious but I like that she seems to be giving her true response to the questions rather than the usual aging is great/I drink lots of water routine.

    • Bettyrose says:

      Nullius, ITA! Aging is not a punishment. It’s great being smarter, more confident, etc, and true one starts to look good “for their age” but so what? The people whose company I enjoy most are my age and older.

  7. anna says:

    it might not always be like that, but i have to say, in my circle of friends you can tell who has a kid and who doesn’t. raising children without a nanny means a couple of years of sleep deprivation. of course that ages you.

    • HeidiM says:

      ^^Truth!

    • Elisa the I. says:

      yep, same here!

    • Anguishedcorn says:

      Definitely.

    • Chicken says:

      I was scrolling through Facebook the other day and a girl who I was in a sorority with popped up, and I hardly recognized her, which isn’t an experience that happens a lot with people I went to college with (we’re not babies but we’re still relatively young). Then I looked at the whole post, and she already has four kids at a fairly young age. She was still pretty and smiling and all that, but she looked so, so tired. Having that many children is just a huge responsibility, of course it would exhaust you from time to time.

    • whynot says:

      I totally agree. You look great while pregnant (skin and hair) but after the kid comes, I think it’s mainly the lack of sleep that takes its’ toll on your looks. I had my child at 39 but before that people would be shocked and think I was in my twenties. I’d tell them it’s because I can sleep all I want! You also have more time to work out and take care of your own needs when you have no children.

      By 41 years old my body bounced back and I was looking just as good as in my twenties (or better) but I know people in their twenties whose bodies have been pretty ravaged by the pregnancy (extensive stretch marks all across their stomach that will never go away, etc.). I think it’s just genetics as opposed to age. The boobs though? Never as perky!

    • isabelle says:

      It is true partially and will happen if the mom doesn’t take care of herself. Having children does bring a lot of changes to the body. The boobs aren’t where they were and that flat stomach is hard to get back. Add on the lack of sleep, stress of raising children, not having time to take of yourself, etc…. BUT and here is the big but….bad habits in general are aging. Smoking, not sleeping, drinking (yes even small amounts), drug usage, not using SPF, not eating healthy, too much sun, are the real agers. Some mothers take better care of themselves than 20 year olds constantly eating junk food. So it really depends on if the woman is taking time out to take care of herself and unfortunately many mothers don’t have the time until the children are older.

    • Carol says:

      Amen

    • msd says:

      The women I know who’ve had kids all look older than the ones who haven’t. Lack of sleep and stress does that. It’s hardly news. She didn’t say don’t have kids because you’ll look old so I don’t know why people are getting so upset.

    • Jenny says:

      It’s not always like that, I actually look younger now after having had three kids in my thirties than I did in my twenties. People always think I’m a “young mom” which is a little insulting, since people are so rude to “young moms” here in Sweden and assume they are incompetent. I don’t know why I look younger than I am at forty because there has been a lot of sleep deprivation, but I am lucky that my husband has always taken more than his fair share of the sleepless nights. So maybe that’s why or maybe it’s because I carry a few extra pounds now and they act as great filler for my wrinkles… :-D

    • BFDL says:

      @Anna How can you tell who has kids outside of your circle? Is it when they go home to an actual family versus spending their time on mindless Tinder dates?

  8. hplupoi says:

    I had a baby at 33 and I think it aged me. BUT I think it’s a combination of not sleeping, new worries, and the general aging process. I think it’s less to do with pregnancy than with caring for the baby/kids.

    • Embee says:

      Agreed. I had mine at almost 35 and had already observed in my contemporaries a tiredness around the eyes of those with young children. Interesting, I see women in their mid-40′s looking younger than their thirties’ selves as the children get older and require less intensive hands-on care. I’m now 41 and can see myself pulling out of exhaustion-face.

      • Lucinda says:

        Yes! I look way better at 44 than I did at 34 because my kids are teens now and take a lot less work. I get a full night’s sleep every night and that makes a huge difference. As for Chloe–she’s kind of full of it. But whatever.

    • India Rose says:

      Chloe’s statement makes me crazy.

      I get that she’s in an appearance-based industry. But at what point are you sacrificing a good quality of life for a few more years without wrinkles? Don’t have babies in your 30s, don’t sleep on your side in your 40s, Kim K says don’t smile to avoid laugh lines around your face. Jesus.

      When can women just be human beings living their lives without worrying whether the things that bring them joy (and I mean healthy joy – not smoking, but smiling) are going to mark their bodies in an unflattering way? Mark their bodies as unf*ckable by Hollywood standards.

      I’d rather follow the advice of Rosalind Russell in Autie Mame, a grand dame who said, “Life is a banquet and most poor fools are starving to death, so live, live, live!”

      We treat aging like it’s a disease. Like you’ve done something wrong by surviving this long. I try to see it as a gift. Another year to create and experience life and joy and love. That’s not easy in this culture and dumb statements like “don’t smile, don’t sleep on your side” aren’t helping.

      (Side note: She says, “I feel like when you have a real haircut—especially being a blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl with my texture—I could wear almost anything and it would look cool.” Strikes me as racially tone-deaf. Really unnecessary statement.)

    • Tris says:

      I’d rather have my baby (born when I was 38) and my wrinkles than be considering plastic surgery on my KNEES! Ridiculous on so many counts – shameless vanity, dangerous medical procedure, and unnecessary expense.

    • whynot says:

      Exactly

  9. JenniferJustice says:

    I can’t tell her to sit down and shut up becuase she was asked these questions, but my God! The way some of these people think – “….I could wear anything and look cool.” Really. And yeah, the legs – never ever have I heard anybody make a comment about her legs one way or the other. Sorry for the sensitive ones, but Chloe Sevigny is seriously one of the homeliest actresses in this country. I guess spoiling parents and sychophants can convince even the plainest of people beleive they’re hot. Maybe it was the drugs.

    Probably doens’t even need to be said, but of course the having babies in your 30s leading to early aging is just assenine. Where do they get such false information?

    • Denise says:

      Maybe it’s her way of feeling better about being 41 and childless. Not that it’s necessarily an issue for her, but at 41 you know people are wondering.

    • Timbuktu says:

      I have to agree: she’s such an average-leaning-towards-unattractive woman to me. Also is she that successful as an actress? I literally learned her name here and can’t think of any movies with her except a couple of episodes of Mindy.

    • caitlinK says:

      Completely agree! What mirror is she using, in which her reflection is so flatteringly revised? I just love her oblivion: due to her blonde hair and blue eyes, she can wear “almost anything and look cool.” WTF? She really is an unattractive woman–not that I’d ever really thought much of it before I read of her singing her own praises.

  10. Lilacflowers says:

    Chloe, Nicki from Big Love, has legs?

  11. InvaderTak says:

    Well, I feel more enlightened I must say. /massive sarcasm

  12. Locke Lamora says:

    I thought she was younger than 41. She does look good, but I don’t know if it’s the fundation or something, but she always looks a bit blotchy in the face.

    • Kitten says:

      I think she looks younger too.

    • Ash says:

      Sometimes she looks young, but I think that’s more because of the makeup. I think her skin’s always been a bit uneven looking.

    • Chicken says:

      I also thought she was younger.

      • ann says:

        I think it’s because she looks the same as she did when she was 15.
        She has always had an older looking face.
        She has always looked older than her age and now she finally looks her age. 40 something. I guess that gives her the impression that she looks younger.

    • Carol says:

      I thought she was younger too but with an older looking face if that makes sense. I found the interview a bit funny. I kind of took her baby comment to mean that when you have a toddler and no nanny, you do lose sleep and that can wreck havoc on a face. I mean its a stupid comment, it made me laugh, but it might have some merit. But anything that makes you lose sleep, like insomnia, is bad news for your face.

    • paranormalgirl says:

      I always thought she was older than she is. My bad.

    • isabelle says:

      She looks exactly the same. She has always looked the same, her 41 year old face was her 25 year old face. When she was in her 20s thought she was older and now she just looks her age and think she has really hasn’t aged because she looked older even in her teens.

  13. lila says:

    Not getting enough sleep is what ages people. Lifestyle ages people. Looking young is a matter of being well-rested and collagen. I believe the old saying that at a certain point, a woman has to choose between her face and her butt. You can either be thin or pretty. Because you need extra fat to soften your features. Chloe I suppose looks good for her age… but her face is going to start looking really haggard soon. She already has a thinner sort of face but she keeps herself so thin that it’s really going to age her, kids or not. And I think a softer hairstyle would help. The slicked-back look is very severe.

  14. Squiggisbig says:

    Jane Fonda has had kids and looks like Chloe’s slightly older sister….

    • Nic919 says:

      Jane Fonda has had tons of plastic surgery. Women in their 70s who age naturally do not look like her.
      Everyone ages, babies or not. I think it isn’t so much the pregnancy that ages women but the lack of sleep if they don’t have help. And then the stress of raising kids.

    • tealily says:

      Jane Fonda does NOT look like she’s in her 40s. She’s thin, but you must be squinting pretty hard.

  15. NotSoSocialButterfly says:

    (Insert epic eye roll here)

    Also- her nose looks quite bigger than I recalled it to be.

  16. TrixC says:

    Well, judging by her comments, NOT having a baby makes you vain, vapid, and neurotic. I think I’d rather have a few wrinkles.

    • India Rose says:

      Boom! Yes! I know sleep-deprivation affected my appearance when I adopted and gave birth in my 30s. But I wouldn’t dream of trading the loves of my life for the smoothest skin, younger knees, and no laugh lines.

      I want to laugh! I want to love my children! I want to be proud of the lines on my face that show I’ve been through some difficult sh*t and came out the other side.

      And if I’d had my kids when I was in my 20s, I’d have screwed them up even more than I did with a little more experience (and therapy) under my belt. Some people are able to parent fabulously in their 20s. I would not have been one of them.

      • Kasia says:

        This! I’m 30 and newly pregnant with my first child. Her comments seem rude and disrespectful. And actually unfounded. I know women with children who look spectacular, because they took good care of themselves during and after pregnancy, and l know childless women who aged really badly. In any event I am told that having children is the greatest source of happiness in life, so even if I get wrinkled and saggy, it doesn’t really matter that much compared to what I receive in return.

      • qwerty says:

        Studies actually say that parents are less happy than the child-free. But I don’t doubt you were told otherwise by other parents.

      • India Rose says:

        Feminism is about choice. No shade intended toward women who choose not to have children, unless it’s because it might change the look of their bodies. I have loved ones who have chosen not to have kids and loved ones who desperately want to, but are dealing with infertility.

        I’m referring to women denying themselves something to preserve a “youthful” appearance (not smiling in photos, not having kids if you want them, not sleeping on your side – which is her weirdest suggestion and she says is really difficult to do, but she doesn’t want wrinkly decolletage).

        The emphasis on youthfulness at all costs grosses me out. Women should make choices based on what THEY truly want, not on Hollywood’s skewed definition of f*ckability.

    • paranormalgirl says:

      I had my spawn at 35 and 36. But I had a nanny for some of that time. I think I look damned good for 52. And I wouldn’t trade them for anything, not even perfectly smooth skin.

  17. Jenns says:

    Man. These comments are brutal, lol.

    I think she looks good for her age. If my skin and body look like that at 41, I’ll be happy.

  18. MoochieMom says:

    I cannot contain my laughter at just the headline. I had my little Moochie (named because my OB told me babies mooch off of you and your body gives to them first) at 34 because we just were not ready for kids until then. 38 now and I still have people tell me all the time, when they find out my real age, that they thought I was late 20′s/early 30′s.

    • swak says:

      I’m in my early 60′s, have had 3 children and everyone is amazed at my age. It’s a combination of many things that age you. Genetics is a big factor!

      • Mumzy says:

        +1 on genetics vote! Genetics and lifestyle. But let’s face it —— time. Aging happens just like the tides. If you are alive you are aging. You can sandbag like mad, but the tides are going to leave their mark. That’s how it is *supposed* to work. I don’t want to sandbag so much I obstruct my view. I want to fully experience the scary, crazy beauty that comes with nature’s wild show.

        Bring on the wrinkles from laughing at my kids’ crazy jokes. Cheers for my arms that have a bit of flap from pregnancy weight gains (excessive). My unenchanced, sagging, and slightly different-sized breasts stood ready to feed my 3 children. I’m grateful that they’re cancer-free and I have money to buy lovely and supportive bras that cradle these sagging but healthy miracles. My body works, mostly pain-free, and helps me do what I set out to do every day–live a full life that includes lifting, moving, smiling, hugging, canoodling, reading, listening, thinking, and hopefully brightening someone else’s day.

        And that said, I’m also thankful that my income isn’t tied to our culture’s ideal of physical perfection–which for some, might be possible, but only for a nano-second before the relentless sandbagging begins.

      • swak says:

        @Mumzy – Totally agree! Well said!

      • Hadleyb says:

        I love these internet comments — all the celebs look old AF but … everyone here looks YEARS younger. lol

        Oh God, internet never change. Never change.

        Stress ages you, so yes kids do age you. So will other forms of stress be it career with no kids, depression, other mental illness, other illnesses.. I could go on.

        And I have noticed in real life and on the web that people tend to think they look much younger than they actually do.

      • isabelle says:

        eh…they’ve done twin studies on aging and some twins age faster than the other twin. If it was mostly genetics they were similar but they don’t. Hugely based on habits, SPF and their environment. While Genetics is important a small bit , taking care of yourself is also very important. Honestly think we want to think its genetics because it can free us from taking care of ourselves and as women we often don’t make time or the space to do it. hahaha at the comment above so true. Most people think they look younger and not their age because their friends tell them or whoever. People lie to us all the time and dole out BS. Most of us look our age, a lot older, a FEW younger.

      • BFDL says:

        @HadleyB Chloe’s entire statement was an Internet comment because she doesn’t look extremely young, she can’t pass for 10 years younger and she too is someone who thinks she does and can.

        Defend Selena Gomez, defend Kerry Washington, defend Naomi, because they actually do look younger than their age. This chick? No. And then she has the audacity to brag about it.

        But I guess I’ll let her pretend she doesn’t see that elephant in the corner of the room.

    • MoochieMom says:

      Yeah well, life dealt me a big whomp of stress and shit and I still look good. Nothing done (I am WAY WAY WAY too scared) and all me. I rarely wear makeup and don’t GAF.

  19. Original Kay says:

    Love her in Bloodline. She is one of the best characters. Plus she does have great legs 😀

    • anna says:

      yay, bloodline! i’m deep into the 2nd season and always so happy when the credits in the beginning show that she’ll be in the episode.

  20. Aziraphale says:

    The number one thing that aged me when I had my boy at 27: less sleep. Suddenly there were bags and wrinkles where none had appeared. And now pregnant with #2 at 31, my skin isn’t nearly as resilient as it was before.

    So while she may be vapid and shallow, I think she’s right that kiddos can age a woman. But it isn’t necessarily the kids themselves, it’s the change in lifestyle that they create.

  21. Odesa says:

    I mean, she’s friends with uncle terry so that says it all for me. If she has any friends with children I feel very sorry for them. We all have this kind of person in our lives…

    • BFDL says:

      Friends with Terry huh? Well maybe her decision not to have children is a quiet blessing.

  22. Yup, Me says:

    Eh- I don’t think she’s wrong. Pregnancy can be a really beautiful time since all that extra blood can make a woman look “radiant” and glowing. Taking care of kids (especially in our current hyperfocused mommy wars era) is hard on the body and the system. Also, for women who are doing it the first time in their 30s, the transition can be hard. Plus, some of the mommy-of-a-little-one habits contribute to loss of sleep, not always eating well, extended breastfeeding, not necessarily getting to the gym- LOST BATHS and can have a negative impact on appearance. I had my first at 30 and I looked terrible and haggard for quite a while afterward. Plus I was in love with my new baby- he didn’t care if my hair or makeup were done so I didn’t, for the most part.

    However, miss super pale and blond (and looking every one of her years) isn’t surrounded by regular mommies so I’m not sure that her polling group is an accurate reflection of reality. I think it’s more likely that she’s surrounded by sycophants who tell her she looks great when she looks like what she is- an aging fair skinned woman who has been wearing ugly clothes for 20+ years and calling it style.

    • swak says:

      I guess I was lucky because I never felt sleep deprived and got enough sleep. But my babies slept 4-5 hours at a time when they came home from the hospital and slept through the night by 3 months. They napped 2 times a day also. My girls were great sleepers. They get that from their mom – I would sleep through their crying and my ex had to wake me up to feed them (I breast fed). First three months they slept in a port-a-crib next to the bed and I still didn’t hear them.

    • dana says:

      Its a massive generalization. Yes some women can look haggard by kids. And some don’t. And some childless 30yo’s can party too much and look haggard too soon too. Catherine Zeta Jones looked like a 30+ yo until she was late 40s. Each is one. Jada Pinkett doesn’t look less refreshed and Winona Ryder lets say looks every bit of her age as well as Chloe. I like Chloe but she doesn’t look young for her age. She dresses younger than her age. Big difference. And never has anyone known Chloe for her legs. She’s acting and sounding like loopy Michelle Rodriguez. Don’t have kids if you like but don’t make things up.

  23. Bettyrose says:

    Women without children, myself included, shouldn’t comment on such things. Does she looks 41? Being 41 also, I can’t tell.

    • Kitten says:

      Yeah, you’re right.
      It’s like no matter what, you just sound like an ahole.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        Lol, I agree. I thought it was a really sad statement about kids. Presumably, people have kids because they want them, and aren’t worrying about their bodies (yet)……..but to say “omfg, having kids ruins your body!” like that’s the most important thing in life is kinda tone deaf, imo. I think it’s sad when people feel that way.

      • qwerty says:

        Well it isn’t until yours is ruined and then it kinda is. Go to “Shape of a mother” and read the stories. Soo many women in their 20-30 who intend to be celibate for the rest of their lives after what pregnancy did to their bodies…. Of course your body is not EVERYTHING but it’s not exactly nothing either.

    • India Rose says:

      High five to being 41!

      High five, BettyRose!

  24. Gaby says:

    I wouldn’t think she’s 41 but because of the way she talks, she sounds so immature, early 20s at least. Not enjoyable at all.

    • MoochieMom says:

      She sounds like an old maid. Are you pissed you don’t have kids? Are you not up on surrogates and picking genders? Hell, I am and I am a middle class person who isn’t into one more Mooch running around this place!

  25. Angelica says:

    There’s no formula for how one ages. Some women chase their babies for 10 hours a day, everyday, barely care for themselves like they should and take micro naps for years and still look young. Others have one baby who sleeps through the night soon after, but BAM, age 10 years in the face. There’s just no way to pin a single culprit on aging.

  26. burnsie says:

    OMG she’s absolutely insufferable here

  27. siri says:

    I don’t know if she’s ‘known for her legs’, but she certainly won’t be known for her intelligence. I actually always thought she looks older than her years, and this drivel could almost make me want to get pregnant;-)

  28. Andrea says:

    I think she’s right. Most woman i know have said that having a baby mid thirties was more difficult then when they were in their twenties. Body just wasn’t the same. But i think genetics have a roll in that as well. My doctor has said the same thing. I don’t think this new information.

  29. SusanneToo says:

    Sorry for piling on, but why is she considered a fashionista? Same question re Diane Kruger.

  30. Gatita says:

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with what she said. The older you are when you have children the harder it is to bounce back and the bigger toll it takes on your body. I had my first kid at 41 and hell yeah it aged me, especially because my stomach never came back after being stretched out. I was in great shape pre-pregnancy and never got back to that again. OTOH, now that I’ve hit 50 I’ve stopped obsessing over every line and what my body looks like. I do color my hair but otherwise I’m rolling with it. I have a fat butt and soft stomach but I also have a wonderful husband and kid and career so screw it. I’m definitely much happier than when I was in my mid-30s and had a fantastic body but was so insecure I couldn’t enjoy it.

  31. sherry says:

    Major eye-roll on the baby thing. My mother always said it’s good genes and how you live your life. I had my three kids at 34, 39 and 41. I’m 53 now. A couple of years ago I was talking to another mom at church who was 33. My youngest was in Sunday School with her child. She said she wanted more kids but was worried about having them after 33. I said, “I had my youngest at 41 with no problems.” The look of shock on her face was priceless. She said, “No! Seriously? I thought you were my age! There’s no way!”

    Last year I was shopping with my 18 year old daughter and started talking to another mom in H&M who was waiting for her teenage son to try on clothes while I waited for my daughter. When I mentioned how old my daughter was, I got the shocked look with the comment, “You don’t look old enough to have an 18 year old daughter! What’s your secret?”

    Good genes and clean living. I like Jamie Lee Curtis’ take on aging. Be grateful you’re around long enough to get the wrinkles and the “weird knees.” Many people are not that fortunate.

  32. QQ says:

    Enact gifs. Cause this chick needs em all!!! And several of all the chairs💺💺💺💺💺 she looks every single bit her age! Every single Bit and then some

  33. Joannie says:

    Do horses age in the face? K. I know I’m mean but I didn’t sleep last night.

  34. Snazzy says:

    The only thing she’s known for is being pretentious and annoying. Pffft

  35. Pepper says:

    For every woman who looks radiant and glowy post pregnancy there’s like 10 who are dealing with their hair falling out and their teeth going to hell and their skin going nuts on them. Pregnancy and post pregnancy hormones just mess most people up.

    • Lisa says:

      it’s like during pregnancy they get a boost but after all their good hormones have gone!

  36. teacakes says:

    …. so, a celeb who’s actually not toeing the ‘ageing in Hollywood is the best ever’ line is going to get torn to shreds for it, is it?

    And yes, from what I’ve seen, 30something new mothers do tend to look a few years older out of sheer exhaustion. Which is fine for us mortals, but do we seriously expect an actress to be thrilled about it?

    Also, Chloe’s been photographed on the red carpet in a ton of minidresses over the years – usually accompanied by a blurb on how great her legs are. So yeah, showing her legs really was her ‘thing’.

    • Johanna says:

      Agree! I appricate her honesty too. She actually talks about her obsessions with ageing in a way that’s quite unusual for celebrities in their 40′s. I mean women like Jennifer Aniston and Gwyneth Paltrow obviously spends a huge amount of time and money obsessing about ageing, but they like to pretend to be relaxed about it and wanting to age “naturally”. That irks me.

    • tealily says:

      I’m with you, I think she’s just being honest about what she feels. She sounds awfully vain, but who can blame her? We’re all vain to some extent, and her job depends largely on her looks.

  37. Youhatekids says:

    She’s an idiot.

    Granted, I’m a new mom- but i look the same as I did last year (baby is 1 years old).

    Also J.Lo had twins and looks young enough to be this ones daughter! (Maybe I exaggerate, but you get my drift)

    • SM says:

      She is an idiot. And I bet she thinks she is a feminist choosing not to have kids but that shading of and shaming of women who have kids like somehow that is how they loose their looks and appeal is such bullshit and is rather unsupportive of women like us who have kids and a carrier and want to look our best.

  38. Fire Rabbit says:

    Poor Chloe. I feel sorry for her. She’s getting old no matter what, kids or no, and she’s not ready. At all. Glad I have more in my head and heart, my health, experience and perspective, and most importantly, my children, to get me through. I’ve lost more sleep to terrible bosses, career worries and my husband’s health crisis than I ever did due to my kids.

    • Kasia says:

      +1 . I can’t believe that having children is worse than working in a demanding environment such as large law firm. I remember weeks when I used to finish work at 4 am, have four or five hours of sleep and then return to my office. Add alcohol to relieve the stress, no exercising and constant stress. I just can’t believe that raising your own child is worse. No way.

  39. tiny martian says:

    Sigh. Just for once, I would dearly love to have an actress laugh off questions like “How to you look so ageless?”, instead of vainly accepting the question as though it were a known fact. Chloe’s not ageless, she looks her age. And that is just fine.

  40. megs283 says:

    ugh. Yes, having a child “ages” you – but so does losing a partner or child, experiencing other grief, starting a new business, traveling a lot, you know – LIFE!

    We are SUPPOSED to age!!

    • justme says:

      megs283 says “We are SUPPOSED to age!!”

      Those are the best lines ever written on the subject. :)

      Oh and she is very good in “Love & Friendship” btw – as is the whole cast. Tom Bennett however steals every scene he is in – very funny!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Right. Here’s another thing that ages you. Age. Honestly, most of my friends had children in their late twenties and early thirties, and some of them look older than their age and some look younger. I’m not sure it’s that simple.

    • Betsy says:

      You are correct.

      Also, pregnancy makes me look like poo for most of the time. Red blotches, dark circles get darker (darker yet if it’s a vomiting pregnancy), freckles and excess pigmentation… It is a magical, horrible time. :)

  41. Looty says:

    I’ve never liked her much, but somehow these remarks just sound honest, warts and all. I think she’s clutching at straws the way you do (or at least the way I did) when it finally hits that aging is happening to YOU. I had a baby late thirties, the pregnancy made me look great, but as others point out the stress later can cancel out the beautiful harmone boost.

    • Jayna says:

      I agree. I didn’t mind her interview. I know everyone is supposed to be happee happee with their changing bodies and looks as they hit their 40s or 50s and no obsessing or trying the newest facial or anti-aging technique, etc, but — well, good for them. I have amazing looking friends, in shape, and most with great careers and great lives and on the go, but we all have our moments about the superficial things in life, our looks. LOL. Thank God, none of us judge each other when we have those moments.

      And she does have nice legs: small ankles, shapely calves, nice knees, etc. She’s probably always been told that was her best feature and played it up, so hitting 40 got a little neurotic about her legs.

      https://rileycantina.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/6a00c2252702408e1d0109d06efbff000e.jpg

  42. lizzie says:

    lets be real. she’s known for giving vincent gallo a BJ.

  43. Ceeley says:

    Not only is she completely right – its the sleepless nights and worry, but mothers have actually passive aggressively shaded my slightly younger looks by constantly pointing out I couldn’t have kids.

    Childless women always get it in the neck – from Men, from mothers – its none stop.

    • celine says:

      I completely agree with you.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      It gets better when you get older, Ceeley, if for no other reason than people just aren’t as focused on kids kids kids. Hang in there.

  44. SM says:

    Mommy shaming is bad but what she says is not any better. I’m sorry

  45. celine says:

    Sorry, but I kind of agree with her regarding her comment about aging and kids. I’m not going to say everyone, but having children is stressful and your body is almost never the same once you’ve had a child. Celebrities of course, have the luxury of having crazy money to spend on lipo, tummy tucks, laser treatments and nannies, which the rest of us don’t have.

  46. Thais says:

    What a depressing interview. I can’t imagine living a life in which I worried about sleeping on my side because it might give me some wrinkles.

  47. Jessie Mendoza says:

    My baby at 28 aged me, but it went away when I started getting sleep again.

    My mom had all THREE of her kids in her 30s and perpetually looks 20 years younger than all her peers, so I’m going to go ahead and tell Chloe to STFU and leave poor moms alone. We get enough judgement as it is without some non-mom deciding that she knows our genetics.

  48. poppy says:

    she has mentioned many times throughout her career her face isn’t all that (and was told so) and because she knew it wasn’t her best feature she played up what she felt was (legs). that’s why she’s still on it -as she hasn’t shaved her nose down and her legs are still nice.

    she’s as insecure as any other actress but has always played her indie card so hard it is laughable. she always had cred back in the day but still needed to tell the world all about it. chronically -even though there wasn’t a need to because everything indie embraced her, despite her super wasp connecticut upbringing. so thirsty despite drowning in it. she’s always been the east village goop.

    if you have to constantly tell everyone you’re cool (or whatever) you’re trying. too. hard.
    as with her having kids comment. sounds very insecure, like she has to tell herself she got the good end of the deal (looking well rested) while secretly feeling like she missed out (having all the love and a sense of purpose, etc something deeper than her appearance).

    • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

      I think she’s a horrid actress. Everything I’ve seen her in she was either meh, or OTT. I feel like she’s one of those actresses that we’re supposed to take seriously and think is uber talented, because she’s not mainstream attractive/blonde barbie and does small films.

    • Quinn says:

      Yes Poppy!!! You couldn’t have been more unequivocally on point. her whole existence/image (naturally, by her values, being one and the same) This clown comes off mad corny, super contrived, and irrelevant.

  49. Kyra says:

    “I’M KIND OF KNOWN FOR MY LEGS”???
    Uh….really?

    • Fiorella says:

      Never heard that either. Maybe she just mess with her friends or the fashion world

  50. Kelly says:

    she looks younger than 41 so whatever she is doing, it works

  51. Celebwatch says:

    Becoming a mom ages most women, but not becoming a mom also ages most women in that it brings menopause on earlier than it would appear otherwise. Ultimately fertility is linked to youthfulness.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Um, I was infertile and I went into menopause at 58, which is very late. I also look very young for my age. You don’t have the slightest idea what you’re talking about, do you? Fertility is linked to youthfulness? Yeah, look how young the Duggar mom looks – 19 children and she looks like a 12 year old. Please.

      • Saraya says:

        “I also look very young for my age.”

        You have something in common with EVERY… SINGLE… OTHER… PERSON… ON… CELEBITCHY. ;)

        Hopefully, Celebitchers will someday reveal to the rest of the world the location of that fountain o’ youth.

      • Betsy says:

        @ Sarata – if I look younger than my age, it’s only because my pudge is artificially filling in the wrinkles. ;)

    • isabelle says:

      Curious as to where did you got that info?…because its wrong. Menopause is usually set for you when you’re born. Unless, you have an illness or need reproductive surgery, it usually follows a time set from very early on. You have all of your eggs the day you are born and you will usually follow the time frame of the women on your moms side of the family. Your mom/grandmother/sisters are the best indicators of when you will go through it. Very inaccurate information about it about it arriving earlier if you haven’t had children. My co-worker has 3 kids, started going through it in her late 30s. As well as her sisters and mother. Also high fertility declines after age 25. So its about 10 years at the most. If you aren’t a teen or in very early 20s congrats you’re just as haggard as the rest of us by your theory.

  52. Delta Juliet says:

    I thin the reason she looks like she hasn’t aged is because she has looked 41 for the last 15 years. “Ageless” isn’t always a compliment.

    Also, what a freakin’ ego on her.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Agree and agree. She is ageless in the sense that she might be 35 and she might be 48. It’s hard to say. But she isn’t young looking at all, in my opinion.

  53. arbelia says:

    It’s rather a silly comment. Of course if are sleepless , you don’t take enough time for yourself, etc…you’ll look disheveled compared to your pre-baby self. But it happens to women of all age. Particlarly women who have all their kids in a short period of time, even if they’re very young. I’ve seen girls under 25 look older than women in their thirties after having 3 kids in less in 4 years .

  54. Quinn says:

    Honestly, she is one woman that I never found remotely attractive.

    And, Juliette Lewis may be able to get away with this “I look young” statement, but Chloe cannot.

  55. raincoaster says:

    You think she’s “fun?” CHLOE SEVIGNY? I agree she’s spent two decades drinking, boozing, whatevering, but I truly believe she’d be the drip at the party, the wet noodle in the cocktail, the … bore. She’s self-absorbed, dippy, and sort of known for being a wet blanket. If you want to have actual fun with a stylish blonde, go Kiki Dunst!

  56. Sam says:

    I have 2 kids – had my first at 34 and while i was pregnant i looked great, post baby I looked pretty good, but once i had my second kid and my first stopped sleeping i feel like i have aged 10 years in the past 3. I completely agree with her. The lack of sleep, no time for self care, no down time at all certainly takes its toll. Maybe once my kids are a bit older i will be able to rest more, but my personal experience makes me totally agree with her.
    And yes, i think she looks her age. And i mean that as a compliment.

  57. Rachel says:

    Uhhhhh… it wasn’t having four babies that aged me, it’s having three TEENAGERS that is making me look 10 years older (in less than two years time).

  58. HK9 says:

    Well, if you’re not aging your dead soooooo I’m gonna grab one of my god children(I don’t have any of my own) and a few wrinkles. (BTW-I think her comment was less than smart. Insert Prince side-eye gif here.)

  59. Rhonda says:

    When I read the title of this post, I imagined this must have been an overheard conversation between Chloe Sevigny and Karl Lagerfeld.

  60. cd3 says:

    Meh. Is she really saying anything so controversial?

    Helen Mirren has made similar’ish comments when complimented about her figure and how she has gracefully aged – she has said a few times ‘well I never had children’ – implicit in that is that having kids does have a (usually negative) impact on one’s physic.

    I’ve had two kids myself, yes it changed my body, yes it probably aged me (lack of sleep, stress, etc) but so what? I’d rather that than be discussing the finer points of cosmetic surgery to one’s knees.

  61. kanyekardashian says:

    She’s known for her legs? I thought she was known for giving a BJ in a movie.

    But she is right about the babies. My niece is only 23 with a 3-year-old who won’t leave her alone day and night and she already looks ten years older. Thank goodness I was smart enough to stick with cats. They keep me young.

  62. Justjj says:

    Please. It’s money. You know who looks great immediately after having kids? Rich women. It helps if you can afford 600 dollar night cream, you probably don’t have to work either, so while babies sleep throughout the day you can sleep, your night nanny can feed the baby, your 500+ weekly facials and spa treatments can smooth your lines, your personal yoga trainer can help you with your diastis recti and your chef or one of the many lush, healthy, fresh, restaurants that are an option to you can feed you… Her comments smack of classism, sorry. I’m not interested in beauty tips from rich celebrities anyway. Also, yes, pregnancy does crazy things to your body but so much of getting your body back depends on the resources available to you as a mom, time, money, family support, a loving spouse, ability to afford classes and high quality food. It just pisses me off anymore when rich spoiled celebrities tell people how to look young. Kids are often worth it to the women who have them and I have seen women who don’t who look like tan mom at age 35 so … It really depends on the woman, how much time she can dedicate to skincare and exercise, how much support she has, and how much money she has. Shut up rich Chloe Sevigny with your cute clothes and expensive weekly facials. You wouldn’t last one day as a mom with a full time job in the real world. Besides, studies show that nursing in your thirties prevents breast cancer and women who have babies after 33 live longer than women who don’t have children or have them in their 20s.

    • BFDL says:

      @JustJJ I agree! Facials, expensive creams and having virtually little stress because you’re financially at peace (a huge stressor) will erase most lines and wrinkles.

      Look at Kim K’s daily La Mer or whatever the hell it’s called, face kit. She spends $1000+ every time she has to stock up on her face creams and oils. A regular mother is going to have some Neutrogena and a bottle of Aveeno lotion at the most.

      How can we even compare celebrities with ourselves (unfortunately we always seem to)?

      But, staying out of the sun, using sunscreen, not smoking, not drinking, not tanning and moisturizing will always help you look younger.

  63. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    She seems to think she’s very young looking?

    • BFDL says:

      @GoodNames Yes, I’m also confused as to why she feels this way. Does she look good for 41? Yes. Does she look 31? No. Someone has clearly blown her head up.

  64. Vava says:

    I usually only comment on the Cambridge links, but this woman just seems like a pain in the @ss. Get over it. Nobody cares about your knees, your face or your decolletage.

    Honestly, why don’t these rich women just enjoy life!??? Aging is a PRIVILEGE.

  65. Coconut says:

    Well, Chloe, actually wearing fugly braids on top of your head ‘unfortunately ages women’.

    I had a kid at 41 and I would say having him didn’t age me–including 2+ years of breastfeeding–rather the stress of being with his narcissistic-manipulative-and-other-stuff father for the next four years gave me wrinkles and gray hair.

  66. what's inside says:

    There is not one person on the face of this planet that does not age….that is unless they are dead. The Hollywood outlook is just so fantasyland and I am so tired of the preaching that comes from the fashion industry. Babies are your hope for the future and that takes the investment of your body, heart and soul which does call for a price to be paid.

  67. Sara says:

    ” Having babies in your 30′s unfortunately ages you “. ” Women who have babies in their 20′s look better than women who had them in their 30′s”. Lol. Not to the many Facebook friends who had all their kids in their late teens and early to mid- 20′s. They are obese, physically in pain, wear orthopedic shoes, look much older than their years and have other many ailments due to not taking care of themselves. Is it due to kids or lifestyle? I don’t know, but the women I know who had their kids in their 30′s and 40′s look amazing where I live now. They eat clean, workout and are just very active. Maybe it is due to them wanting to have a healthy lifestyle to be here for their children. Where the many high school friends I know could care less about being there for their kids or grandkids in the future. JMO. But then again, I grew up and come from an area in NY state where most of the people are extremely unhealthy and in bad shape by the time they are 40 due to an unhealthy lifestyle and believe anyone over 35 is old.

  68. BFDL says:

    Women make this so complicated. It doesn’t matter if you had your children when you were 16, 34 or 44. It’s all about your genes, the amount of melanin in your skin, your diet and exercise routine, the way you care for your skin and whether you drink, smoke or expose yourself to a lot of sun.

    Not having children isn’t going to make you look like Katy Perry when you’re 60. Having children isn’t going to make you look like Kathy Griffin when you’re 20.

    This is just another way to divide women and Chloe was stupid enough to take the bait.

  69. Giddy says:

    There is a guy on You Tube who does a whole series of Chloe in 5 minutes. His name is Drew Droege, but I think it can be found by just Chloe. His posture as Chloe, supposedly trendy clothes, and haughty mannerisms are just great. One of my favorites is Chloe “Barbeque”

  70. TyrantDestroyed says:

    Why everybody is obsessed with age and not getting old? Is depressing to read people become so over defensive when this subject comes up.

  71. Justjj says:

    “I’ve tried this great new facial. It’s called sticking my head up my own ass. It really does wonders for my dark circles.” -Famous people in magazines

  72. dana says:

    Privilege allows you to look good kids or not. Privilege to have the daily or weekly routine for spas and treatments and genetics to look radiant. I had great bounce back but had friends who didn’t but had a great skincare treatment and pampered themselves. Kids or not, depending on how you take care of yourself is the difference. She’s assuming because women have kids and older it wears on your body. Its true for some – but theres some rough looking single women in their 20s that I question why they look so run down and hard. Having time to care for yourself is the difference.

  73. Creme1 says:

    Marion Cotillard’s 40 and she could pass for early 30s and she has a son. I think Chloe’s just making conversation and being open about her beauty neuroticism perhaps.

  74. Goodnight says:

    I think what she’s trying to say is that having kids causes pretty severe stress and sleep deprivation that can lead to more wrinkles, dark circles and such. If that’s the case, she’s correct – generally the body copes better with stressful situations (such as chronic sleep deprivation) better when you’re in your twenties than when you’re in your thirties.

    If that’s the case, she chose her words very poorly.

  75. Lis says:

    Oh just shut up. Do you want to know what ages people? Life, stress, not having access to plastic surgery, kids, husbands, careers, jackasses that can’t drive, death of loved ones, illness, lack of coffee, drugs, annoying neighbours … even just plain old time.
    Have a baby at whatever age you want or have no babies – whatever. None of us are staying young.

  76. AnotherDirtyMartini says:

    No. She’s not known for her legs. Wtf Chloe?