Tom Hardy: ‘I grew up used to having lots of attention from my mother’


It’s almost sweet relief to cover an Oscar nominee who is not chiming in about #OscarsSoWhite. Unfortunately, that Oscar nominee is Tom Hardy, the same dude many of us fell out of love with late last year after he was called out for blatant douchery. Tom is still doing interviews in support of The Revenant (and Legend, I think), and he’s got a recent piece with the Daily Mail. He talks about everything, surprisingly, and I don’t know if it’s just the excited way the Daily Mail has transcribed his quotes (lots of !!!!), but he comes across well here. Some highlights:

Playing bad guys: “Playing the bad guy is a safe way of entering a fantasy world. I’m fascinated by someone who announces, ‘I am going to change the world to suit my needs,’ instead of ‘I am going to change myself to fit better into society.’ It’s quite compelling to watch because we know that, whatever happens up there on the screen, in real life there is no fall-out or harm done. Now, I am an actor, not a criminal! But if I am able to put myself into the shoes of those people, and revel in this as a safe place to learn a little bit about it, then that is extremely interesting to me.”

Violence on screen: “You might be surprised to hear that I feel very healthily indifferent to anything like that, because I do know that it’s pretend! Now, out here in the real world, there are real-life people who do heinous and horrible things. And they’re not just in the gangster world, either. You can go right through society, from commerce, to politics, to shopkeepers, and find them in all walks of life. The bad people out there are terrifying.”

People aren’t frightened of him in real life: “I’m actually fairly contained in my real life. And it’s not like people are frightened of me when they meet me socially. Well, maybe some people can be, but once they’ve broken bread with me and talked to me, they will find out that I’m not really Bane from Batman, if you know what I mean. In fact, I am as frightened of these characters as anyone is, because I have seen them in real life and they really do scare me.”

His “painfully middle class” childhood: “I grew up used to having lots of attention from my mother. There was only one problem. I was a bit of a naughty boy when I was young. No, let me correct that: I was a lot of a naughty boy!”

Acting saved him: “The only thing that saved me through that dark time was acting. I originally got into it because I wanted to make my father proud of me. Because I was an only child, this was very important to me — and there wasn’t very much of anything else that I could do. But acting was something I could do — and because I found that I was good at it, I wanted to make the effort to invest time and effort into doing it. These days, I’m lucky enough to do it for a living; and I love it and I learn from it every day.”

Becoming a father: “I wouldn’t say it saved my life, but it definitely changed my life. That was when the penny dropped that there was no longer very much time for me to think about myself any more — about what I might like to do or who I want to be — because there is somebody now on the planet who really needs me to get my act together and focus on something that is more important than me. And when I go home, I am not Tommy the actor, I am Tommy the dad, largely because my children aren’t allowed to watch any of my films yet. My older son really wants to watch Mad Max, but I’ve told him that he can’t — he’s got to watch the Harry Potter films first!”

[From The Daily Mail]

I knew most of this stuff already, but then again, I’ve been following his career for years. I knew he came from an affluent, middle-class family and that he fell into drugs and craziness early on. I knew he was an only child – he’s described his need for constant attention before. And while his “naughty boy” description would have been enough to make me swoon a few months ago, nowadays I just think… yeah, you’re a naughty boy all grown up and you became a self-absorbed douchebag.


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  1. M.A.F. says:

    And it shows Hardy. It shows.

  2. Moxie Remon says:

    Some kids need siblings, you know?

  3. Pri says:

    I didn’t know he came from an affluent family…

  4. Cee says:

    I didn’t know his addiction had been so bad. He was too young, it’s a miracle he got out and seems to be a functioning adult.

  5. meme says:

    I adore him. I don’t care if he acts like douche sometimes. Don’t we all?

    • Locke Lamora says:

      No, no we don’t . Not to that extent.

      • meme says:

        Don’t care. He’s extremely handsome, very talented and loves dogs and his kids.

      • Locke Lamora says:

        He punched various people while working. He also was late every day on a few jobs. If I was a studio head, I would never hire him. There are many guys just as talented waiting for their chance. If not more talented ( he overacts quite a lot). And he’s not good looking at all.
        I really really dislike him, if that wasn’t apparent :D

      • Jellybean says:

        I don’t like the story that he made his assistant cry at Toronto. I don’t really mind when people say stupid things and it is certain that the most harmless things can be taken out of context and twisted to make someone look bad, but being mean to someone in such a lowly job just seems like a massive red flag to me.

      • Jellybean says:

        Of course he might have been stressed and not realized what he was doing, but once the tears started that should have prompted a sincere apology and flowers or a pint. I doubt we would know if either of those things followed.

      • Flora says:

        Which assistant did he reduce to tears? He’s got a whole crew with him. From his bodyguard to his make-up artist, Stylist and PR-lady.

      • JoJo says:

        Overacts? Wow, that’s one thing I could never accuse him of. Have you seen Locke? The entire movie is him driving in a car talking on the phone for 75 minutes, and I’m not sure anyone else could have pulled that off so well. Not sure if he’s truly a dbag, but I can’t help but love him. He looooves dogs, and I can’t help it, but that says something about his character to me. I’m probably giving him a pass, but I make the exception for him. :)

    • NUTBALLS says:

      I enjoy his interviews…

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  6. Ethelreda says:

    I take it from the reference to his ‘older son’ that his baby is another boy?

  7. DEEVIA says:

    People talk about actresses looking smug but this guy exude that vibe out of every pores. Facially he is so average and only better than the Brit dudes known for their charm (B Cum, T Hiddles…) so he is described “hot”.

  8. Sarah01 says:

    I go back and forth on him, I like watching him but sometimes he’s gives a douchey vibe. you can tell he’s temperamental.

  9. Baba Ghanoush says:

    I like him. Solid acting though I don’t like most of his films (The Revenant was great though) and 100% honest in interviews.

  10. Renée says:

    I think he’s a man who’s wearing his heart on his sleeve and i do admire him for being honest about his demons. He’s probably quit complicated but real. I also think Charlotte’s his saving grace. Since she’s in his life things changed for the better. But above all he’s a top notch actor.

  11. FF says:

    It’s awards season and he’s the nicest guy in the world. What a surprise…not really.

    Randomly, it would be cool if he had a daughter named Marlowe.

    Plus, I’m pretty sure acting in the UK works best for middle-class-and-upwards white guys, so his background and career makes perfect sense rn. He has a “marketable image” playing hard men with a surprise soft centre, or ‘soft’ men with a surprise hard centre. People love calling comparing him – lazily – to Brando.

    Glad his peeps have told him to keep his teeth hidden nowadays.

  12. Maddie says:

    I didn’t fell out of love with Tom at all! I love his acting skills and if you want to watch the real, relaxed Tom, i recommend every one the interviews he had with Anne Thompson. I don’t know what it is but they are fantastic to watch!

  13. amberj says:

    Love him still. Sorry, not sorry.