Selena Gomez was asked to rate her own attractiveness & lowballed her answer

Selena Gomez has been keeping busy with various low-key film projects and her music. About a month ago, we talked about this photo ^^^ in light of Adam Sandler’s tendency to dress schlubby and make his co-stars dress sexy. Sandler and Kevin James both shrugged off the contrast to E!. James explained, “We were in Cancun on a beach and I thought that would be appropriate” Sandler replied, “I was packing and I got yelled at, ‘You have to at least bring a jacket!’ This is kind of a jacket.” Selena never received a message to dress down, and her posture tells the tale.

Speaking of sexism, the “1 to 10″ sliding scale of attractiveness is pretty awful. I’ve heard guys rate girls at my gym (yes, out loud), and girls do it to guys too. It’s strange how beauty can be so subjective, yet people want to place precise figures when sizing up others. Selena Gomez phoned into Boston’s The TJ Show, and the hosts asked her to rate herself:

The awful self-rating question: “On a good day, I would say — like a premiere day — I would be a good 9. And then, on my every day, I feel like a 6. Gosh, that sounds so bad! I feel like a 6 or a 7.” Gomez admitted that like many women, “you have your days” where you don’t feel close to a 10. “It is so awkward…That’s so weird. Why would I want to say something like that? It’s awkward enough answering.”

She has non-famous best friends: “My roommates that I live with are not in the business. One is a realtor and another one works for a nonprofit, and so I think when I’m in social settings and I’m with my friends and everybody treats them differently, it’s very uncomfortable because they’re my best friends and I live with them. It’s so crazy to see. An entire room will kind of just get weird about it. I don’t like that. I don’t like how people are treated differently … like when we’re at dinner and people will come up will say something and maybe I’ve never even met them before, but they just won’t treat my friends the same. It’s so ridiculous, honestly.”

[From E! Online]

Yeah, that is a pretty awkward question to answer in an interview. Selena couldn’t win no matter what answer she gave. She could have answered “10” and sounded full of herself, but saying “6 or 7” doesn’t sound realistic. Maybe she really feels that way though. Dating Justin Bieber can’t be good for one’s self esteem.

Here’s an audio clip of Selena’s phone call. She sounded like she wanted to hang up the phone but stuck out the interview.

Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez

Photos courtesy of WENN

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  1. Franca says:

    But 7 is high?! 7 is really high, especially for a low day? She’s gorgeous, but 7 is still high, no? When you said she lowballed it, I expected a 4 or something.

    Also, don’t most people see themselves as less attractive than they actually are?

    • ell says:

      this. everyone has days when you don’t feel very attractive, even if you’re super gorgeous. maybe you’re sick or feeling really sad, or sleep deprived. 7 is still reasonably high for a bad day

    • K says:

      Yeah I don’t think she was being unrealistic or anything. Don’t get me wrong the girl is stunning but 7 isn’t some low number that we need to be concerned about her self esteem it sounds honest.

      she was put in a no win situation, I mean she was either going to be labeled arrogant or people we going to say she was lying, or had bad self esteem.

  2. Eleonor says:

    Working in a business where you’re neve thin enough, or your boobs are not enough doesn’t help too. Plus in this moment she still has a baby-face, which eventually will change in the next ten years, if she doesn’t mess with plastic surgery, she is going to be a very lucky ageless beautiful woman !

    • Franca says:

      But her looks are all she’s got going for her. She’s a bad singer and a very mediocre actress at best. She’s not someone who could say f you to those ridiculous standards because she has talent to fall back on.

      I find that baby faced often people don’t age so well, ala Leo DiCaprio.

      • Willa says:

        I think baby faced women age great. They look young for a very long time, then eventually as they get older they lose the fat around their face and you get a more defined look. Baby faced men,(IMO) don’t age well because they dont have the jawline or rugged bone structure to hold up to ageing. They end up looking like old women to me.

      • Franca says:

        I don’t know. I think that women with very mature faces, ala Kristin Scott Thomas, look the best as they age.

      • Eleonor says:

        I think a confindent woman looks great at any age, but when you look younger in your 20′s after you loose the baby face, your face will look fresher imo.

      • Willa says:

        I can see that (Kristen Scott) guess it depends on the person. Also, wishful thinking on my part because I have a baby face.

      • Franca says:

        Equally wishfull thinking on my part because I have quite a mature face, haha.
        I do agree that women look beautful at any age,

      • ell says:

        i’m not sure it has much to do with baby face or not, but more with face structure; people with very defined features, such as a square face with a broad jaw and high cheekbones, tend to age better than people with round/oval faces, regardless of baby/mature face.

      • Kitten says:

        I had the chubby cheek baby face for most of my life and it’s kept me looking younger well into my thirties. Basically, my cheeks thinned out with time and I was left with a heart-shaped face.

      • Jess says:

        Agree to something someone said about broad jaw. Angelina Jolie looks REALLY REALLY good, and she has that kind of face. When she gave her chickenpox video, I was stunned. She looks young. I guess it was very surprising because when she’s all dolled up, “regal” is the only thing that flashes through my head, not age.

      • Greenieweenie says:

        Remember when Angelina was baby faced
        and only half as beautiful?

      • qwerty says:

        No? Do you mean her pics from when she was 17, 20, those amateur shoots? That was before her nose job and other surgeries, she wasn’t as beautiful back then cause her perfect face is a result of amazingly well done surgeries. Not hating, it IS amazing. But of you watch Hackers, or google her pics from 90s, this is not the same face. Her profile is absolute perfection, but it didn’t use to look like this.

        Unless you mean like 10 years ago – I preferred her back then, I think. This is from 2005

      • Neah23 says:

        @ qwerty

        Lol we get it you hate Angelina and Brad no one is allowed to say they are attractive and she had her Bio kids get plastic surgery when they were babies to look like she does now. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

        Your obsession with them is worst then some supper fans you seem to go from post to looking for anyone who says they find they are attractive.๐Ÿ™€๐Ÿ™€๐Ÿ™€๐Ÿ™€

  3. LAK says:

    I wish she had the balls to dress less ‘sexy’ at that premiere. Not that it’s wrong to dress sexy, but because this is douchy Adam Sandler and no one should give in to his demands.

    • Franca says:

      I feel like by being dressed to the nines, she makes them look like idiots. She perhaps could have been less sexy, but I like that she’s all glmmed up and they look slobby.

    • Esmom says:

      My mom once told me it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed and I have generally found that to be true.

      Most recent example: My son was the only one who wore a tie to his sports banquet and the guys sort of teased him but he looked good, and I pointed out to him it would have been worse if it had been the opposite and everyone was wearing ties except for him.

      • LAK says:

        Esmom: that’s a very good rule, and i’m all for it, but because this is Douchy Adam Sandler, I wish she had not.

      • Wren says:

        My mom told me that too, but I always feel more awkward when I’m overdressed than when I’m underdressed. Maybe it’s because I never, ever dress up unless I absolutely have to, and if I can wear my jeans to an event I will. So if I show up underdressed it’s like, “whatevs, I always look like this, just be glad I’m wearing clean clothes”, but if I’m overdressed I’m kicking myself like, “dammit! I knew I should’ve just worn my jeans, now I’m stuck in these stupid clothes”.

      • lucy2 says:

        I agree. She was overdressed for that event, but it made the two guys look so schlubby next to her, all I noticed was how bad they looked. Being underdressed is far more embarrassing. Unless you’re Adam Sandler and have no shame.

      • polkasox says:

        That’s my husband’s rule of thumb! He’s often the best dressed man in the room. (if he’s not totally dressed down wearing a t-shirt) He seems to like it.

      • qwerty says:

        Overdressed does not equal teets out though. She could’ve worn a suit with high heels (and a tie even) and still make them look like slobs.

  4. Snazzy says:

    What a stupid f-ing question to ask someone.

    • INeedANap says:

      Yeah, the question itself is pointless and objectifying. Even in context, it’s a sexist question to ask. I’m disappointed in TJ, I sometimes listen to his show.

    • Esmom says:


    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I wish she had refused to answer it and said she thought rating people’s looks on a scale was dehumanizing or something.

      • Esmom says:

        Yes. I’m guessing she was caught off guard and couldn’t formulate a comeback like that on the fly. I know I probably couldn’t. :)

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Me neither. I would have thought of it thirty minutes after the interview, probably.

      • lucy2 says:

        Me too! It is a demeaning question. I probably wouldn’t have been quick enough to shoot it down either. I feel bad that she was even asked that, what’s she supposed to say?

      • qwerty says:

        I probably would’ve reflected the question back at the guy, wonder what he’d say…

      • Jay says:

        Thank God. I thought I was the only one who feels the whole rating system is so offensive. Like, if someone says “you’re a 9,” to me that says “I find 1/10 of you worthless and unattractive.”

    • Zinjojo says:

      Yes, and it’s too bad she didn’t shut it down and not answer the question.

    • Marie-France says:

      When I was Selenas age I probably would have tried to figure out a polite answer to that idiotic question. Today, not so much… I found this article on women and beauty standards an interesting read

  5. Sixer says:

    I would have said, “Eleventy billion, so FU, tosspots”.

    (And I generally look like the wreck of the Hesperus and am only top in Mr Sixer’s pops. When he’s wearing his glasses.)

    • Kiddo says:

      Tosspots, LMAO. I am stealing this, at once.

    • Sixer says:

      Kiddo, for emphasis, it’s “utter tosspots”.

      Honestly though, what a question. I couldn’t do other than treat it with the contempt it deserves by lampooning it and/or insulting the askers.

      What about um…

      “Oh, 10 isn’t sufficient. I’m a 20 or a 25 at least. Ask my first 40,000 sexual partners, they’ll tell you. You’ll have to ask them because you stand absolutely no chance of becoming sex partner 40,001 and discovering the full extent of my many charms, you utter tosspot.”

      • Kiddo says:

        As I said below, I would reverse the scrutiny back on to the questioner.

      • vauvert says:

        This is what I wish everyone answered when asked this idiotic question. It should not be asked in the first place. I find the whole habit of rating people’s looks offensive. Like what, if anyone is below an 8 they should be put out of their misery or something? I know plenty of people who would not be called conventionally attractive but when they speak they are intelligent, warm, engaging, funny and sexy, which makes them an absolute 10 in my book.
        Sixer and Kiddo, I am with you 100%.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Love it. Obnoxious utter tosspots.

    • Zinjojo says:

      Perfect answer!

    • j.eyre says:


      I wanted to go with an irrational number.
      “What number would you say you are, Miss Jane?”
      “When I was younger, I think I was pi but I feel now I am a solid e.”

  6. Naddie says:

    This rates… Ugh. In high school they used to do that. High or low, it’s never a good thing. And I really think she sees herself in a realistic way, she’s not gorgeous, just pretty.

  7. Fori says:

    I like her answer about her non famous friends. She seems very genuine and it’s healthy for her to recognise that people who treat you differently because you’re famous are not the type of people you want in your life. So many famous people end up crazy because they surround themselves with yes people who tell them what they want to hear and treat them like gods, they start to believe it.

  8. msw says:

    I think she answered honestly, and I kind of wish she hadn’t. I wish she would have said, “I’m a 10. Duh. Don’t you think so?” And then given them a lecture. But I’m not going to criticize her for not knowing how to deflect a superficial question. That goes to the guys asking the question.

  9. serena says:

    I’m never watching an Adam Sandler movie again, what a douche!!

  10. Juliet says:

    Bloody horrible question. Do they ask their male guests that?

  11. Skins says:

    Pretty girl but I have never found to be really hot.

  12. kri says:

    It is so disgusting to me that someone would ask another person to rate themselves with a number. Jesus.

  13. The Eternal Side-Eye says:

    Horrible horrible question. I don’t think her answers were lowballed, I try to remember how these girls/women look without the makeup/team and I think 7 is a pretty healthy response.

    What I have noticed is celebrities seem to always be rated more attractive than average people even if the average person is equivalently beautiful. So my question is would a non-famous Selena be slammed for saying she’s a 7?

  14. G says:

    I wish celebs would just say ‘no comment’ when asked dumb questions like this. She has every right not to answer. I feel like people have become so entitled and that if she did say ‘no comment’ they would call her a brat or a diva. Imagine yourself in an interview setting, wouldn’t you want to have ownership of what you can and cannot say?

    Selena and Bieber are still friends, if not more. They have been in the same places and hanging with the same people too much to be ‘estranged’. It would be nice if they could remain friends, it would show some maturity and eliminate any future awkwardness of award shows or whatever. But, it’s hard with an ex. Even when you have moved on and are over them, it’s still jarring to see them, especially if there are still feelings there. They were probably each other’s first big relationship so of course it’s hard to let go, no matter how much of a twat Bieber is :p

    • qwerty says:

      Yeah, no comment would be best however there is a risk that this answer becomes the headline, like “Selena Gomez refuses to answer….”, and her publicist would not be happy. Cause I’m sure they don’t care about her being a feminist icon, the goal is to avoid drama.

  15. EC says:

    Can we talk about Adam Sandler? I recently saw him at a Coffee Bean and had some takeaways: 1. he is much thinner than I expected; 2. he is much shorter than i expected (I’ll guess 5’9″ max); 3. he was SO DRESSED DOWN. we’re talking a grown man in basketball shorts, white socks pulled up to his ankles, beaten up sneakers, and an oversized tshirt.

    No judgments on what you wear in your personal time, but I think he was coming out of work (we were right next to the Sony Lot on a Tuesday evening), so this dude is WAY casual, all the time, and the fact that he even wore pants in Mexico is surprising to me. Guys get away with everything, no? At premieres and at work.

    I hate the ranking scale of men and women. Selena is a beauty, and this is a butt-stupid question.

    • word says:

      Adam is always dressed down. It’s his thing. He was on Fallon last night and was dressed down. He looks thinner than usual. Maybe he lost weight for a new role or something? He says he stays slim when he’s working but let’s himself “go” when he’s not working.

  16. qwerty says:

    “Selena couldnโ€™t win no matter what answer she gave.”

    She could’ve refused to play this stupid game. Then again, she’s young AND grew up in showbusiness. It probably wouldn’t accur to her.

  17. serena says:

    The unfortunate person responsible for that horrific makeup for the MET Gala needs to be offed. What type of a make-up artist are you? Her head looks like it is glued on somebody else’s body.

    It is called ‘color correction’ and using the right foundation.

  18. A. Key says:

    What kind of a beeping question is that?? She should’ve shot back at those sexist pig interviewers “You want me to rate myself? How about this – I’m way way waaay out of your league, guys, dream on.”