Salma Hayek’s husband called her ‘lazy’ after she gave birth & didn’t want to work

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Salma Hayek covers the August issue of Allure. The cover is… odd? Salma looks like she had some eye work done, but I think that’s just makeup (hopefully). She also sort of posed topless for the editorial but I’m not posting that photo – you can see it here. As for the interview… Salma talks about the same kinds of things in most interviews these days. She’s in love with her husband, motherhood is amazing, she loves to work, she’ll never Botox, etc. There are some new pieces of information in this piece though, like Salma proudly declaring that she never goes more than two weeks without seeing her daughter. Is that a thing? Why wouldn’t she see her daughter every day or nearly every day?

Her dating life before Francois-Henri Pinault: “I wish I knew [when I was younger] that I was going to fall crazy in love with the perfect man. I was so worried, and I dated some people I shouldn’t have dated. You get desperate, and you start seeing wonderful things in, like, the wrong guys. I also found some pretty good guys. But I wish I could say to myself: ‘Hey, chill out. You’re going to get a great husband that’s going to adore you.’ I would have saved myself a lot of personal drama.”

Motherhood first: “I’ve never been apart from my daughter for more than two weeks. And same with François. We don’t separate for long periods of time. Never.”

Her husband insisted she go back to work after giving birth: “I said, ‘I don’t think I want to work anymore.’ And it was François who said, ‘Oh, no, you’re going back to work.’ And I said, ‘I don’t want to.’ ‘Well, you have to. We’re not putting up with some lazy girl in the house. That’s not who I married.’ He said something so beautiful. ‘I don’t want to be deprived of your work. I want to watch it, too. And the world has not seen the best of you yet. So you cannot stop until some of that is put out.’ So he sort of really pushed me, like, ‘Get up on your feet and get out there.’ And he was right.”

When Francois proposed, she told him she still wanted her financial independence: “I have a system in my life that I’ve chosen, where my expenses from before the marriage are my expenses. And he goes, ‘I know. That’s why I want to marry you.’ Maybe that’s also part of what works great in my marriage. I still have my independence. But he likes it… And I get a lot of respect from him.”

She’s glad she never Botoxed: “When I was young, they tried to sell me on the idea: ‘If you do it now, then you won’t get the wrinkles.’ And thank God I didn’t do that.”

[From Allure & The Daily Mail]

First of all, I would still love to know what went down between Salma and Edward Norton. My theory is that Norton was one of Salma’s make-it-work-even-though-he’s-the-wrong-guy relationships. As for the stuff about money and how Pinault insisted that Salma go back to work… I have mixed feelings. On one side, I can see how he was trying to compliment her and encourage her to follow her love of acting. On the other side, it just seems rude for a man to tell his partner – who only recently gave birth – to go back to work and that she’s being “lazy” by wanting to stay home with the kid for a while. But sure, even when you’re married to a billionaire, you still have to make sure your own finances are in order. Especially if he’s the kind of guy to call a woman “lazy” for wanting to take a career break after having a baby.

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  1. MP says:

    Well she said that “I don’t know if I want to work anymore” not “I want to take a maternity leave”. It sounded like she was thinking about not going back to work possibly ever.
    I can understand that if you fall in love with somebody who has a job they love and are passionate about you’d like them to keep doing that.

    • Nicole says:

      Uh, that’s not what he said. He said stay at home mothers are lazy and he’s not going to put up with that in his house.

      • MP says:

        That’s how you read it. And yes if I married a man with an interesting career that he enjoys and then suddenly he would just drop it and stay home I would probably at some point start asking if he has thought about what he wants to do with the rest of his life.
        Salma didn’t say that her husband wouldn’t allow her to take care of their child, he didn’t want her to retire at her age and to me it makes sense.

      • Franca says:

        But she wouldn’t be a normal stay-at-home-mum, she’d have maids, nannys, etc. What would she do at home?

      • ell says:

        no, he didn’t. these are rich people who never ever do housework and likely have 100 nannies, not a super busy middle class sahm with no help. in salma’s case it would be quite lazy not to work at all.

      • Nicole says:

        Or she would be a hands on mom. You and he are treating a grown woman like a child and assuming that if she wants to change careers, it’s out of laziness.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        “What would she do at home?” Really? I don’t have children, and I don’t work. My life is very full and very busy. Your remark shows a huge lack of inner resources. I don’t need to spend my day pushing meaningless paper around to fill it up so I’ll have something to do. I wish I had time to do everything I want to.

      • Franca says:

        That’s not what I said. She’s an actress, not an accountant. She probably got into it because it was her passion, it was art.

      • Shannon says:

        I really don’t think retiring from acting to be a “stay at home mom” who has countless maids, nannies and cooks at her disposal qualifies as a “career change.” And I say that as the child of a stay at home mom who sent us to daycare and had a maid. At least she cooked and managed the finances. It’s really getting annoying to see stay at home moms get defensive about this sort of thing. No one is saying *YOU* aren’t doing work, and your situation cannot be compared to a billionaire’s. None of us think you’re lazy, because you undoubtedly run your household and do work.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I’m just saying that just because she stayed home doesn’t mean she wouldn’t have anything to do, even if she had someone else taking care of the baby and house. Ever heard of volunteer work, lessons, reading, gardening, painting, cooking, decorating, entertaining, listening to music, learning, exercising? If you can’t think of anything to do to fill your time besides working, that’s sad. If you love your job, great. I hated mine and I don’t miss it for one second. I think there’s something wrong with someone who works because they can’t think of anything else to do,

      • JenniferJustice says:

        No, he said “that’s not who I married.” He did not say “you are lazy”. There is a difference between taking leave and quitting for good. I understand a spouse seeing their partner being controlled by emotion (and hormones) and not wanting them to make a climactic decision they might regret. I didn’t want to go back to work after I had my baby, and yes, my husband not only encouraged me to go back to work, but we actually argued about it for a few weeks. He said to just go back and see how I feel after a week or two. He was right. It was the initial going back that was hard – hard to leave my baby and trust anybody else to take care of him. I did fine and I’m glad he talked me into it. If I had stayed home, I would have been miserable after a while and I would have thrown away everything I’d worked for in the work force arena. Sometimes we need our partner’s to steer on the right path because they know we’re coming from a place of emotion and don’t necessarily see what we’re doing or the ramifications if we actually followed through. My husband knows I love my job and I need it for my own intellectual stimulation. I don’t think Selma’s husband was calling her lazy. He was saying that’s not who she is and it wouldn’t have been a happy or healthy choice for her in the end. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Nobody thinks stay-at-home moms are lazy. He recognized she is a career woman and would not be happy w/out a career.

      • aemish says:

        That’s what I got out of it. This is the same douche that fathered Linda Evangelista’s son around the same time Salma had her baby — and while he takes care of Salma’s tried to leave Linda’s son with nothing! Nasty geriatric Ebeneezer. What’s that saying; when you marry for money you earn every penny. Sounds like Linda dodged a bullet.

      • Me too says:

        Yep. That is why I work. I have nothing to do with my time and, therefore, work. It is sad that you, GNAT, did not choose a fulfilling career path. However, many women, myself included, get great enjoyment from their careers. I LOVE my job. I love it so much that I

      • Mia says:

        Not stay-at-home mothers, HER. It seemed pretty clear to me from her entire answer that he meant that’s not who SHE is, because she was working when she met him and like she said later on in the interview, insisted on her own financial independence. Did you even read the part where he said “That’s not who I married?” or did you conveniently skip over it? He never said “stay-at-home mothers are lazy.” It’s disingenuous for you to say he did.

        @Me too, you’re twisting her words a bit. That’s not exactly what GNAT said, she never said all women who work only do it because they have nothing to do. She said if someone chooses to work for that reason alone, she thinks there’s something wrong there. In other words, if you’re going to work, do it for the right reasons. Otherwise, you will absolutely hate your job and never get any enjoyment out of it. I can relate to that. I hated my last job, I would have rather been bored and unemployed indefinitely than kept working there. But, I stuck it out for four years until I found a better opportunity. And it paid off in the end, because I LOVE my current job.

    • Lk says:

      Putting the flowery words aside, the way i read it is her husband wants to be with a glamorous it girl, not a has been.

      • Pandy says:

        Yeah, that’s how I took it as well. He wants her to still be a name, not a footnote.

      • waitwhat says:

        Yep, he didn’t marry her for her housekeeping skills. He also impregnated a model before marrying her, which speaks volumes, but so long as they both got what they came for

      • zimmer says:

        Exactly how I felt. He’s a billionaire and he believes he deserves to be with a hot known celebrity.

      • Jess says:

        To be fair, his and Linda’s baby might not have been planned. He might not even have liked Linda very much. He shouldn’t have been stingy about providing for his child once it was there, but TO BE FAIR, we’re not sure about all that happened there and he did give the child money once he knew it was his for sure, right? Overall, he seems to be a pretty decent guy. Not evil. Not like one of those bad people who “love things and use people” so to speak. (“Things are meant to be used, people are meant to be loved, not vice versa.” was one of my tennis coach’s more poignant bits of advice.) I don’t know why I’m a Salma’s-husband apologist tonight.

    • BW says:

      I agree, she said she wants to quit working, not just take a maternity leave.

      He wants to be married to a movie star. If she quits working, people will forget about her, and she’ll age, and he’ll no longer have the trophy wife he wants to show off.

      • lonnie says:

        He suddenly realized that she married him for his cash and planned to sit on her butt as long as she could so he called her bluff.

    • OrigialTessa says:

      She paraphrased the entire conversation. A couple don’t decide such things in three sentences. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt here.

    • CynicalCeleste says:

      I’m calling BS on the whole conversation. “I don’t want to be deprived of your work” and all that… he doesn’t seem the type. Sounds like a lovely, fictional tale.

  2. Izzy says:

    Yep, she found Prince Charming, she did.

    • Belle Epoch says:

      And they’re crazy in love! If he lost all his money and got a job at a paint store she’d be right by his side. (Sarcasm font needed.)

    • PhenomenalWoman says:

      He sounds like a real peach, doesn’t he? He has billions but her expenses have to remain “her” expenses? I hate gold diggers as much as the next person, but her “expenses” are probably paltry compared to his net worth. This will be another Bobby Flay/Stephanie March situation when he dumps her for a newer model in a few years.

      • Forthelasttime says:

        Yep. He sounds like a total jerk. She’s kidding herself.

      • Redd says:

        It sounds like she wants to keep her own expenses. I kind of understand that, when you live on someone else’s money it can feel like they should have a say in your spending decisions. This way she can be in the marriage while fully being herself. It’s not like she can’t afford it. It seems to work for them.

      • iseepinkelefants says:

        It’s a French thing.ive never seen anything like it before in my life. As an Anglo you expect your partner to help if you need it or share the expenses. Here if you even bring up the idea to man he will promptly exit left. If you’re not on their level don’t even try dating them. It’s weird. Probably for some people a good thing (equality) but even though I’m not a gold digger, yes sometimes I do want to be pampered. Just every once and again. But I shouldn’t say all of France. I live in Paris so maybe it’s just a Parisian thing (men here also don’t do the trade in for younger models thing. If men cheat it’s usually with a partner their own age. Hardly ever will you see a man which a girl half his age).

      • Jess says:

        That’s really interesting, issepinkelefants! That aspect of French culture seems really good! And it’s true, if you’re not bringing something to the marriage, you lose out a little bit on autonomy, influence in decisions, or what-have-you.

    • Liberty says:

      He is the Perfect Man! Who knew she would find him!

      imaginaryHE: “Cow! Merde! Out of this bed, work, work! I have sent the infant to the country with the nuns for two weeks, go, create a cosmetics line! Read for another part! Get some new dresses and be seen! And do not use the ninety billion I gave you, to pay off your old expenses! Non, non, only for clothes and beauty! Now! Hooves on the floor now, no lazy girls in my house! Linda would not get out of bed for under ten thousand, look where she is!”

      imaginarySHE: “Oh, FHP, you are the Perfect Man, my great balding stallion! Your hard work inspires me, such as the way your daddy gave your the presidency of Artémis! Never slow down, you sexy inspiration! You know me so well! I must be seen, admired and mostly — as a Virgo, very busy serving!”

      imaginaryHE: “Indeed, my lazy pet! After all as the founder and head of Kering’s Corporate Foundation for Women’s Dignity and Rights, I must make sure you do as I say, as I see fit, to preserve your dignity as I feel it must be!!”

  3. MG says:

    She looks like Teri Hatcher on the cover photo.

    • L says:

      That’s what I thought to! And in the editorial spread

      Now the question is if it is from work or photoshop.

  4. Birdie says:

    I think you read something into it, that isn’t there. It sounds like she wanted to retire from acting and he encouraged her to follow her acting talent.

  5. ali.hanlon says:

    Francois probably should have said it better but I see the point.

    Some women have kids and completely lose themselves in becoming a ‘mom’.

    The wife, daughter, worker all disappear and they no longer become themselves.

    • Forthelasttime says:

      Maybe they choose to. Did that ever cross your mind? It’s a beautiful feeing to be selfless when you become a mum. Jeez!

      • mira says:

        true but… that is not the person he partnered with. it does not make you less but it makes you different and there lies the problem. your partner may no longer love the difference (and, I bet, a good percentage of parents, when they come out of that selfless fog, don’t know what hit them).

      • PoliteTeaSipper says:

        So what happens when your little darlings become old enough to not need mommy to spoon feed them or wipe their butts? Become a helicopter parent? Yeah, that will do everyone a lot of favors.

        The loss of self is horrifying. I have several friends where it was like the fetus was growing in their brain instead of their uterus. They aren’t even people any more, just “mom”. Of course, it’s easy for them to do that when the kids are still babies, but I’ll be interested to see what happens once they become teenagers and start becoming their own people instead of mom’s sole reason for identity.

      • JenniferJustice says:

        Becoming “selfless” is good for some moms but not all. Some women need stimulation and the social aspect that comes with working outside the home. I would be bored out of my skull if I didn’t have a job outside the home.

        And just for the record, I’ve known many a mom who stayed home and once the kids were in school, had nothing for themselves. It isn’t easy to get back into the workforce after years of not working and technology and other advancements have passed them by. They cannot compete with those who stayed “in” and kept up with the advancements and continued to increase their experience.

        Every time there is an article that even remotely relates to stay-at-home v. working moms, the stay-at-homes get up in arms. Nobody disrespects you or thinks you don’t have a job taking care of your little ones. But not everybody wants that and for many people, they need to work outside the home because it gets them out and gives them something of their own. I love my job and can’t imagine not working. Since most of us who do work have many friends at work, we’d be losing that too if we stayed home. Different strokes for different folks people!

    • stephanie says:

      I totally agree with you. I’m a 24 year old and I’ve been at home for the past two years. I’ve hated it the majority of the time especially because it wasnt fully my choice. I didn’t have any other options. I love my child, but yes I do feel like im wasting my brain and life. Before I had a child I always said that I would never be a stay at home mom. Now that I’ve experienced it firsthand I KNOW that its not for me and I would never do it again. This may make me seem like a horrible person, but I’ll admit that my child isn’t 100 percent my focus. I want to be out in the world again and earn my own money and not have to depend on other people for it. That is one of the worst feelings in the world. Stay at home moms who get defensive must enjoy what they do. I personally don’t. I know for a fact that I’ll feel more complete as a person by having a job outside the home and being around adults

  6. Nicole says:

    We’re not putting up with some lazy girl in the house.

    Not putting up with? Because your wife is someone you speak to like a child with behaviours that you put up with. Wow. And, some lazy girl? Really? Really!? Dude, do you mean your wife? Are you saying all stay at home mothers are lazy or just the mother of your child? And girl? You married a woman.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Yeah, that would have been the last thing he ever said to me that wasn’t through a lawyer. She wanted to stay home with her baby so she’s LAZY? A lazy girl? That he won’t put up with? Bye, old man. I can’t believe people are defending him.

    • SnarkySnarkers says:

      Yea, his comments definitely rubbed me the wrong way. Raising a child is not being “a lazy girl” I think if Selma wanted to retire she likely has enough of her own money at this point. Isn’t she in her mid 50′s? Its not like shes 22 popped out a baby and said “I’m done” FFS! He sounds like a d-bag.

    • GingerCrunch says:

      Enthusiastic +3!!!

      • boredblond says:

        Sounds like a dad telling his daughter to get a job..lazy girl in the house? Well, that would kind of fit…

    • Tammy says:

      Eh, I will give him the benefit of the doubt. English is not his first language, neither hers and she is paraphrasing a conversation she had with him after she gave birth. Maybe he does view being a stay at home mom as being lazy but he’s not married to any of you, he’s married to Salma and she apparently adores him.

  7. JFresh says:

    I think he just has an excellent work ethic, and also probably had gfs before who worried him in terms of their eagerness to live off of his money and status

    • LAK says:

      Case in point, Linda Evangelista.

      Her entire episode with him killed my boner for her.

    • Ronda says:

      +1

      I can see his point of not wanting to get taken advantage of. the lazy could have been friendly banter it does not translate well in print and then complimented her (a bit too much for her acting skills, but come on he is her husband).

    • JenniferJustice says:

      He’s also foreign so his ideas and the way he words things isn’t necessarily how an American would . English is not his first language. We also don’t know the motivations behind his beliefs. I dont’ beleive he wants to be his trophy wife or that he’s not attracted to her if she’s not a glamorous movie star. I think he knows she is a career woman and would have regretted giving up her career due to an emotional response to leaving her baby. There’s nothing wrong with that.

  8. daisyfly says:

    So wanting to stay home with your newborn is being lazy?

    Let’s see his body carry, nourish, nurture, and then give birth and subsequently feed a whole person and then call him lazy. He’d go from Mr. Magoo to Donald Trump in a nanosecond.

    • Ronda says:

      To be fair you cant compare staying hom with your newborn to staying home with your newborn when your husband is a billionaire. Most people would really just play a bit with the kid and let other people handle diapers and the household.

  9. feebee says:

    It’s generous to label what he said as encouraging. If she quoted him accurately. “I” don’t want to be deprived, “I” want to watch too. This after “we’re” not putting up with some lazy girl in the house. Who the hell is ‘we’? She’s not some lazy girl, she is your wife.

    I get why she’s glad he “encouraged” her. I guess we all need some tough love every now and again but this guy still gets a big side eye from me… I’m hoping there was something lost in translation because it doesn’t sound good for an underlying attitude. If my husband said that to me (at a similar time in life) there would be strong words.

    • sofia says:

      I would be embarrassed to share that conversation in a magazine.

      • someone says:

        Agreed, that conversation was embarrassing and she would have been better served to keep it private. Same with the “I pay for my own debts” conversation. My take is Salma is patting herself on the back since she probably doesn’t get it from her husband.

  10. Aussie girl says:

    The world has yet to see the best of her…. Yes because the world would have been deprived if we didn’t get to see the master piece that Grown ups 2 was.

    • Msmlnp says:

      Exactly! And I looked up her upcoming project of a computer animated adult film called “sausage party”. Thank heavens shes putting that out there…the world is clearly in need of her talent.

    • sofia says:

      He talks like she is some sort of Merryl Streep. Paaaleassee!

  11. LAK says:

    I like this billionaire. Even if what we see is filtered through the Salma Lens.

    So many of them are such foul, foul creatures.

  12. littlemissnaughty says:

    See, if she had somehow presented all of this differently, I could totally respect her. A man who encourages his wife to keep following her career? Who likes an independent woman? Awesome. But if you compliment yourself by repeating the compliments of other people, I’m out. Also, what exactly are “expenses before marriage”? Food? Rent? Basically, that could mean he pays for nothing or almost all of it. WHY is she so annoying? I like her on screen, why can’t she just shut it?

    • I Choose Me says:

      This is how I feel about her too. She’s so beautiful. Not in a cookie-cutter way but just striking. And I’ve seen interviews where she comes off as nice and thoughtful with a sense of humor. Other times I just want her to stfu.

  13. GiGi says:

    I’ll say the delivery is a bit rough, but maybe he knows his wife well… meaning that not working is not for everyone. And there is a time after you have a baby that the idea of just spending all your time with your child is just wildly alluring. But it takes a special kind of person to be a stay-at-home parent. I know without my work, I’d be a monster- I need that balance. So perhaps HP knew that about Salma and was giving her a kick in the pants. My husband and I are frank with each other when we need to be, as well.

  14. alexia says:

    To me she somehow contradicts hereself. If she is as independent as she claims to be, living on her money as far as possible, than why can’t she decide for herself to stop working? Why has he any right to tell her what to do if she claims to be independent?

    • Rockin Robin says:

      That’s exactly what I was thinking. If I don’t want to work and I have my own money… that is my choice, ESPECIALLY if we are rich.

  15. Priscila says:

    People, before judging, remember: at least one of them was not speaking on their mother tongue when this whole ” lazy” comment was made. For what she said, she meant she did not want to go back to work, period. As a true frenchman, who was, at same time, bossy and awesome ( they have a way of being like that): “you are not going to sit here and do nothing more than playing mommy and housewife because you are a professional and I will miss this side of you, and so will you!”

    And , pardon me, but I also think he threw shade at his baby mamma Linda Evangelista, who wanted nothing more than money to raise their son without working much.

    • LAK says:

      I also think he was throwing shade at Linda Evangelista and probably his previous GFs.

      Do we know what his previous wife, Dorothee, did for work (or not)?

    • Becks says:

      What you said about Linda Evangelista not wanting to work and basically using her baby to squeeze money out of him….isn’t it true that she didn’t even ask him for child support for the first 3 years of their son’s life??

      I believe the lawsuit came about because of a combination of factors:

      * The woman who infamously said that she doesnt get out of bed for less than $10,000 a day was not getting modelling gigs anymore.
      * Numerous Media reports were saying that Pinault was setting up billions in trust for his 2 year old daughter Valentina. Headlines like, “Toddler Billionaire” and pictures of them jet-setting around the world with Valentina.
      * People around Linda was telling her that she should ensure that her son would be treated equally by Pinault.

      Yes, she did take him to court. Yes, she did want money, but I think the fact that she didn’t do it right away, but only after 3 years and likely only after having the extreme juxtaposition of how he treats his two children rubbed in her face, is very telling.

      • LAK says:

        Becks: that was the public interpretation. That said, the media reports of the toddler billionaire (love that term. Stealing it!) probably didn’t sit right with Linda. The court papers told a different tale……

        1. That he told her from the outset that baby was a deal breaker as far as their relationship was concerned.

        2. That they met fewer than ten times during the course of said relationship. To me it read like a fling more than an actual relationship, but whatever worked for them.

        3. When she became pregnant, he told her that she either got an abortion or they were done.

        4. She told him that she would keep the baby, take care of it herself and never ask for a penny from him.

        And so they broke up, went their separate ways. As far as we know, not much contact thereafter.

        Fast forward 4yrs later, Linda has broken up with a different billionaire ATM who has been taking care of her and the baby in the interim.

        Plus her modelling contracts are coming to an end, and as you point out, those $10k per day paychecks are long behind her.

        Media reports of Salma’s toddler billionaire……

        Linda remembers her own kid is also (or could be) ATM toddler billionaire and re-engages with François. Privately and in court.

        The court asks her to submit a list of expenses for which she’s seeking child support.

        It reads as mummy support. Reinforced by her quote that she doesn’t want to spend time ALONE with her own kid because she needs time to herself to spend on her career. Line items that primarily take care of Linda rather than baby.

        The sum requested also seems like a blatant money grab to match Salma’s toddler billionaire.

        François objects to the mummy support, but his public rep is taking a beating so he settles out of court. We’ll never know what the final resolution was, but clearly money was exchanged because Linda went away.

    • Dvaria says:

      Thanks for mentioning that. My mom is not a native speaker and sometimes the words that come out of her mouth are so blunt, my husband thinks she’s being mean when she speaks english when really she’s looking for the word that makes the most sense. Like she’ll say “You face is not right today” when I look sad or tired.

      I think Francois just didn’t want her to lose sight of her own life and goals outside of being a mother because many women feel guilty for jumping back into their careers (albeit not just for fun, since most working mothers need to work to support their families).
      Or maybe he just likes seeing her passionate about her work. I don’t have kids so I don’t know what its like but ultimately I would want to stay home for the first six months…but this is America so haha, 6 weeks and back it is.

  16. ell says:

    ok, this interview might not be super interesting and the questions are boring, but if you’ve seen any of her interviews at cannes she talked about how hard it is for female actors to get any decent role not playing the girlfriend or being sexualised. that was far more interesting.

    i don’t have an issue with him saying she would be lazy not to go back to work. an average sahm is super busy, but for someone as rich as them (they most likely have nannies and the likes), it WOULD mean to just lazily hang around and do nothing. I appreciate him saying that, many men as rich as him would be perfectly happy with a trophy wife who just looks pretty and follows him around, while he encourages to work. no shade from me.

    • Lisa T. says:

      Also, keep in mind that at the time they were living primary in France. Salma isn’t fluent in French and he is a known workaholic . She could have ended up being somewhat isolated.

  17. GEM says:

    That statement about her husband wanting her to work was totally framed into how amazing she is and the world needs to know. The hilarity of the “motherhood first” narrative about not going more than 2 weeks without seeing her toddler is ironic. Honey, please get some perspective on life with your army of nannies who basically take care of your child for you.

    That said, I like the cover. She’s a beautiful woman.

    • lucy2 says:

      Her daughter is now 7 or 8 years old. I’d assume since she’s a working actress and does have other business interests, she occasionally goes away to work, and doesn’t want to pull her daughter out of school every time she does. Plus as you said, she has a lot of help at home to make that possible.

  18. Obsidian says:

    Before Salma got married, she was making academy worthy movies like Frida. She was really pushing herself. Now she’s gone lazy and complacent. It’s really a waste of her talent. Maybe that’s what her husband meant and he’s trying to push her to put her best out there because she is capable of more.

  19. Fori says:

    He wants her to stay the person he fell in love with and married. Not transform into somebody whose identity revolves entirely around being ‘mommy’ because they’ve nothing else going on in their lives.

    She’s happy that he encouraged her to continue being herself rather than fall down the wrong path and they look very happy together. I think he sounds very genuine, he didn’t take her on as a paid trophy, he married her as an independent, interesting, respected equal and wants to keep her that way. That is love.

  20. blue marie says:

    Meh, she married him.. I’m sure that’s not the first time he’s let his feelings known..

  21. Jayna says:

    In his world, the rich world, the stay-at-home mothers probably pawn the kids off on the nannys and spend all day on beauty routines and shopping until they drop. That’s probably his experience. I think it’s all in the translation, really.

    As far as the two-week thing, I’m sure she was talking about when she’s off on location shooting and it’s far away and has never gone more than two weeks in that circumstance. Plenty of actresses who are great moms have been away on location at times and not seen their children for a couple of weeks depending on how far away they are . Male actors sure don’t get shaded for it. I think Salma is a devoted mom, from what I’ve seen. Her daughter is seven years old, turning eight in a couple of months. Thus, she’s in school.

  22. Becks says:

    Here’s something I have always wanted to know:

    When Supermodel Linda Evangelista was forced to sue Pinault for child support, Pinault gave testimony which revealed that he and Salma were given news that the in utero baby was going to be born with Down’s Syndrome. (I believe he revealed that because he was trying to mitigate some of the damaging evidence that pointed to his ignoring his financial responsibility to Evangelista and their son.)

    So I have two questions:

    1) if you were Salma, would you be able to forgive him for revealing such personal and private information? Personally, I think I would have a hard time getting past it. That little bit of information that should remain in the family is now out there for public consumption. I just wouldn’t want that type of private family information out in the cyber world for my daughter to ever see when she is older.

    2) Down’s syndrome children have very singular physical characteristics which makes them very easily identifiable. (They also have common characteristics which are not visually seen, such as they are known to be extremely affectionate, loving, and gentle.)
    As it turned out, Valentina did not have Down’s Syndrome. But I was wondering what would have given the medical professionals the idea that Salma was going to give birth to a DS child?

    • GiGi says:

      As to #2 – there is a measurement that can be taken via ultrasound (nuchal translucency) which can indicate the possibility of Down’s Syndrome. This is sometimes (I know of two cases, personally) misidentified, resulting in parents believing their child will have Down’s Syndrome, only to find out after birth, that they do not.

      • Becks says:

        @GIGI – Thanks!
        So this Nuchal Translucency test can give false positives? Wow.

        Is this the same test as the one where they draw out amniocentesis fluids?

        Anyone want to give their views on Question #1?

        At the time, I was kind of wondering if Salma had any idea her husband would reveal this detail about their daughter. I also thought there might be some fall-out in their marriage, but I suppose that is not what happened.

      • Jaygee says:

        The only sure way to confirm downs as a diagnosis is to get an amino to study he baby’s chromosomes. However that carries a risk of miscarriage so some opt not to do it. A test like the NT or the 10-week blood tests offered these days give you your probability of a DS baby but aren’t fully diagnostic/dispositive.

  23. lizzie says:

    i too wonder about her relationship with norton. he seems like the wrong kind of guy i loved to torture myself with when i was younger. i find him gorgeous and imagine him to be extremely intense and passionate – which is intoxicating at first but if he can’t “teach” you something or if you ever differ from of his point of view you he gets off on belittling your intelligence. every date is a college lecture. i’ve dated a few of these guys and they all had problems getting it up. weird right?

  24. missmerry says:

    this couple seems so fake to me.
    maybe he just looks like a creep or something.

    on another note, I looooove her hair and makeup on that cover.
    So sexy.

  25. Jayna says:

    I went back to look at what she wore in her wedding. Salma was such a stunning bride. They’ve been together for a long time, dating since 2006, married in 2009. I didn’t expect it.

    http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2009/04/27/article-0-04ACD11C000005DC-689_468x667.jpg

  26. kcarp says:

    like Salma proudly declaring that she never goes more than two weeks without seeing her daughter. Is that a thing? Why wouldn’t she see her daughter every day or nearly every day?

    How many times have we seen the quote here about Ben Affleck being a good a dad when he can?
    I agree she should see her kid everyday or every other day. However, other than Tom Cruise no one ever questions men and the amount of time they are with their kids. Yes she brought it up but we see men saying they bring their family to the set every few weeks when they are working. No one says much about that.

    • Jayna says:

      I agree. If she’s off on set in another country and her daughter is in school, that’s how it might land every once in a while, a two-week separation. She’s just saying that is the longest time she’s ever gone without seeing her daughter while working. I don’t see why a big deal is being made about it. Actors and actresses go off on location, and the downside is they are separated at times from their family. She’s not saying that’s the norm.

    • OrigialTessa says:

      Her kid is also in school and not a baby anymore. My parents traveled a lot, and I turned out ok. People have lives. They have stuff to do. Kids adjust.

      • kcarp says:

        Ya but famous people’s kids have a reputation of not adjusting well. A lot of time they turn out to be a mess. They have too much money available to them and not enough parental guidance.

      • paleokifaru says:

        Agreed. I’m a paleontologist and my research is on a totally different continent. Now that I’m married with a stepson I limit my time away to 2 weeks or less, for me as well as for them. BUT I am also in a position now, i.e. not in grad school or a postdoc, where I can make those decisions and negotiate to focus in on particular aspects of work. If there was a project I was really passionate about that would take longer then I would do it. It’s a balance of your feelings and theirs. Most parents in my field make similar choices and some are comfortable with going longer and others have essentially halted new projects because they’re just not comfortable with leaving their babies. It’s what works for their families and they get no shade from me.

    • lucy2 says:

      Agreed – the kid is school aged and probably has friends and activities in addition to her school work. Salma does a film or 2 a year I think, so it’s not like she’s always gone. I don’t see any issue with it, especially if she’s making an effort to not be away too long.

  27. I Choose Me says:

    Were her boobs always this big? Or did she get another enhancement. I don’t think they were quite this big circa Dusk Til Dawn and that Desperado movie with Antonio. But maybe she’s just wearing a really excellent push up bra.

  28. G says:

    I don’t think he meant it in a bad way. Just trying to encourage her to not give up her life. As if she would have anyway …

    They have been together for a while … wasn’t he super douchy with his daughter born shortly before he met Salma? I remember a scandal over that! Salma seems nice in interviews, but i doubt she can relate to the real world any more with that massive wealth.

  29. minx says:

    I loved her story arc in 30 Rock; she and Alec Baldwin played off each other well.
    Other than that, meh.
    And obviously her husband is fortunate he has money. Supermodels would not be vying for him.

  30. mytbean says:

    Maybe I’m totally just imagining it but something in her eyes tells me she’s not happy.

    • EM says:

      He is a very wealthy French man. French men of his calibre usually follow the mistress tradition.

  31. juluho says:

    I hate this facet in the Mommy Wars. I hate it even more when men chime in.
    The reality is, I don’t know a single mother (working or not) who is lazy. It is really not feasible, given the workload motherhood demands. Even those with nannies find other avenues to demand their time. All the mothers I know raise their kids, some work some don’t, most volunteer at school AND church AND somewhere else, they are taking their kids to art, music, sports, camps, etc. Most of the non working moms I know have some sort of side business or spend a lot of time trying to save money (couponong, gardening, etc).
    They are all busting their asses, with or without jobs. To belittle one group or the other is just giving in to the patriarchy. It is such BS, if you work your are neglectful and if you don’t you are lazy. UGH UGH UGH

    • Liberty says:

      This is so true, juloho. I don’t have kids, and I do work. But I have numerous friends (married or now-single women) with one or two kids. Some work, and are essentially working 24/7. THe ones who don’t have a recognized full-time outside-the-home job are working their bums off too, re childcare, housework and the kinds of side-businesses you describe. They can then be up half the night creating things to sell at art markets, doing coupon-ing (which is now basically an involved mid-tech science), doing part time book-keeping or editing, gardening and canning vegetables for themselves and local-only bistro sales, or things related to their volunteer roles etc.

      Not one is sitting around watching tv or shopping or at the gym or lunching all day. I will tell you that I saw much more daily laziness rampant at a non-profit I worked for once, among the entitled supposedly well-educated paid staffers (coming in late, gossiping for hours, online shopping or lunching for hours, etc), than I have ever seen among my friends. I was floored.

      • juluho says:

        Right? Its such a manufactured debate. And we need both, we need moms working and we need moms staying home. We need female doctors, nurses, teachers, etc etc and we need Room Moms, den leaders. PTA leaders, and committee chairs. We need mothers in professional settings and in volunteer settings. What we need more than anything is better support among mothers. Because right now its just mudslinging for self justification and all we do is support anti feminist patriarchy driven agenda. *Insert Jack Black RANT about THE MAN here*

        And YOU ARE SO RIGHT about couponing. WTAF is going on with that? The women I know who are into it spend 20-30 hours a week preparing. Its a part time job for them. Insane.

  32. sara says:

    I am more curious to know what the hell Hayek does where she does not see her daughter for 2 weeks at a time. It’s not like she’s a female soldier who has to deploy and cannot take her children with her. What?! The 10 nannies cannot travel with you while you’re acting or some other non-important job? Or is Salma saying when she is home she still does not see her daughter?
    She sounds like this happens quite frequently. Whatever the answer, I could not go 2 weeks at a time without seeing my kids and this be a normal thing.

  33. carol says:

    There is nothing I like about Salma so I don’t care if she ever makes another movie or is in another magazine. She’s pretentious and a bore.

    • Mltpsych says:

      This. I have friends that knew her in Mexico before she was famous in U.S. and they say what you just did about her – she has always been pretentious

  34. Rachel says:

    What I took from that is… If she’s a stay-at-home mom, she’s lazy and all the work she’s done up till this point hasn’t been good enough.

  35. serena says:

    She married a billionaire and wants to be a trophy wife, but he does not let her. Not the fisrt woman who scored some billionaire and wanted to play house. 50 Shades??? Hello???

    In the long run, she will have to do everything he says anyway since he holds the reigns in that relationship because of the money. Always will.

    I am certain his wealth was a huge reason why she was attracted to him. Considering how he treats his son and his son’s mother Linda Evangelista, one cannot say he is an amiable and admirable sort of guy.

  36. TOPgirl says:

    I’m sure he said it in good jest. It’s not like he called her lazy pig. Geez! He’s a millionaire and knows all too well what happens to those who lose ambition…they lose their jobs and fall ill to laziness.

  37. Robin says:

    I was amazed to discover that he is only five years older than she is.

  38. Andrea says:

    Okay, I took this a few different ways… maybe he wanted a career woman and he didn’t want someone just “milking off of him” and being a “real housewife”.

    I know my boyfriend would dump me if I said okay, support me now, and he makes 2 times as much as I do presently and will make 3 times as much in ten years time. He also if we broke up would never date anyone who he would feel was “high maintenance” or going to mooch off of him. My girlfriends feel since we have been together for years he should give me more money—I support myself on my salary and pay for half the bills—what else do I need? Any extra money he would give me would be blown on frivolous things: clothes, shoes, facials, massages, etc. I can afford everything I need on my own and even some of my wants too. I personally find my friends theory a bit like goldigging—I am unsure I will be with boyfriend forever, therefore, why take advantage? He saves his extra money for a down payment on a house and good on him for it IMO.

    He might have had a bad impression with the Linda E fiasco (a fling and a child produced in it; my worst nightmare honestly) and therefore feared Salma may be the same. Or he is just a jerk. You pick!

  39. Angelica says:

    I’m going to spare judgment on this one. I work with an Arab and a hispanic and English isn’t either of their first languages. I just saw this yesterday: girl number one says to girl number two that she’s “pretty nice” and #2 asks me if she’s normally “not nice” I laughed and said, no, #1 was saying she was “pretty and nice”. I often see this where one can try and articulate something to a friend, the boss, or a customer, and it come off meaning something kinda different. I’m mixed, so I’ve learned to brush off misused vocabulary because it happens in my family a lot too. :-)

    • Becks says:

      Correct me if I am wrong, but “pretty nice” does not mean “pretty” AND “nice”.

      The “pretty” serves as a qualifier for the adjective, which is “nice”.
      For example: How nice was your friend? Was she VERY nice, or was she only pretty nice.

      • Angelica says:

        Maybe you didn’t get what I meant. Since English is her second language, and Spanish is her first, saying “pretty nice” did mean”pretty and nice” she just has broken English so it sounded weird worded that way. She was trying to give my Arab coworker a compliment that sounded funny when it came out.

  40. EM says:

    He is perfect because he has the perfect bank account, lol

  41. Mrs.Krabapple says:

    I don’t understand how a woman can call a man who has zero interest in his own child the “perfect man.” I’m not excusing the gold diggers who deliberately get pregnant for the cash, but that’s not the child’s fault. Does he have no paternal instinct? I can see Selma marrying him because he’s rich, and they probably get along well together, and he treats HER child well. But he’s not the “perfect man” as she will find out one day when her looks fade and her marriage ends (because other than superficial looks, what did her husband see in his other baby mommy, or in her?).

    • Andrea says:

      Not all people want to be mothers or fathers. I have zero maternal instinct and therefore, do not want children. My boyfriend also has zero paternal instinct and I think if say we broke up and he got a girl pregnant, he’d hand them a check every month but would want zero interest in raising a child(in fact he told me that would be what he would do in the horror scenario for him). Salma’s husband should have gotten a vasectomy to prevent the Linda E scenario.

      • Naddie says:

        But I highly doubt you’d call your boyfriend “perfect” if he ever gets a girl pregnant and takes no interest in raising the child. I guess that’s what Mrs. Krabapple means, but she’ll correct me if I’m wrong.

  42. sauvage says:

    “I fell crazy in love with the perfect man who impregnated me and another lady on basically the same day!”

    Right, Salma. That’s what everybody wants, right?

  43. kanyekardashian says:

    Isn’t Mr. Wonderful the same dude who knocked up a couple of women and didn’t want to pay child support? Sounds fabulous.

  44. Juluho says:

    I don’t get the idea of her ‘milking off him’. Even if Selma never works again I’m positive she won’t hurt for money. It’s not like she is a normal person who stops working and doesn’t get a paycheck. Her net worth is
    85 million. Now I know that’s not comparable to the whatever billions her husband is worth but come on, the whole gold digger trope isn’t even comparable.

  45. Timbuktu says:

    I just wish celebrities, especially ones who are not 18-20 years old and falling in love for the first time, would stop using such superlatives when talking about their SO-s. It becomes really laughable when you’re on your third perfect husband or fabulous wife.
    We all understand how love works, but come on… I even side-eye my own girlfriends who seem to gush about a new guy every other month. It’s like: it’s great that you’re in love, I do want to hear about all the great things you’re doing, but let’s discuss how “perfect” he is at your first wedding anniversary, shall we? :-)

  46. Me too says:

    Okay. Raising children is NOT that hard. Working moms do everything SAHM do except SAHM have less responsibility. The difference is working mom’s have to hold down a job and juggle responsibilities. When people say being a SAHM is a job, I want to laugh. What does that say about me?? I have TWO full time jobs? Psshh! And, I am not jealous btw. I chose to go back to work because staying at home was so utterly boring. We don’t need to financially in any way. It isn’t about finances. It is about having a life purpose outside of your family; having your own goals and ambitions and being independent.

    • kay says:

      raising children is not that hard? sahm have less responsibility? being a sahm is not a job?
      oh…just finished reading the rest of your post and realized the last five sentences pretty much sum up how delusional and contradictory you are.
      good luck, financially independent, ambitious goal oriented INDEPENDENT not interested in the boring reality of full time raising of her own kids, woman.
      sure.

  47. Naddie says:

    Typical. Wife gushes about her prince charming, when everyone knows he’s way too far from that. In facebook we see a lot of this.

  48. Bunny Love says:

    Maybe he’s just cheap. Just sayin’.