Jennifer Lopez’s first instinct is to let Ben Affleck & P. Diddy drown in the ocean


I could literally spend the rest of the day just posting vintage Bennifer 1.0 photos, especially these photos where The Ghost of Wife Future, Jennifer Garner, looms over Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez prophetically. Anyway, y’all know I love some vintage Bennifer. God, those were the days. I have vivid memories of the Bennifer mess. It was glorious, it was fun, and it was crazy… and I still can’t believe both J.Lo and Affleck survived their coupling and subsequent implosion. Of course, it took years for Ben to really get his groove back.

So, why am I posting this glorious vintage photos? Well, Jennifer Lopez was doing a radio interview and she was asked a hypothetical about which of her ex-boyfriends she would save in a “raft in the middle of the ocean” type of situation. Her answer was really funny.

Jennifer Lopez deflected an incredibly awkward interview question on L.A.’s Power 106 station Monday, March 10 regarding her exes Ben Affleck and Sean “Diddy” Combs by taking the diplomatic route — sort of.

“You’re on a raft in the middle of the ocean,” show host Big Boy explained to the gorgeous star. “Oh, that would give me so much anxiety,” interrupted Lopez, 44. “Oh, this about to give you more anxiety,” Big Boy responded.

“You look in the ocean, you see two people floating,” the host continued. “You can only pull up one, because that’s how much room you have on the raft. You look in the ocean, you see Ben Affleck and you see Diddy.”

Lopez, as soon as she heard Affleck’s name, started laughing. After Diddy was named as the second option, she erupted into a full fit of giggles. “I’d let both those motherf–kers drown!” she yelled. (The star famously dated Combs, who once went by the moniker Puff Daddy or “Puffy,” from 1999 to 2001, and was with Affleck — to whom she was briefly engaged — from 2002 to 2004.)

Immediately realizing the weight of her words, Lopez quickly chimed, “That’s terrible, I’m just joking!” Extending her hand at the video camera, J.Lo added, “Ben, Puffy, you know I love you. You know it!” She added to Big Boy, “They know it…”

Still, Lopez wasn’t happy about the line of questioning on Monday’s chat. “This is the worst interview ever!” she bellowed.

[From Us Weekly]

I want to think that Jennifer’s first instinct was the one she really feels. While I’ll buy that Jennifer and Puffy are still on friendly terms – I’ve always thought he carried a flame for Jennifer for years and years after their split – I really doubt that Ben and J.Lo have any residual warmth towards each other. And so yeah, she’d probably let that motherf—er drown. Own it, J.Lo.




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  1. Suze says:

    I still call him Puff Daddy. I’m living in the past!

    Gah, that floral Emmy dress J. Lo sported was so so bad. I had forgotten that it was sheer as well as split to the bottom of her abdomen.

    I suppose she is in a better place now. But her life is not nearly so entertaining.

    • Her life is STILL entertaining…I still can’t believe that out of all the hot pieces with muscles that she has surrounding her, she had to go with the weird looking one (and that’s being NICE).

      I mean dang, Madonna has better game and taste–and she doesn’t look half as good as JLo. Plus she knows how to keep her side pieces in line–they’re not giving interviews saying that they’re the ‘head choreographer’ for her show….

    • deehunny says:

      that’s the dress that made her super famous IMO. I knew who she was before but then EVERYONE knew who she was. That slutty dress made her a star!

  2. BRE says:

    I have always thought that J Lo has distanced herself from Pdiddy because he really was involved in the shooting that he blamed on his limo driver and she witnessed it.

  3. Greata says:

    Is is wrong that I would actually like to see Bennifer together again? He lways looks like a prisoner in a cage when he is with Garner.

    • nofkksgiven says:

      I would love to see a Bennifer love story in theory – but he has so many kids with Garner…he would be kind of a slimeball to bail

      • Greata says:

        Yes..I agree.

      • bella says:

        so happy to read that I’m not the only one longing for bennifer2!
        jlo adored him (me not so much).
        but, yeah, too many innocent affleck/garner children.
        he couldn’t…and shouldn’t…and doesn’t have the guts anyway…

      • megsie says:

        I’d say he went from passionately infatuated to trapped and miserable with JLO, and happily relieved to trapped and comfortable with JG. The former is better for gossip but the latter is better for him.

    • epiphany says:

      Agree – these two were so hot together it’s palpable even in still photos. So many Hollywood romances are PR setups, but not this one. They were mad for each other.

      • Bella bella says:

        She looks mad for him but he looks so awkward in every photo, as if he wished he were someplace else.

    • Tammy White says:

      I thought he looked miserable with Jlo.

      • megsie says:

        I don’t know what happened but he went from out of his head infatuated to dead man walking misery almost overnight. Look at those pics above. He looks like he wants to vomit. Ah well, sexual love never lasts.

      • hiddlesgirl85 says:

        I agree. He did look miserable with JLO.

      • Tracy says:

        I agree Tammy.

      • Brittaki says:

        Maybe he was miserable with J.Lo because she forced him to spray tan and wear matching velour sweatsuits to the gym. Google it, the sweatsuit photos are hysterical and cripplingly sad at the same time.

      • epiphany says:

        Really? It’s interesting how everyone has a different view of the same thing. I think he looks miserable now, with Garner. I agree that he looked PO’d when the paps were chasing him during the JLo years, but it seemed to like the relationship between the two of them made him very happy. Who knows?

      • Kosmos says:

        I like Ben 100% more now that he’s with Jennifer Garner, a great mother and woman, a good example for other women. But JLo, Ugggg is all I can say. I’m sure JLo would be difficult and really test a relationship. It’s a well known fact that she has this huge, pushy entourage do her bidding. I’m so glad it turned out this way….I’m sure she has no trouble calling the shots with Casper.

    • Megan says:

      Omg yes lol I feel bad saying that cuz I like Garner and of course they have kids, but you can’t deny those two were crazy for each other. Like Jennifer is very pretty but JLo is a BOMBSHELL and still looks it. You could tell that Ben adored her. I do think they were very happy righ until the last moment.

      I’m not even a big fan of hers but Bennifer kinda started it all. It was such a roller coaster ride of two beautiful people that even though it didn’t last and produced terrible films, I still remember it fondly.

  4. MrsBPitt says:

    I loved her comment, cause I probably would have said the same about my exes…I would love to think that she would save Ben, cause I think she really, really, really loved him…I remember so many pics where she was looking at him so adoringly…I’ve never seen her look at any other guy that way! They were such a gorgeous couple, and those were some great gossip days!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Me, too. I’m not a huge fan of hers, but I thought that was funny. And probably honest to a point. I guess I would reluctantly haul my ex over the side of the boat to keep him from drowning, but then I’d whack him in the head with an oar so I didn’t have to listen to his stupid mouth. Lol.

    • danielle says:

      Bennifer 1.0 the good old days! They were fun and hot.

    • Lauraq says:

      Gonna have to agree…I would save my exes because that’s what God would want me to do, but I wouldn’t let them ON my raft, they would have to hold on and swim along.

  5. Anna says:

    Hi the thing that always annoyed me with Jlo and the whole Bennifer case was how ‘American’ she was, it like she bleached her hair blonde, tanned her self and wore floral dresses. She look like she was somehow trying not to be a latino but an all american women to please Ben, does that make sense? I always got the feeling that during that time she was trying to distract herself from her latino root and trying to be more mainstream and too fit in.
    I always felt she was more latin and more into her root when she was Puff Daddy, I didn’t get that vibe when she was Ben.

    (Please bare with me, I’m running on 2 hrs sleep!).

    • AG-UK says:

      She didn’t really need to be tanned as she is Latin so olive to begin with. She looks so young in the first photo but I must admit I love her laugh and now I can see her as one of the dancers on In Living Color. I never got Bennifer such an odd coupling.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      First of all, JLO IS American she was born in New York, and there is NO American look, we are a melting pot of cultures and races, and thats fantastic…I didn’t find her toning down her Hispanic roots at all…if anyone was doing a make over, it was JLO making over Ben. He never looked better than when he was with JLO. He always looked so put together and well groomed. These days, he always looks like a bum…

    • hiddlesgirl85 says:

      OK– I think we can all gather what Anna is trying to say. She does not mean that JLO was trying to be more “American,” (as I’m certain she knows that JLO is from the Bronx) rather, Anna means JLO was “WASPY” while she was dating Ben. And I tend to agree. JLO was trying to be WASPY when she was with Ben, and Less Puerto Rican; essentially, more “white” and appeal more to the Minivan majority. While with Diddy she was more “Urban,” and played up her ‘Jenny from the Block’ persona.

      I mean for both, she was definitely at different places in her life. I will say that the fact that JLO was trying to change who she was, while dating Ben, speaks volumes to their incompatibility. She felt that she needed to dilute herself, style, and culture while with Ben in order to fit in with him, his family, and his friends. Alternatively, the argument can be made that Ben tried to change himself as well. He got a tan, and was always clean shaven, with slick-backed hair. That’s never a good sign in a relationship when either one or both of the partners are changing themselves that drastically.

      And JLO was a tanned mess when she was with Ben. Remember their Oscar’s appearnace? She was tanned there to the high heavens. And yes–Olive-skinned (and darker) people can get tans.

      • Anna says:

        Hi yes that what I meant! She was trying to hide her root so too speak and to fit in with the image majority at the time. I didn’t mean to offend people, it always annoyed me that Jlo was hiding her Latino root.

      • MrsBPitt says:

        Why do you blame Ben for JLO trying to change…She doesn’t seem like the type to let a man walk all over her…maybe if she was trying to be appeal to the “minivan” crowd, it was her own idea…

      • Lauraq says:

        I remember very clearly an interview I read with J-LO in Cosmo. She never tanned. It was all bronzer, because she was afraid of skin cancer. Whether that makes her over tanned appearance better or worse is up to you.

    • Daphne says:


      Remember JLo from the beginning to now. She was a chameleon.

  6. Whoa, wait. J.Lo and Ben Affleck were together when he did ‘Daredevil’? I didn’t know that. It’s kind of interesting to see how differently their lives went. I’m actually surprised that Jennifer Garner got with him—he wasn’t a hot commodity at all–wasn’t he in actor jail for a good five years of their marriage–until he made ‘Gone Baby Gone’?? I think that he’s a good guy, for the most part, for her to have gotten with him when he was pretty much at his lowest point.

    I’m just struck by the image of JLo in that ugly sheer, ice skaterish, if it isn’t Marchesa then I’d be VERY surprised, gown—doing the nude lip, body on display, presenting a crappy, generic action film at the freaking GOLDEN GLOBES–while your ex-fiance is in the audience with his hot wife (I LOVE Jennifer’s skin, she needs to do an interview, because her skin is always flawless) who is nominated for a Golden Globe for Best Picture—how far he’s come, without her, while she’s still doing the same old, same old.

    Case in point:×580.jpg (Jennifer’s boobs look amazing)×372/benandjenGG.jpg

    I’d just be embarrassed..I don’t know if that’s a bad thing or not.

  7. kibbles says:

    That was a good answer and reaction. People would be making a bigger deal over her comments if she had chosen one over the other and/or had acted serious about her response. Knowing how selfish this woman is, I wouldn’t be surprised if she did leave both in the water, but I also suspect that she would save P.Diddy first.

    • megs283 says:

      Yeah, I mean, what kind of question is that? I guess the “best” answer would be to say that all three of you would take turns on the raft…? Are there sharks in the water?

  8. QQ says:

    Hmm ive seen a couple of blind items that she is more than on friendly terms with both of them now and again, Like Diddy loans her money and something about dissapearing with Ben in a hotel a while ago but definitile within the past 2 years

    • V4Real says:

      First I must say that answer JLo gave was funny as hell.

      Secondly, I also heard rumors of her and Ben still hooking up from time to time. I’m not a fan of JLo but I liked Ben with her, he had swag. With Garner he just looks like the life has been sucked out of him. Ok, that was mean but I don’t apologize for it.

  9. lucy2 says:

    I love that first photo with Garner hovering in the air behind them.
    I’d like to know what Affleck thought was so unfair about JLo’s life – the press attention? She played a LOT of that up. The big movie and music deals, despite very minimal talent?

    • I think he’s just trying to be nice and diplomatic….if he was trash talking her about all the attention, then we’d be on here saying that he benefited from it (although in the long run, he didn’t), and it didn’t seem to bother him when they were together, etc.

      I would also say I’m glad that it’s not something that he needs to hide. Like I know that there are a ton of cheating rumors—I have no clue if that’s his rep….like did the cheating rumors start up after he got with Jennifer, because he was just in a high profile relationship with Jennifer Lopez, or is it because he’s actually a cheater? Has he ever been caught w/strippers or anything like that? I heard his issue was gambling.

      But anyway, if he’s friends with JLo, and he didn’t say that to the press, when asked (when he could’ve easily vetoed the question), but tried to play it off like they never spoke or anything–then I’d be pissed if I was Jennifer Garner. Because that to me makes it seem like he’s trying to hide something–even though she would presumably know that they email each other occasionally.

      Or maybe he’s talking about how it’s still following her (although to be fair, she hasn’t really done anything of note besides get a shit ton of money to do American Idol, get pregnant with twins, divorce the Skeletor, and bang an ugly piece with a hot body who thinks he’s WAY bigger than he really is), while he’s pretty much escaped that (through his own hard work, but still).
      If I hadn’t read this site, the only thing I would know about Ben is that he has the cute, dimply kids with Jennifer Garner, and is a pretty good director/actor. That’s how the majority of the public (who doesn’t follow this kind of stuff) sees him—JLo is a whole different story, good or bad.

  10. nycmom says:

    The dress was Versace.

  11. Talie says:

    She made Ben look good. Had him at his peak — now he’s a bit of a sad sack.

  12. Erinn says:

    I love rounder faced Ben. He was adorbs.
    I’ve never been on the JLo bandwagon though. I hate how she’s always had her hair pulled back so tight in almost every style.

  13. eliza says:

    Someone needs to let her ego drown.

  14. JoJo says:

    I’ve never understood the vitriol toward her. She is what she is. She’s harmless and entertaining enough. She’s a Latina and that’s her style. She and Ben just seemed to be completely different people at their roots. It’s no one’s “fault.” If anything, it was Ben’s fault – he chose that over the top lifestyle when was with her. JLo was just living the way she always had and still does. Nothing new there. I’ve never gotten this idea that somehow she wrecked his career. Um, no … He did that. She was just a convenient excuse for his own decisions. The whole “bad” Bennifer to “Martha-Stewart-land” Bennifer2 image transformation is just so simplistic and ridiculous.

    • Unless he was trash talking her after getting with Jennifer Garner, I don’t see anything wrong with moving on. He is who is he is, and so is she. When you get together with someone, sometimes you do things that make THEM happy, not you, necessarily. I don’t really see Ben Affleck as someone who LOVES the media–I mean yeah, there are a ton of pap photos of him and his kids–but he doesn’t really seem to relish in the attention. I think that he let JLo make him over how SHE wanted him, did that stupid music video because SHE wanted it, did that crappy movie(s) (was there more than one?)–because it made HER happy.

      Look at how he’s living versus how he was with her. I think there’s a huge change. And I’ve never heard HIM blame HER for how his career went while they were together. He may have been influenced by her, but it was his decision. And he has apparently learned from that.
      He’s not trash talking her, he’s actually going out of his way to say that they’re still friendly–so I don’t get the big deal.

    • Geekychick says:

      I think the Bennifer 2 was a conscious image-change move.

      • MrsBPitt says:

        This is horrible to say, but I think if JG hadn’t gotten pregnant, Ben wouldn’t be married to her today…

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        It might’ve been i.e. him getting with a ‘good girl’ and starting a family–but you don’t do something like that, strictly for pr, without it falling apart eventually.

        They’ve been together for nearly ten years—if it was just an image, it would be gone by now.

      • Helena Hand-Basquet says:

        @MrsBPitt Same here. I never thought Ben/Jen 2.0 would last. I don’t doubt he loves his kids, but he always looks miserable when he’s with his family (outside of award campaigning season that is).

      • Bella bella says:

        Helena, I think he always looks miserable because the paps hang out in front of his house and take pictures of his kids. I sure would hate being photographed first thing or every day.

    • Toot says:

      Well said and agree.

  15. Dhavynia says:

    I would think she would let anyone drown regardless if it’s an ex a friend or relative.

    JLo is all about JLo and it’s all about her

    I actually think she got together with these two for fame, especially with Puffy or whatever he calls himself these days

  16. Dimebox says:

    I get it that the Bennifer days were great for gossip, but that music video he did with her gave me a near fatal case of second hand embarrassment.

  17. Jayna says:

    I think Ben and Jen do. He has said last year they have emailed congratulating each other on different things over the years. Obviously, they are fine with each other to do that.

  18. The Original Mia says:

    Sounds about right. Diddy doesn’t mention her & Ben spends most interviews blaming her for his choices. Neither are worth her time. And I don’t even like her all that much.

  19. Nicolette says:

    Her first response was her honest response, and after thinking about how that made her sound she back tracked. I’d rather she had left it at that. I’m sure everyone has an ex in their past that they would wave to from that raft.

  20. Geekychick says:

    Yeah, Ben Affleck-I’d let him drown and shove him deeper for better results. He’s the best example of hipocrisy in HW:
    J. Lo. and he break up-he throws her under the bus;
    marries and goes on about his privacy and paps and his kids
    directs ambitious movie written for USA and their Academy-pap pics of him with kids all around, all year round;
    cheats aforementioned wife (witness right here on CB, and it was funny, because the story came up from another (blog or news?) source few days later) constantly-but hey, he’s so handsome, and his kids go around with their mom, so he is just fine. WQe all love him. Kill those s*uts who cheat or are with the cheaters, but Ben is just about perfect. Ugh. Sexism in society today. Boggles my mind.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      I never heard Ben throw JLO under the bus…I’ve heard him say that because they were both famous, the press hounded them and thats what eventually broke them up…and if there is any concrete proof that BA had cheated on JG, it would be everywhere…I have only seen tabloid rumors…the same tabloid rumers that you hear about 90% of actors…

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        I’ve heard rumors about him and Blake Lively, and that he cheats with a bunch of randoms.

        And if he cheated as many times as the tabloids said, I would think that some dumb cocktail waitress who wants to be a D list celeb would come forward–like Emily Goodhand. Like all the women that came forward when Tiger Woods got caught–or Jessie James. There’s a ton of rumors, but no unnamed women who want to step forward–especially since the rumors I hear are that he bangs waitresses, not fellow actresses. Not one.

      • megsie says:

        This is what gives me pause. If he is indeed screwing so many no name randoms I’m shocked not a one has come forward. Fellow actresses (Lively) may very well wish to keep hush for their own benefit but would the waitress/stripper/Vegas blackjack dealer? Honestly, how many women can he pay off? Occasionally high price escort service lists will be made public, yet Ben hasn’t turned up on one since his marriage. The Jlo engagement was trashed when a Vancouver stripper told her Ben story, yet not a one since? Not sure what to make of it.

      • Bella bella says:

        megsie, Maybe he is good in bed? That is often a reason a woman keeps it to herself.

  21. Toot says:

    I loved her original response. LOL

  22. Nev says:

    Hahahahahahaha love it.

  23. Dizzle says:

    Is it bad that I want to frame those Bennifer photos and put them on my desk? The seafoam green dress/makeup from the Oscar appearance is EVERYTHING.

    • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

      That was when she was trying to copy Jackie O for a hot minute….I wish she’d stuck with it, and maybe snagged herself a hot billionaire who worships her.

    • danielle says:

      +1 my all time favorite look for her.

  24. NeNe says:

    I have no doubt she meant to say she would let them both drown. She is so full of herself that it makes me sick. As I have always said and will continue to say P. Diddy made her. Without him, I don’t think she would have the career she does not. At least, this is my opinion.

    • Eve says:

      To be fair to her, she does credit Diddy for connecting her to important people that helped her evolve from being somewhat famous to superstar statues. She did a documentary recently about her life and she did state that it was Diddy who advised her how to move forward with her career back then and connected her with her now long time manager Benny Medina.

      PS. I always wondered if Ben and JG had any type of a romantic/fancy each other thing when they were filming Daredevil because it wasn’t that long after he and J lo broke up that her moved on with JG. Does anyone know?

      • megsie says:

        there were plenty of rumors back in the day about a flirtation or even full blown affair on the Daredevil set. One story had JLo surprising them in the trailer. Recently, Ben admitted this is when he and Garner fell in love. Didn’t admit to an affair though ;)

      • Eve says:

        Thanks megsie for the info, that’s some juicy stuff. If Ben and JG did indeed fell in love on the set of Daredevil then Ben really was a slime-ball for later proposing to J LO. I wonder how JG felt about the Ben and J lo mega publicized proposal, though JG was still married at that time, right?

      • megsie says:

        Oh the Bennifer Chronicles are nothing if not juicy. I think Ben was caught with JLo with no way (or a very difficult way) out. Jen’s marriage it wasn’t going well though they were supposedly still trying to work it out. So I guess JG and Ben went their separate ways after filming and tried to make the best of their respective situations. I suspect Ben’s proposal to JLo was somewhat guilt fueled. The pics from that Daredevil premiere though .. the tension is palpable.

  25. Tammy White says:

    Am I the only that thinks he looked like he was miserable with Jlo? He doesn’t look ecstatic with Jennifer Garner either but at least he looks more comfortable. I don’t get the whole Jlo got him at his peak…no! If anything, he’s at his peak now…at least professionally. Jlo may have adored him but she also embarrassed him.

    • Ennie says:

      SHE EMBARRASED HIM? he was the one who (IRC) bought a bags at some newspaper pressing JLO on her beauty and intelligence, all while she was still married with the quiet dancer type. He totally disregarded that she was married, and she fell head over heels with the WASPY talented oscar winner HW actor. Of course.
      HE was the one slapping (or kissing?) her butt in that music video, he did so willingly. I think they were BOTH cheesy and corny, equally over the top. They believed their own hype.
      She is still a diva, but she can putt it off.

      • Anon says:

        @ Ennie : Kissing :-) I ‘m an olds I thought; he is going to be angry with himself some day for being in the video and kissing her butt. Live and learn Ben.

  26. littlemissnaughty says:

    I love her. She does what she’s supposed to do, entertain me. Her taste in men is atrocious though and it’s not even like there’s any improvement with age. Speaking of … does she not age at all???

    • idk says:

      I know seriously, she doesn’t age. She looks amazing. She doesn’t look plastic or heavy into botox either. I heard she uses a very expensive anti-aging cream. Something us common folk could never afford. She also has good genes. Have you seen her mother? She looks good for her age.

  27. Emmilyn says:

    That was so funny! I love JLO!

  28. Meggin says:

    Hahaha that was hilarious, I laughed. j.Lo!

  29. Penelope says:

    Casper is downright creepy looking.

  30. Fan says:

    Very funny. She was just trying to be fair but I think she would drown Ben more than P. Diddy.

  31. Tig says:

    Ages ago, there was a show called Dinner for Five, or something along those lines, hosted by Jon Favreau. One night Jennifer G and Ben were on, with some other folks. I believe it was right around DD or that Electra movie came out. Anyway, JG was so gaga over Ben it was almost painful to watch. She clearly loves him, so hope he feels the same.

    My fav pap shot of Bennifer was him messaging her back on some yacht- they truly had the hots for one another!

  32. YvetteW says:

    No biggie. I would let both of them sink and I never dated either one!

  33. The Voice says:

    In all these pictures Ben looks either: 1) bored, 2) miserable, or 3) grumpy. And very tan. I think he was embarrassed by their relationship even though it was clear something was keeping them together. That video of him stroking her backside was pretty hot but that was then. He’s clearly a family man now… During awards season. JLo does look amazing though. She doesn’t age!

  34. Porsha says:

    Remember the incident just before the wedding was called off with Affleck – National Enquirer rang a story – party at house with Tara Reid Christian Slater and Affleck was with a stripper she sold her story to the tabloid

  35. madeline7 says:

    How many celebs have their relationships ( over 10 yrs old) analyzed ‘ad nauseum’ – as if every ingenue in LA was virginal, ,except Jennifer? Each couple broke up over a decade ago, with no reminiscent experiences. Though their break-ups were not amicable, they have crossed similar paths, and are friendly terms now.. What a silly question..