Kirstie Alley claims Patrick Swayze was in love with her, although he turned her down

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Kirstie Alley is promoting her new memoir, The Art of Men [I Prefer Mine al Dente], which is out today. In a new interview with Entertainment Tonight, Kirstie reveals one of the bombshells in her book – that she was “in love” with Patrick Swayze when they were both married to other people and working on a TV movie together, “North and South,” in 1985. Kirstie would have been 34 at the time, and Swayze was 33. While she insists they did not have an “affair,” she admits that they were emotionally involved, adding “I think what we did was worse.” In Kristie’s mind, the fact that Patrick turned her down didn’t mean he wasn’t into her at all. This excerpt, from ET, leaves out the detail that Kirstie “propositioned Patrick one night, but he turned her away.”

Kirstie Alley reveals to ET’s Chris Jacobs intimate details about what she says was a powerful attraction and hidden relationship with her North and South co-star, Patrick Swayze. Although both stars were married during filming of the mini-series, Alley tells Jacobs when she first saw Swayze, they had an intense attraction and she tried to avoid “going down that road,” but they ultimately fell in love.

“Both of us were married. We did not have an affair. But again, I think what I did was worse. Because I think when you fall in love with someone when you’re married, you jeopardize your own marriage and their marriage. It’s doubly bad,” said Alley.

Alley goes on to say that although she’s friends with Patrick’s wife, Lisa Niemi, who asked Alley to speak at Swayze’s funeral, she is uncertain if Lisa is aware of their relationship.

[From ET Online]

Kirstie also told ET that “after Patrick, I made a decision that I was not ever going to involve myself with anyone married.” Here’s the thing, Kirstie was on her second marriage at the time of her affair/flirtation with Patrick Swayze. She was also 34, more than old enough to know better, and of course she would have had a relationship with him, but Patrick turned her down! Still he was “in love” with her. Hopefully Patrick’s widow, Lisa Niemi, realizes that her late husband didn’t go there and that Kirstie is deluded.

In another interview, with Barbara Walters, Kirstie called John Travolta the “greatest love of my life” and claimed that while they were filming Look Who’s Talking, in 1989, “It took everything that I had, inside, outside, whatever, to not run off and marry John. And be with John for the rest of my life.” John didn’t marry Kelly Preston until 1991, but Kirstie was married at that time. She said she didn’t hook up with Travolta because “I feel like when you marry someone you’re supposed to work hard at it, and you’re supposed to make it work.” So she avoided married men after she learned from her experience getting rejected by Patrick Swayze, but it didn’t seem to matter that she was married. She’s calling some guy the “love of her life” who was only her buddy and co-star and likely wasn’t interested in her at all, considering that she’s a woman. She thinks men are much more into her than they are. It’s possible she’s full of it though, and is just name-dropping in order to promote her book. Given that she’s talking about a beloved departed actor, that scenario would be more despicable than her “secret relationship” claims which fall flat.

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  1. Lake Mom says:

    The more she speaks, the more I dislike her. Patrick Swayze was devoted and head over heels in love with his wife. I don’t believe Kirstie’s stories for a minute.

    • Esmom says:

      Yes, he probably said something sweet and/or flattering to her because he was a nice guy and Kirstie was all “he’s in love with me.”

    • Adrien says:

      Agree, his wife was his high-school sweetheart.

    • CC says:

      yea, Patrick Swayze was one of the rare guys that only had eyes for his wife Lisa, all evidence always pointed that way.

      I’m sire Kirstie was interested (what 30-ish year old woman at the time wouldn’t? I had a crust at my-then 12-15 years old). He was probably trying to be nice and charming, and then saw “WTF is she trying to come on to me? No thanks”.

    • emmie_a says:

      Yes. This is incredibly insensitive to Swayze’s wife. Why would Kirstie publicize a somewhat scandalous story about a man who unfortunately cannot defend himself?

      And also unfortunately, her plan is working because she’s all over the news and gossip sites today

    • jc126 says:


    • erika says:

      whoooaa…wait a minute, are you saying you don’t believe a Scientologist is telling the truth???

      Shame Xenu on you!

      i regret clicking to read this story, i forgot that I am on an ‘all scientologist/actor/actress ban’ … if she’s as easily brainwashed by the CO$ then yes…i believe ‘her side’ of the story 100%

      • Sue ya says:

        I just assumed that the JT story was a lie and that it was the COS that is directed Kristy Alley to say this to combat the JT gay rumors. Seems like an easy win-win. KA gets to push a steamy story which she loves to do that benefits JT and of course, gets JT more devoted to COS for helping him out.

    • The Original Genevieve says:

      Dear Christ.

      I have always enjoyed and been somewhat amused by Kirstie Alley’s goofy, hot mess of a personality and her propensity for self-deprecation.

      Then, I found out she was a CO$-bot. Strike #!. Her defense of Tom Cruise was Strike #2.

      But THIS?! The fact that she could subject Lisa Swayze to this kind of speculation and pain is unfathomable.

      Strike #3, babe. You’re OUT!! :(

    • Jane says:

      >>The more she speaks, the more I dislike her.<<

      Exactly how I feel. I haven't liked her for a long time because I have heard her say some some pretty insensitive things trying to act like she actually has something to say.

      She basically just betrayed any friendship she says she has with Lisa by gossiping about this non-affair affair, but she obviously doesn't care about that as long as she sells her book. Actually, who knows if this story is true or all in her head.

      I think Kirsty is desperate to stay relevant, but writing a book about what she knows about men is laughable.

    • JudyK says:

      She sounds deluded and not too bright.

  2. Po says:

    She’s a hot mess. That’s all.

    • Samigirl says:

      Agreed. I’m actually home with my sick little guy today and we are watching It Takes Two as I type this. She was so pretty and seems…well…sane. Guess that means she’s a great actress, hahaha.

      • Julie says:

        I love It Takes Two! There are so many great lines in that movie.

      • Canda says:

        I remember the year they filmed that movie at my summer sleepaway camp… they built cabins strictly for shooting the movie and then tore them down afterwards. I thought “Ooh, maybe I’ll be assigned to stay in a cool cabin with actual doors and screens (the cabins at this camp had canvas over the windows & doors, and no screens)… but no such luck. Too bad the camp is a whackadoodle bible-thumping camp bc I can’t recommend it, but it does have beautiful scenery there.

  3. Jayna says:

    What a bitch. Friends with Lisa and puts this nonsense in a book. Guess what, over the course of a Hollywood marriage, I’m sure playful on set flirtations happen and maybe a few deep conversations over drinks as the months pass on set. It doesn’t mean he’s in love with you or wanted you, Kirstie. How pathetic you propositioned him and he turned you down and you still delude yourself he was in love with you. More importantly, how disrespectful to his widow, supposedly your friend, to write this crap in your

    The John Travolta story was laughable enough. Calling a man the love of your
    life that you never had a relationship with and who is gay.

    I really dislike you now for the Patrick Swayze comments. Sell that book with your made-up delusional fantasies.

  4. marie says:

    That’s a total dick move, he’s not alive to defend himself and she’s despicable. And like Lake Mom said, he was completely in love with his wife.

  5. shixa says:

    I don’t see how she was ever considered “hot” even back in the day. We had mighty slim pickins back then, eh?

    • fabgrrl says:

      Oh gosh, I used to think she was stunning. Tall, brunette, smart, slim but not a stick. I thought she really stood out in the 80s.

    • Just Me says:

      Back in the day, Kirstie Alley was drop dead GORGEOUS. Unfortunately, now she has a bad case of the crazy eyes.

      • Roxy says:

        She was fabulously gorgeous, I am sure he was very attracted to her. Of course she was to him! But thats just human and normal, he didn’t want an affair, he could have if he had wanted it, apparently. This seems to be a 1-sided love affair. Good for Patrick. But now I just feel sad for his widow. Who will probably no longer be her friend, unless she cleared it with her or warned her 1st. I do hope she did. For her age, Kirstie is still very beautiful. When she loses weight, she’s still killer. But she can say some stupid sh**. Blame her religion. BTW-That mini-series is amazing! I wish I owned it!! She was pretty much a whore in it, from a rich family and ended up with George Stanford Brown and impoverished. The story is great!! Maybe she’s hoping for dvd sales and residuals? Not joking!

      • Elizabeth says:

        Re : Roxy
        Lisa always sounded like a really classy lady and her marriage always seemed strong. Maybe Lisa can tell herself this is just crazy Kristie. Then Lisa can take the high road and still stay K’s friend. But I would understand if Lisa feels she needs some “time away” from the friendship right now.

      • Just Me says:

        Roxy – North and South? OMG how I loved it!!!!

    • Carolyn says:

      North & South was fabulous. It was the first glimpse for a lot of us of the hotness and adorableness that was Patrick Swayze (in case we hadn’t noticed him in The Outsiders).

      Kirstie. Just. Shut. Up. Oh that’s right, gotta book to promote.

      She really was gorgeous waaay back then. Did she have an affair with what’s his name in Cheers? (name escapes me).

  6. Ellie66 says:

    Blah she needs to stop! I used to really like her but she has gotten weird ( and not in a good way).

  7. mln76 says:

    Ugh…the man is dead and can’t defend himself and his widow went through hell supporting him during his battle with cancer its just so low of her to pick at his grave to pump up her ego. I have always found her grating since Cheers but what was once a slight distaste has turned to true repulsion…ugh

  8. andy says:

    Patrick turned you down, Kirstie. He just wasn’t that into you. I feel sad for people that can’t take a hint.

  9. Cirque28 says:

    Did Swayze tell her he was in love silently, with his eyes?

    I’m guessing it was too big of a feeling to involve words or actions. Heh. ;)

  10. Gh says:

    He was in love with her, but turned her down?

  11. SusieQ2 says:

    This woman is delusional in more ways than one.

  12. Ranunculus says:

    Yuck, this woman is truly disgusting! Goes to show you that scientology can seriously f*ck you up.

    • badrockandroll says:

      Chicken or egg – I think that youhave to be a bit crazy in the first case to be attracted to CO$, but it certainly doesn’t make you sane! Maybe she’ll have a story about how Tommy was i love with her too!

  13. aims says:

    tacky. patrick was madly in love with lisa. they had a good marriage, which is a rarity. if i were lisa id be pissed. talking about my dead husband. lisa knows her husband and knows what there life was..

    as far as john goes, good luck with that.

  14. Zigggy says:

    Not cool.

  15. Shelley says:

    Has she no respect for his widow?????? What fame whoring. She must stick to her unsuccessful battle with obesity! I used to like her but I’m officially over her

  16. India says:

    Her looks have really degenerated since 1985. She was good looking in North and South but not now and I don’t mean just with the weight gain. Ugh.

  17. MoxyLady007 says:

    Did she read his mind with her Xenu powers? Is that how she knew he was in love with her even though he turned her down and was devoted to his wife? Maybe Xenu gave her power over men. Just like Tommy.

  18. fabgrrl says:

    Even if Patrick Swayze was “in love” with her (which she certainly has NOT proven) he did not act on it and remained loyal to his wife. What a bitch to do this to his family! and his memory!

    Patrick Swayze = gentleman

  19. atorontogal says:

    She needs to be gagged and perhaps bound cuz I’m sick of seeing her move on every week on DWTS while other more deserving people are sent packing!

  20. Caroline says:

    Is part of being a Scientologists making up a reality that suits your purposes? Seriously, they all seem to lie a lot. John Travolta is gay, but nice try Kirstie. Good to see you’re a loyal friend. I lived in Vancouver when Look Who’s Talking was filming and even back then, there were rumours of JT trolling Stanley Park at a place called the loop. It was known for gay pick ups. There were stories about thinks he did every time he filmed in Vancouver and were from pretty accurate sources. Patrick Swayze is dead and can’t defend himself. The fact he didn’t take her up on her offer speaks volumes about him and makes her sound like she misread his kindness for attraction.

    • MoxyLady007 says:

      Actually yes. Appearance and perception are more important than reality in Scientology. Excellent point.

    • Elizabeth says:

      +1. I think Swayze turned her down but was gracious about it and too much of a professional to let it interfere with their work relationship. He was a gentleman and she mistook his caring manner for something else IMO. But I wasnt’ there, so who knows?

  21. Sisi says:

    she was so pretty back in the day, but in that second pic she looks just like Chyna… yikes

  22. Cam S says:

    Should we believe anything that comes out of a Scientologist’s mouth? :)

  23. effy says:

    Just shut up already!
    She’s making me miss Patrick all over.
    Damn he looks hot in that first picture.

    • CC says:

      Ditto, I think I’ll have a Patrick Swayze mini-marathon. North and South book 1 and 2 (not 3 though), Dirty Dancing…. uhh…. Ghost, maybe, if I manage to stand the sight od Demi Moore’s “acting”.

      • Roxy says:

        OMG! I am there!!! “Ghost” is awesome, Whoopie and Patrick make that movie! N&S , anytime!!! Jammies, wine and all those movies, you forgot “Point Break”…my gawd, thats a hot one! I am with you!

      • lilred says:

        Can we please include the outsiders????That was the movie that I first fell in love with him :-)

      • pwal says:

        Holy hell… Swayze was so sexy in North and South.

    • fabgrrl says:

      I never found him “handsome”, and the mullet, ug! no. But he always looked so strong and graceful (being a dancer and all). Very sexy.

  24. SolitaryAngel says:

    Ok, that’s just IT. How dare she bring up Patrick like that?! Like y’all said, he’s not able to defend himself against that (although I think if he were, he would deflect her delusional comments with the classic grace & kindness that has always been his hallmark) statement. She needs to shut her damn mouth and go away; be thankful her crap career is being revived such as it is on DWTS. Poor Lisa–she really DID lose the love of her life, and now she has to hear this bullsh!t??

    Kirstie, you are delusional, classless, graceless, talentless and crass beyond measure. You belong with the Kartrashians.

    • fabgrrl says:

      You are totally right! Patrick Swayze would say something about how wonderful and lovely Kirstie Alley is and what a pleasure it was to work with her, etc.

  25. NerdMomma says:

    This story just made me completely hate Kirstie Alley. I’m guessing Lisa is no longer her friend. Anything to sell a book, including selling out friends. Wow. I am 100% sure it’s not going to be worth it. Who gives a &^%$ about this woman? She’s selling a stupid book and fraudulent “diet” pills. Scientology really screws celebs up, huh.

    • Roxy says:

      But apparently it’s ok to cheat with your friends husbands if you’re a $cino? Even if it is just in your own mind? LOL

  26. Dredz says:

    Very touching article:,,20424842,00.html

  27. Kim says:

    Patrick and Lisa separated and got back together he was a alcoholic so. their marriage was not perfect.Still either discuss their affair. when he is alive or leave it in the vault

  28. Dredz says:

    Patrick was in love with Lisa, deal with it Kirstie!.

  29. Blondie says:

    So a gay guy was in love with her and Patrick was in love with her but didn’t act on it…
    Delusional much Kirstie…
    And her face is scary

  30. Sarah says:

    Marks my words, this is the type of book we will be getting from Taylor Swift in the future.

  31. Dani says:

    She’s even more delusional than Kim Kardashian saying she’s a size 2.

  32. Lady LaLa says:

    Just. Go. AWAY….

  33. Just Me says:

    Psssht. Kirstie. Why you lyin?? Patrick was secretly in love with ME!

  34. Jazz says:

    Anthing that comes out of a $cientologist’s mouth is delusional crap. What a sh-tty thing to do to Lisa when he’s not here to defend himself.

  35. EllenOlenska says:

    Patrick actually mentions in the extras to the North and South dvd set that their characters were supposed to be secretly sort of attracted to each other (I’m doing this from memory so dont take it perfectly literally).

    I’m sure Patrick and Lisa’s marriage wasnt perfect, both have said so. But Kirstie needed to eat it on this one, true or not. Or have declared it a one way street the way she declared her Travolta love.

    I do know that at one point Patrick mentioned he had dabbled in many major religions/spiritual movements including scientology (and got out)in his early career. I have to wonder if perhaps she was trying to draw him in. Is her former husband, Parker stevenson a scientologist??

    According to some recent news articles Lisa Neimi recently found someone new but seriously, she shouldnt have to deal with this crap. What is proves, if nothing else, is that Kirstie is one lousy friend to have…

  36. SleepyJane says:

    May this be the grand finale of her media presence. What a disgusting pile of garbage she is.

  37. MerryHappy says:

    This bitch.
    Next it’ll be Tim Allen was the one who got away during For Richer or Poorer.
    She is embarrassing her children.

  38. Mom says:

    Whatever went on with John Travolta or Patrick Swayze, we’ll never really know. She is just plain tacky for talking about any lover or wannabe lover this way. We’ve all had tremendous loves in our lives. No need to broadcast it. She was completely dishonest losing her weight and this may all just be a smoke screen.

  39. evie says:

    My god, when she start looking like Howard Stern??

    What a crazy-ass bitch she is for bringing this bull up now. She is beyond ridiculous.

  40. Memphis says:

    Kirstie…everyone that that treats you with kindness is not in love with you. That’s called stalker logic.

    You’re delusional and you’re a bitch to put this out there while still calling his widow your friend.

  41. lena80 says:

    Attention whore.

  42. Amory says:

    She’s been the punch line of a joke for a long time. It’s sad that she’s trying to be relevant again by dragging everyone else through the mud. Even if she did love Patrick, she should know that opening her fat mouth would have devastated Lisa, which in turn would be the worst thing possible for Patrick.

    But she can only think of her own need to be talked about again. She’s a complete and total loser.

  43. Agnes says:

    i bet she’s balls-out delusional on this.

  44. Green_Eyes says:

    Curious as to when that Scientology Spaceship is going to come pick up all of their “Geniuses” as they all are by human rational sounding quite nuts these days!

  45. Suze says:

    While the Swayze marriage wasn’t perfect – Patrick had his battles and they were separated for a while – his widow doesn’t need to read this ridiculous tripe.

    It’s very likely that he was sweet to her during the filming, and possible that he flirted with her (she was very hot back in the day), but I doubt love was in the mix. And since nothing happened, the story should have remained untold by Miss Perfect Size Six.

  46. lori says:

    David Miscavage is probably making her say that sh1t about John Travolta. They still think some people think he is straight.

  47. CdnDutchGirl says:

    Beyond all of the very valid reasons already pointed out, wasn’t she also addicted to coke? I think she’s a desperate famewhore anyhow, but why would I believe someone who was out of it around the time of this story? (Unless my timeline is wrong, but my opinion of her being a liar stands.)

  48. Melissa says:

    You can ‘love’ a person and still not want to be with them for plenty of valid reasons. They aren’t good for you, you are in a relationship but want to get out first, you’re moving, you’re to busy to be with them at that time ext ext. Love doesnt conquer all like it does in movies.

    However, I don’t think this was the case with Patrick. I think she must be confuseing ‘love’ with lust or infatuation. How many guys on movie sets can you fall madly in love with? And if you’re already in love (she was married) how can you love more than one person? :S

  49. Vic Kelley says:

    She used to be beautiful. When she was on “Cheers” she was in shape and really attractive. I don’t think she’s aged well but I do hope the best for her.

    • Becky1 says:

      For being 61 I think she looks good. It doesn’t look like she’s had a lot of work done, either.

      Her book looks really tacky, though!

  50. Snowpea says:

    I wish she’d wash her hair for crying out loud!

  51. taxi says:

    She was pretty in “North & South” and attractive in “Cheers”. It looks as if her nose has gotten longer as she’s aged & that’s not good-looking. Her figure isn’t so great anymore either.

    • Misnomer says:

      Most people’s noses do grow bigger as they age. Nose and ears are two things that continue growing throughout life, so if its not ‘good-looking’, then everyone is not good-looking.

  52. Thiajoka says:

    I don’t know whether this is true or not about Swayze and I’m more of the opinion that monogamy is typically not possible for many people though they won’t just admit it to themselves, but it is really despicable to talk about this publicly after his death and knowing that his widow will get wind of it. It’s a “what if” situation at best and is a moot point.

  53. Dirty Martini says:

    I was once crazy about her. I’ve always been crazy about him. I dont doubt there was an attraction, in fact, i’d be shocked if there weren’t. Two mid 30s stars, attractive, nice, and thrown together all day for months on end?

    But to say this crap now, when he’s gone, and to flaunt something from decadees ago in his widow’s face?

    Wretchedly wrong on so man levels.

  54. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    North and South stole Murphy from Remington Steele – James Read rocks :)

  55. LittleDeadGirl says:

    Keep it classy Kirstie … classy all the way.

  56. Silly says:

    Her age is really showing in her hands now.

    She must be desperate for money to resort to this.

  57. CKate says:

    Did the choke collar leave that mark on her neck? Bow no!

  58. Gem says:

    I’ve read both books that were published (one written by Patrick & his wife; the other written by Lisa Swayze after her Patrick died), and Kirstie Alley is not even mentioned in either of the books! If she was mentioned, it was very fleeting. And both Patrick and Lisa were very revealing about their personal lives; I’m sure if there was even a hint of a relationship (even a strong friendship between Patrick & Kirstie), that one of them would have mentioned it. Kirstie, you have crossed the line! I used to feel sorry for her but now I just feel disgust.

  59. Ella says:

    I think Lisa Niemi is probably having a good laugh, if she pays this any attention at all. It sounds like Kirstie has lost some weight and now thinks she’s all that.

  60. lucy2 says:

    She clearly has no idea what she’s talking about, and the Travolta thing is the real kicker.
    I think that’s a terrible thing to say publicly, especially when the person is no longer with us to deny it, and even worse when you’re supposedly friends with his grieving widow.