Salma Hayek: ‘Love gives me the vanity to continue caring about my weight’

Here are some new photos of Salma Hayek at the Balenciaga show in Paris today – the same show that an unwashed-dishrag-looking Kristen Stewart attended. Salma was there with her billionaire husband Francois-Henri Pinault, who is the CEO of PPR, which is the firm that owns Balenciaga. I might have missed a few steps in there, but basically Pinault owns this sh-t and my point remains the same: Salma Hayek could and should be wearing much better clothes. WTF is this outfit? She looks like someone made her a peplum out of a trash bag. And look at that skirt from behind – so, so unflattering. Ridiculous.

Meanwhile, I have a few more quotes from that stupid More Magazine Canada interview that Salma did. We’ve had quotes from this piece all week – I don’t get why these quotes are being released in this slow drip-drip of Goopiness, but here are the latest (I’m including some of ones we’ve already covered for context):

Salma says she’s as ‘the limit of chubbiness at all times’, adding: ‘I’m not a skinny girl. Everybody has a weakness — mine is food’, she insisted: ‘If you love food and you love red wine and they put you in France, you’re in a good place and you’re in a bad place at the same time.’

This is particularly bad news for Salma as she is married to French billionaire Francois-Henri Pinault, 50, with whom she has a four-year-old daughter called Valentina.

To allow herself to indulge guilt-free, Salma said she steps on the scale daily, adding: ‘You have to weigh yourself every day, and you have to have an alarm number. When you get to that number, you have to start putting it in reverse.’

The star said she says she keeps her figure in check by dieting more so than exercise, confessing: ‘I don’t have stamina in exercise . . . but I have it in life.’

And after being married for three years, Salma revealed that she and her husband — the French CEO of luxury-brands firm PPR, which handles Gucci and Balenciaga — keeps her motivated to keep an eye on the scale.

She said: ‘I think if I was not in love, I would probably let myself go faster. Love gives me the vanity to continue. I’m not necessarily vain, but when I gained 50-something pounds in the pregnancy, it did something to me. Since then, at least I make an effort.’

[From The Mail]

So, she’s basically saying that she only keeps herself in shape for her husband, and her marriage makes her (more) vain.

Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.

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  1. Minky says:

    This hurts me. That outfit is so hideous and she is NOT hideous. Maybe a little far removed from her roots with her gazillionaire hubby, but geez. Seriously? She could definitely afford to dress better if she wants us to believe her marriage allows her to be vain. *sigh*

    • Sassy says:

      Her outfit is wrong, wrong, wrong for so many reasons. One does not put a blousy top on a tiny, busty woman. All it does is overwhelm her. It may be high fashion, but the small woman does not have the luxury of wearing bulky items or she will look matronly or peasant-like. She cannot carry off certain looks like a tall, thin woman. This includes oversized handbags.
      with all the resources at her disposal, it seems that Salma doesn’t get it or her stylist may not like her.

    • CTgirl says:

      Salma’s roots are gold plated. Her father is a wealthy business man of Lebanese descent. It’s not like Salma has ever had to struggle financially.

  2. kaligula says:

    Actually I was just realizing this very thing about my current weight situation. It’s just part of the mating dance. I expect my husband to do manly things like take care of stuff around the house, bring home the bacon, etc, so in turn I should at least try to meet his expectations of the feminine role. It makes him feel loved, it’s not an act of submission and I don’t do it out of fear.

    • Maria says:

      Are you assuming that your husband has “expectations of the feminine role” (whatever that is) or has he conveyed that to you (either directly or indirectly)? And what are his expectations?

      • kaligula says:

        Thanks for your reply… I’m not assuming. I won’t get into detail but we’ve talked about it quite a bit. Maybe “expectations” isn’t the right word. His wishes and longings, I want to fulfill them as much as I can. He certainly does it for me….

    • anon33 says:

      The very fact that you had to make sure to point out that you don’t do it out fear or submissiveness raises my eyebrow…

    • kit says:

      In my house there are no roles defined by gender. For a long time I have made more than my partner, now he makes more than me. We share the cleaning and cooking. I don’t maintain my weight or looks for my partner and I wouldn’t care what he looks like either as long as he was happy. I would hate to be in a relationship where i had to look or act in a certain way- that will surely lead to being unhappy in the long run.

      • ShugAveryPee says:

        Well I must agree… I am old fashion and I believe Men and Women have different roles in marriage and in the home… Not one superior over the other… just I believe the Lord desgined us in that way …
        As for not caring how you look… I would work on that … Letting yourself go can cause a man to stray …. You already have to be careful with men in general .. BUT…. I wouldn’t get to comfortable … marriage does involve being attracted to one another… and just because he may not say it does not mean he does not think it…
        Like Mammie said in “Gone With The Wind” … “What a man says… and what a man thinks is too different things” LOL

      • kaligula says:

        Believe me, I’m no real-housewives type. We have our own thing. This is interesting, maybe I’ll do some more in-depth personal writing about this…. But here let me say this: it’s just that, as Dolly Parton says, there is a fat woman inside of me dying, (***DYING*** I tell you!!!!) to get out. And if I do let her out I will be so ashamed of myself I wouldn’t let anyone near me, even if they wanted to (which yes, I know he still would).

    • girlnbayou says:

      I totally agree.i was always the independant career woman in control until my first husband left me for a woman who was meek feminine etc. He said she made him feel more manly. My current husband defined from the very beginning that he knew his role and would play it well amd not let me down but that he expected the same from me. And frankly, I am ashamed to admit it but I rather like it. He makes the day to day decisions and we make the big ones together. I appreciate that he does that bc it allows me the time to spend raise my babies and take care of him and enjoy my life at a slower pace And its quite sexy having such a strong man.

    • Canda says:

      My husband and I have a very “traditional” relationship as well, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He is the “manly man” and does heavy lifting, hard work, and provides for the family. I cook, clean, launder the clothes, etc., and am very happy when HE is happy with what I provide. It is not submission (by god, I’d rather die), rather a desire to do one’s best to please their partner. Luckily, what we “want” from the other suits both of us, because he’s happy doing his share and so am I. Physically speaking, I would be uncomfortable piling on a ton of weight or becoming sexually unappealing to him. He manages his own weight, and we do it for ourselves to make each other happy, if that makes sense. It’s what makes a relationship work, striking a happy balance… some couples are fine with totally reverse roles and while that’s fine for them, traditional-minded housewives such as myself who ENJOY what we do and are in happy marriages shouldn’t be told off for setting back the feminist movement or something.

  3. littlemissnaughty says:

    Oh my god SHUT UP already! Love makes her keep an eye on the scale? Yeah, right. Because who wants to look chubby next to this gorgeous piece of man … wait.
    Salma is the Ferrari of trophy wives, THAT is why she has to watch her weight. The man discarded frickin’ Linda Evangelista like she was gum on his shoe, as if he wouldn’t do something similar to Salma just because they’re married. Please. Once a dirtbag, always a dirtbag. She’s feeling the pressure, that’s all. And she is annoying as hell, I’m starting to find Goop less and less insufferable.

    • Jules says:

      You beat me to it. He will swap her out in 5 years for someone younger and more full of herself.

      • TG says:

        Totally agree trophy wife must maintain her looks. I bet he is already getting his side pieces. I need to learn French so I can read all the gossip on him.

      • Jaded says:

        I wouldn’t be at all surprised if he already had a little 21 year old piece on the side – he’s French, he’s rich and powerful, that’s what these guys do. Can you imagine the sweet young things throwing themselves at him in that business?!

      • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

        @Jaded – plus he has unlimited access to models, designers, etc…loads of young, hot, ambitious women who know who he is. He is clearly a dirtbag! Any man who suggests you watch the scale is not a real man, IMO. That is not love, that is abuse.

    • lucy2 says:

      Completely agree.

    • zenb!tch says:

      He’s hideous maybe she should put some expectations on him.

    • Canda says:

      While it’s totally possible for a woman to watch her weight to appeal to her husband, this broad is so full of crap. No kidding, she’s a trophy wife! I’m sure his bank account has nothing to do with their relationship, oh of course not, it’ “love” that keeps her slim and sexy. Please! If she gained 20lb he’d dump her ass and she knows it!

  4. says:

    Add to the long list of fug things about her look: the hair. Was she going for the ombré look? Or are the ends lighter because they are damaged?

    Every time this girl opens her mouth I roll my eyes.

  5. Calabaza says:

    Hideous outfit! Her husbands employees must really hate her if they gave her those clothes!

  6. smartyparty says:

    I get what she’s saying. You don’t want to be that wife that just totally lets herself go. I don’t have a problem with anything she says, I think she’s just being genuine about things.

  7. Eve says:

    Salma Hayek: ‘Love gives me the vanity to continue caring about my weight’

    Spoke like a true trophy wife (which she probably is).

    She should be doing that for herself.

    • Sirsnarksalot says:

      Exactly! And she should specify that it’s love OF HIS MONEY that keeps her caring about her weight. It’s a shame that such a talented actress settled for being a “kept woman”.

    • lizzi says:


      I gained a little weight recently (my hubby says he likes a little more booty) and I’ve been freaking out. He says he loves every inch of me and doesn’t want me to change, but wants to see me happy. All that matters is if both are happy.

      She should exactly be doing it for herself.

      That quote really irks me.

    • Jaded says:

      No Salma, vanity gives you the vanity to keep an eye on your weight. That and the fear that your “wonderful” husband (gag) is going to dump your old ass for someone half your age.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      Just wait until they separate and she sues for 150K/month in the divorce..”He was just such an emotional abuser, esp about my appearance. He started pointing out the runway models as what I should aspire to. The turmoil he caused affected the way I could be as a wife and mother.” Just wait.

      • Jaded says:

        @EmmaStoneWannabe – oh yes, it’s coming, and the more she spouts off at the mouth about the perfection of her married life, the more humble pie she’ll have to eat.

        Remember Salma, “pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall”.

    • D1 says:

      It’s interesting to me how in America, it’s considered embarrassing/pathetic for a women to admit that what she does to look physically attractive is partly or largely done to attract or keep the interest of men.

      Low-calorie diets, exercise regimens, cosmetic surgeries, time-consuming hair & beauty routines – the only socially acceptable answer in America is to say that you’re doing it “for yourself”, even if that’s not really the whole truth.

      However, in many, if not most, other cultures, women will frankly state that the beauty regimens they subject themselves to are done to meet the expectations of men – it’s not shameful, so they can be more honest.

      • Maggi says:

        +1 million. I prefer honesty to promoting the currently acceptable dogma. She probably.y enjoys being more fit and the fact is that her relationship motivates her. That’s why people hire
        Ersonal trainers-it’s easier to do it for somebody else than to self motivate.

      • Sassy says:

        HA! I have been married twice, but have not have a man in my life in almost 20 years, yet I still diet, wear makeup and have my hair coiffed. Why? I have really expensive clothes that I could not wear if I gained a lot of weight and it seems more prudent to stay trim than buy a new wardrobe. I don’t like to be frightened when I look in the mirror, so a little hair and makeup attention makes this more bearable. Not anything for a man at all, just for humanity! And the grandkids!

      • Eve says:

        @ D1:

        Except…I’m not American. I come from one of these “other cultures” you mentioned, a very male chauvinistic one for that matter (just like Hayek’s).

        And precisely because of that — because I see, almost on a daily basis, women doing a lot just to “catch” or “keep” a man — I DO have my reasons to find what Hayek said pathetic.

      • D1 says:

        I was commenting on American culture – how women are not only expected to conform to cultural expectations of how they should look, they must also insist they are only doing it for themselves – and how it differs from cultures that are less influenced by individualism and which prize social conformity – people are more frank & practical about the fact that social pressures have shaped & influenced their choices.

        As far as your comment goes, I’m going to assume you are referring to women who go to dangerous extremes because otherwise, you would find most women pathetic – just consider how much time & money so many women will spend over their lifetimes removing body hair to conform to the expectations their culture, including men, have of them.

    • Minty says:

      It’s just a nicer way of saying that she has to honor the obligations of her contract. If Salma lets herself go, there’s no doubt he will upgrade to some hot young thing. If she maintains her looks, would it be any surprise if he has mistresses on the side anyway? Aren’t the French rather pragmatic about affairs?

      He’s a douche and a womanizer. That’s his track record. I doubt this relationship will reform him.

      Even if they divorce, she’s still getting a slice of his financial pie, especially since they have a daughter together. Love certainly wasn’t the primary reason she married Mr. Potato Head Billionaire.

    • Raven says:

      She’s not being vain, she’s being defensive. I’ve said lately that she looks like she’s gained weight. I think she’s passed that top number. She’s definitely heavier than she was several months ago. She’s thicker in the legs than she was before and her hips are bigger. As much control as she likes of things, she wouldn’t take just anything from the “help.” I think she took that peplum, hoping to cover up more bulges, but it’s a bad style for short people. And that gathering could certainly cover up an expanding waist.

      • The Original Tiffany says:

        She is not heavier than she was a few months ago. She might be heavier that she used to be but it is not new. She visited us backstage and she was this same size. Also, she is tiny, less than 5 feet in person.
        I bet if she gains 5 pounds, she borders on chubby. That is a fine line to balance. I’ll take my height, it can hide 5 pounds no problem.

  8. Saphana says:

    i dont have the feeling she would be loyal to him until the end of her life if he loses all of his money. so it goes both ways.
    if you enter the “beautiful wife, rich husband” agreement you should fulfil your part of that agreement.

    • Wif says:

      Wow! That’s cold. Unfortunately, I think it’s also pretty accurate.

      • TG says:

        And that is fine to do that just don’t kid yourself like Salma is doing. or at least don’t try to kid us since we see thru the bs. Someone asked Melania Trump if she would be with The Donald if he wasn’t super rich and she said it works both ways that he wouldn’t be with her if she wasn’t beautiful. Something like that so at least she was being honest unlike Salma.

    • Would Vincet Cassel Wear This? says:

      @Saphana: Spott on. Great post.

  9. Lem says:

    That outfit. Oye
    Her creepy husband is smiling. Why does that make him more creepy?!? She looks harried and he looks pleased.
    I have a feeling Salma is very unhappy lately. You know how your friends start talking out their arse when they are unhappy at home or find their husband being a tool, then go into over compensating denial. I feel that may be what she is doing lately. But, I don’t really take issue with anything she’s said.

  10. lem says:

    i never used to have much of an opinion regarding hayek but lately i find her insufferable. not to mention, i don’t get all the hullabaloo regarding her current state of beauty– she used to be gorgeous (I’m thinking Dogma days) and now I just find her meh. But that could be b/c every time she opens her mouth she spews nasty, pretentious, ugliness. I have a difficult time separating words sooken with physical beauty.

  11. Snowangel says:

    Her outfit is not soo bad, but HIM, is that the only tie and shirt combo that he could come up with, blue suit with a matching plain blue tie ? Did the suit, shirt, and tie all come together in one box? His pants don’t seem to fit well either and they are too short. Can’t believe Salma let him out of the house.

  12. Lem says:

    Bwahahaga at that women’s outfit in the second to last photo. ‘hot slvt’ and new inspiration for Micheal K

  13. Lindsey says:

    It really does look like a trashbag. It probably is Gucci or Balenciaga, I mean…when your hubbie owns like half the couture fashion houses is there even a reason to look elsewhere? I’m thinking she just ‘shops’ off the rack and doesn’t bother tailoring anything to fit her.

  14. V4Real says:

    How many more tales do we need to listen to about her damn weight? Shut the hell up already.

  15. HotPockets says:

    Falling in love made me gain weight, but I also didn’t “fall in love” with a billionaire.

    I called my weight gain the love pudge and didn’t care, because I had the opposite mind set. Someone unconditionally loves me, so who cares if I don’t look perfect?

    I know this has been said enough, but how gross can he be? It can’t be said enough. No amount of money can make this man attractive and no amount diarrhea of the mouth can make Salma shush about herself.

    • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

      It’s entirely normal and common for women to gain weight when lovestruck. Your uterus is calling out for some padding to protect FutureFetus. If you’re interested in relocating, the Moscow Poverty Diet–with its insanely expensive living costs would make anyone more svelte if he so chooses.

  16. mel says:

    My husband appreciates the fact I take care of myself and stay in shape…letting yourself get fat is just sheer laziness.

    • Alexis says:

      Mel, seriously. Go away now.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      “Appreciates.” Lol keep telling yourself that.

    • Chatcat says:

      Mel honey, if that is the first thing on your hubby’s “appreciate you for” list I wouldn’t want your marriage.

      • TG says:

        I understand Mel, I think her statement just came out harsh. I mean would any of us really stay with our significant other if he/she gained 50 or 100 lbs? I doubt I would and it isn’t just because I don’t want a fat person it would likley mean they were seriously depressed or some other unhealthy reason and I can’t be with someone who checks out on themselves. Part of the attraction is physical attraction and the fact that someone takes care of themselves. However, Salma is just a trophy wife and should STFU already. Since she is sounding desperate.

      • The Original Tiffany says:

        You did not just go there! Look, I gained and have now lost 100 pounds from being ILL. My husband loved me at every weight and frankly my weight was not foremost in his mind. My health and well being were. I also gained 65+ pounds in both pregnancies-I’m tall so it doesn’t show as much, but it is still 70 pounds.

        If your spouse leaves for gaining weight, then maybe that says something about your choice of man. My hubby has loved me no matter what and I him.

        That is a sad way to look at life, you never know what is going to happen to you. My thyroid freaked out so badly I almost died. I’m now thin enough to fit in my 8th grade grad dress and he doesn’t love me or want me any more or less than ever. I think we both enjoy my regular size, but he certainly wasn’t out the door because I got big for a couple years.

      • Chatcat says:

        Here here OTiff. Oh wait, some folks would say shame on you for allowing yourself to get sick. HOW DARE YOU? That might offend your hubby! Never mind, the sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, for better or for worst…you should look exactly as your man wants you to look whilst draped on his arm don’t you know. Even if his nose has become bulbous, his gut hangs over his belt and his face may have a look of constant constipation. How dare him! UGH!!!!!!

      • The Original Genevieve says:

        Wow, Mel. Its great that you think that. Just remember, karma’s a b*tch.

        I hope you have some snazzy little life plan that fully covers every contingency, if thats the case. I hope you never gain a few extra lbs. with children, an illness that affects your metabolism or an accident that hinders your ability to keep those lousy extra “fat” lbs. off.

        I am fortunate enough to have a husband who would never be that shallow or judgmental if I started to gain a few lbs. around the middle, as happened to me earlier this year. As both of us watched my formerly trim waistline expand dramatically, never once was I scolded for having gained weight. Hubby simply watched in horror, worried alongside me and cried with me when both of us were finally told this summer that I required an emergency hysterectomy. I guess I’m lucky that he didn’t think I was just *letting myself go*, huh?

        WOW. I can’t even go there with the shallowness of your comment.

        I hope for your sake that your husband thinks more of you than you seem to. :(

      • Heather says:

        You ladies are overreacting. I don’t think illness and other life events (pregnancy) are not what Mel is talking about. She’s saying in GENERAL (not 100% of the time, no matter what-relax), working on your body to stay fit and healthy and yes (gasp) trying to look good for your partner is a good thing for a relationship.

      • The Original Tiffany says:

        @Heather, no I don’t think we are over-reacting. I have been with my husband for over 23 years. Life goes through phases and sometimes those are weight gain, not looking your best, whatever. PHASES. If your mate quits you for gaining, I say your mate is a self absorbed twat.

        I totally get the being healthy and in shape thing. I do it for ME. I eat clean, work out daily and am in great shape because it makes me feel healthy and energized. Has nothing to do with my husband other than the increased sex drive from feeling so good.

        How sad to be in fear your “mate” will leave if you go through a tough time (maybe depression that makes you “lazy”). I’m glad I married a grown up who married the woman, not the body. Someday we won’t be beautiful and hot and neither will our mates and where does that leave you if you have a superficial relationship? And I am saying that as a thin, fit woman, I am appalled that anyone would intimate that if a spouse gained 50 pounds the other would leave. I wouldn’t do that to my husband and he would not do it to me. It’s called real love.

        Unf*cking conditional love.

      • Heather says:


    • Chordy says:

      I gained 50 lbs from the side effects of medication after an illness that almost killed me (and actually did for almost a minute). It doesn’t bother my husband. He appreciates the fact that I’m, you know, alive.

    • Quinn says:

      I’m with you Mel! I love to look good for my partner by keeping fit and healthy & I love to know he appreciates how I look. This doesn’t automatically mean that looks are the most important thing to him (they’re not, and I know he would still love me if I gained weight) OR that I only do it for a man and not myself. But seriously, who doesn’t like looking their best for their loved one? Aside from health reasons, their is no reason for someone to ‘let yourself go’ after marriage, I believe this is an unhealthy train of thought that leads to an unhealthy body which is bad for you, your partner and your life together.

    • Anna says:

      Mel, I agree with you. Letting oneself go is disgusting and an insult to one’s partner. Let the cows moo here all they want. Looks do matter.

      • Cloud&Feather says:

        You’re calling people who gained weight due to medication and illnesses “cows?” Look, be happy for yourself that you maintain your weight for your partner IF that makes you happy, but why call names…if you’re SO happy? You sound bitter.

        I maintain my weight because *I* want to, partner or no. My husband actually DID gain (and eventually lose) 50 lbs. just grazing all the time, eating junk. Yes, I stayed. I wasn’t going to throw out a good human being because he got fat (which is not the end of the world).


  17. Sam says:

    She makes her husband sound horrible. If I all of a sudden began to gain a lot of weight, my husband wouls likely say “hey, what’s up, are you healthy or okay?” but he wouldn’t leave or cheat. Her statements make it sound like her husband would split the second she became fat. I understand that when you love somebody, you want to look good for them. But “looking good” and “staying skinny” are not the same thing. Plenty of fat women manage to keep their husbands hot for them.

  18. Kellie says:

    I think you should maintain your body to the same degree you were courted and eventually married at. If anything you should aspire to get hotter, not worse. And I’m not talking about the wedding day bulimics that drop 20 pounds to look like a stick in white walking down the isle.

    • Cloud&Feather says:

      That’s nice and all, but is not possible for everyone. Especially when you throw in metabolism changes that typically come with age. And I’m not talking WAY down the line, I mean even the meager difference between one’s early and late twenties. If you weighing more than you did before or after you got married is huge relationship-breaking, jump-ship-for-the-skinnier-version deal, you probably picked the wrong person…

    • Izzy4ya says:

      This mentality always sounds some dumb to me. And it’s never directed at guys who, don’t actually carry babies. Even if you stay at or near the same weight (which is rare for anyone, even if they never become medically overweight), your body will STILL change. Titties will sag. Men will get “Barrel Chest”. Hair will disappear. Then what? I guess love gets you through it.

  19. Jessica says:

    I don’t think HFP is that bad. Granted, I’m not up to date on his dramz, but if you are with someone and you realize that person isn’t someone you want to be tied to–I mean Evangelista seems/seemed like a somewhat difficult personality–then it’s understandable that you would want to distance yourself from him/her. Plus, once she had the child and it was determined to be his, didn’t he pay the child support? Now, he’s with Salma and they seem chill and happy. I also don’t see anything GOOPy about Salma’s interviews. She still seems beautiful, honest and grounded to me quite honestly.

  20. Jill says:

    Id make him carry my purse. Now that’s love. Vanity is the killer of a relationship. Let her bloat up and see if he sticks around. Then you will truly know it’s love, because as they say it’s blind.

  21. Sarah says:

    I’m sorry ladies but he looks crazy in love with her.

    • Ennie says:

      He coul have gotten with two twenty years old if he had wanted that. He could have stayed with Linda if he wanted that, or with the French socialité-horsewoman he was fooling around when he broke up with Salma.
      They chose to be together, they must be in love why does it have to be the worse? She, a gold digger, and him a bimbo chaser? She was never going to marry lower… And he does not seem so superficial considering he chose a woman who was already older and who had already a career. Not too shabby for either.

    • shewolf says:

      Totally agree.

    • Alana Fajina says:

      Don’t apologize, I am with you on this!

    • Claire says:

      I totally get that impression as well. I might get slammed, but I don’t really see anything wrong in saying you want to look nice for your husband.

  22. Sabrine says:

    Salma had $85 Million in the bank when she married Pinault so any notion that she is a “kept” woman is ridiculous. She really loves him and any woman who turns into a fat slob after marriage/children has no respect for herself or her husband.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Same goes for the husband right?

    • Chatcat says:

      So Sabrine, how old are you? How many years have you been married? Have you birthed any children (not Beyonce style … actually “birthed”) if so how many? Are you employed or do you have wealth beyond having to work to earn a living? Did you even realize your statement makes you sound like a trophy wife or trophy wife wannabe? Do you realize most of us think women who think like you are a disgrace and have no respect for such antiquated views of women? Good God, after reading your post I feel like I read a bad harlequin novel. Ugh.

      • Alana Fajina says:

        Why do we “woman-bash” if said woman doesn’t adhere to our perception of how to be a modern woman?? Isn’t feminism about CHOICE? Some women CHOOSE to take care of themselves For themselves AND their spouses. That is Not Wrong to think or even Say! Just because some women are doctors and lawyers now doesn’t mean that All women want that [just like some women want children and some don't] some women take pride in caring for their homes, their relationships and their families. And to assume Sabine is just “young” with no kids and that Beyonce wasn’t actually pregnant suggests you are way too invested in other peoples lives. Calm it down, she’s not setting Anyone back k :)

      • Chatcat says:

        Listen Alana, I don’t need to calm down as much as some people need to grow up, regardless of their “actual age”. If you want to defend somebody who states that somebody let themselves become a “fat slob” its your perogotive, just as it is mine to express that mind set is antiquated, is what sites like CB are all about. Believe it or not, there are many men and women who have great caring relationships with their spouses despite weight gain, hair loss, the dreaded belly fat (or beer belly) that can happen. If that offends you, oh well. I know more people who value more of what is inside the package more then they do the wrapping. Cheers!

        PS. My house is almost always spotless, I dress fashionably, and I am generally fit and well put together because IT IS FOR MY SELF WORTH FIRST, not to make my hubby of 28 years happy … not the feeling of I have to keep myself together for my man or else!

      • minime says:

        @ Chatcat
        nice to read some words of wisdom around here. It is just mind blowing that women still define themselves for what men think/expect of them. We will never in our lives hear men defining themselves in that way (and that’s good)! What about the notion that we should take care of our body because of health reasons? Is it also great for the self-esteem? Yes, it is. But self-esteem also comes from we being happy with ourselves, even when others are not. There are also men that have the fetish of overweighted women. So if my husband would happen to be like that, should I just get extra fat to please him? Concerning Salma, it just sounds too sanctimonious when she says it…shouldn’t she also be interested in keeping her body in shape for her career?! I don’t know, maybe if it was someone else and a different context it would sound better than this…I get the concept that you might be more motivated and happy with yourself when you’re in a relationship and you want to keep yourself in the top of your presentation, but this just sounds too much.

    • Izzy4ya says:

      85 million (and it’s likely less) is NOTHING compared to what her husband has. NOTHING.Salma knew exactly what she was doing. Securing her future and her daughter’s future. When she thought that slime ball would never marry her she was singing a completely different tune. Salma is almost as annoying as Goop and Kim to me.

    • Ann says:

      No way did she have 85 million or anywhere near that.

    • The Original Tiffany says:

      @Sabine, Alana. Way to body shame women! Way to set us back 50 years, Huzzah!

      So yeah, Gaga is all for a body revolution but there is always 10 more “supportive women” to pull you the f*ck down if you aren’t pretty enough, skinny enough or whatever enough.

      What a freaking sick and perverted view women have of other women. It is frankly embarassing the way some of us treat others. How are we to ever be and raise happy, healthy women with good body images if there is always some judgemental ass to call her a fat slob if she doesn’t look 18 and perfect.

    • skuddles says:

      Sabrine, I’ve put on about 20 lbs since I got married just over 5 years ago… guess I better tell hubby it means I don’t respect him (or myself), time to call the divorce lawyer. Or should I just give him permission to screw around with a skinnier woman?

      You really ought to look up Samantha Brick – you two seem to share very similar uh… attitudes.

      • The Original Genevieve says:

        @ skuddles…Samantha Brick!! *snort*

        You LITERALLY just took the words right out of my head. I was just thinking, this a$$, she’s sounds about as self-righteous and deluded as someone like…

        Great minds, ya know ;)

    • ShugAveryPee says:

      All you women talking that crap about looking good for yourself and not a man is BULL….. Yes I am a grown woman… who loves to dress sharp and keep my nails… pedi and hair done… all the time… part of that is for me.. the other part is to present myself well to the public and any man I want to atrract…. I notice alot of women let themselves go after marriage… Salma isn’t a fool… her husband is stinking rich and could have any woman he chooses and probably does… so she is SMART to look her best ALWAYS… All you women talking that mess about your husband not caring about weight gain and how you look is a LIE… Those same men are the ones i see cheating and hitting on other women ALL THE TIME…. I believe the women some of the people on this thread are talking about women who LET THEMSELVES GO … Not women who are stricken with a disorder or have a baby… that is understandable weight gain… they are talking about women who get married and get comfortable… because those SAME women were dressing to kill to catch that very husband they have… and it takes the same kinda effort to KEEP him ….

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        @ ShugAveryPee-
        WOW. I feel sorry for you for so many reasons…where to start.

        The fact that you have to put THAT much effort into your appearance-sounds exhausting if you ask me.

        The fact that you think men cheat because their wife “let herself go”.
        That’s why you think some men cheat? Oh LAWD you are naive. But I guess it’s easier for you to think that if you look good, that you can keep/attract men. Maybe, but I wouldn’t want the kind of man thats looking for a trophy wife. I guess if you put all your energy into creating an image that you hope will help you snag a man, you don’t have to worry about working on your personality. Guess that works out well for you huh?

  23. Ming says:

    That sounds Palin kids kind of dumb, it just lacks some god.

    I shall conquer the burden of fatassnes through the god given gift of love which burdens me again with the sin of vanity.

  24. CM says:

    That, and the ever-present fear that your husband will publicly toss you aside for the girl he’s cheating with, if you get fat.

  25. Would Vincet Cassel Wear This? says:

    I conquered being over weight when I had a moment of clarity and simply thought why do I settle for being like this when I could choose not to be like this? And bang I got rid of the excess kilos and kept them off.

  26. tru tru says:

    The outfit is horrid and I wish she would stop gloating about her rich old
    “horn dog” husband.

    I’m convinced she does not truly comprehend most things that she says.


  27. JessSaysNo says:

    You guys always trash on her for what she says but its all true for me too! I stay at the brink of chubbyness so I can eat what I want but not too much. Also my husband wanting to have sex with me is ACTUALLY a big deal and makes me want to stay fit. I totally see what she means here.

  28. Jayna says:

    He’s 50? He looks 60.

  29. themummy says:

    I used to think the was one of the most beautiful women. But something has changed over the last few years with her. Her face doesn’t look at all the same. I can’t even really see pretty on her anymore. I see a lot of smug, but that aside, I think she fucked up her looks somehow (and I’m not at all talking about aging!. She used to be sultry and sort of exotic looking…she does not have that at all anymore. That and she’s turned into Goop 2.0

  30. thinkaboutit says:

    However we as women want to look at it, it’s true that men don’t like it when their wives let themselves go. This is as true for poor men as for rich men. Does it mean he’s going to leave because she’s heavier? Not necessarily. Does it mean he doesn’t find her attractive or loves her less? Not necessarily. But don’t kid yourself — does he wish those extra 30, 40, 50 pounds were gone — hell yes!

    Obesity is at an all time high…and so is the divorce rate. Coincidence??

  31. la mexicana says:

    I can’t stand her!!!! Pinche vieja mamona!! She thinks she’s the shit!! I am not proud to say that she is from Mexico. She is not even a good actress.

    • Loira says:

      cálmate, exagerada! No hay ninguna actriz de su edad o mas joven por el momento que tenga la carrera que tiene Salma en USA aunque no te guste. No es buenisima actriz, pero ella se crea sus papeles con su casa productora.

  32. Original N says:

    No amount of money could make me crawl into bed every night with that man.

  33. ShaCur says:

    I see half of what she’s saying…whether due to illness, medication, extreme stress I would expect my fiancee to stick by me – and he has – if I put on weight. On the other hand, now that I’ve put on so much weight my relationship is a motivator: I deserve to be healthy and happy and respect my body by doing what I can under the circumstances, and he deserves to have a woman that will do that and take care of herself. That being said I do know several women (and men) that have really let themselves go after marriage because as my one friend put it “He married me, he gets what he gets”. I don’t think it’s ok to use marriage as a free pass to not try anymore – I want my fiancee to take pride in his appearance and taking pride in mine is not an unreasonable expectation. If you gain weight due to a medical condition, yeah, work through it, but do I think it’s terrible for a partner to expect that the other won’t transform into a sweat pants only/no makeup/unkept hair/poor diet version of what they were just because they can? No.

    • TheOriginalTiffany says:

      Well obviously, I am not for as you call it letting yourself go. I always dress nice, have my nails and toes done, hair and some makeup on. That is for ME. Honestly my husband doesn’t notice a weight gain until it is a big one and he prefers me casual with no makeup.
      So SOME men care a great deal, but not all.

      I eat right, exercise and take great care of myself, I just am super happy that THAT is not what my husband is with me. He thinks I’m the smartest person he has ever met, that I’m funny and nice and I am as loyal and faithful as he is. He doesn’t cheat, even when I was medically much bigger.

      Body shaming other women is disgusting. Someday I won’t have a great body or be super ‘hot’ anymore and neither will he, but we will be happy old people together.

  34. Isa says:

    I want to look good for my husband too. I’m just grateful I don’t have to worry about him replacing me with a trophy wife.

  35. birdy says:

    I never noticed before but did she always look so smug when approached by paps? Or is it just because she married a billionaire (who has knocked up who knows how many other women considering he doesn’t like to publicly acknowledge the children thataren’t bore from a wife) that she thinks she is all that?

  36. Would Vincet Cassel Wear This? says:

    Salma is rich and famous in her own right. It’s sad that her insaitiable appetite for more money has made her settle for this guy when she could hooked up with someone as hot as she is.

  37. palermo says:

    Women who think their men won’t cheat on them if they stay skinny are in some serious denial. If your looks are all that matter to him your relationship is already doomed.

    • Cloud&Feather says:

      Thank you! Simply being fit and trim and having your hair and nails done and dressing nice IS NOT going to keep your man from doing whatever he wants to do. One has less power over people than one wants to admit. When you get your hair and nails done…you get your hair and nails done. Nowhere in the transaction do you acquire anyone’s respect for you or your relationship.

  38. Jenn Bee says:

    I don’t think Salma is especially bright; she us arm candy and at least knows it. She seems to be taking any job offered to her; television, movies and commercials, not preparing for a long term career. Not that she needs to because she married a billionaire.

    There was something very down to earth about her that she’s lost. I don’t really like her much anymore.

  39. anon says:

    well at least shes honest.

  40. mln89 says:

    first of all, i think they are truly in love with each other. he can have his pick of young and beautiful women, but he is with salma. she’s 46 and had an accomplished and full life before him. he didn’t pick a young, dumb, pliable trophy wife, who has nothing to offer but her looks. they even broke up for a time and then when they got back together, they got MARRIED. and he didn’t have to marry her or even have a relationship with her; look at what happened to linda evangelista who was ALSO carrying his child. and salma didn’t and does not NEED his money. i’m sure its nice to go from being a millionaire to a billionaire, but she amassed a great deal of wealth ($85 million as someone else said) and accolades BY HERSELF. she is a world famous actress who has had her own production company since 1999, received an oscar nom for “frida”, and was the executive producer of ugly betty. and i don’t think there is anything wrong with not wanting to let yourself go, especially when you’re an actress (not a character actress) and part of your job description is that you maintain your appearance and weight. i think that she wants to look her best not only for herself and her career, but ALSO for her husband, whom she loves. i don’t think there is anything wrong with that.

    i do have to say that the clothing she’s been wearing these past few years are off the charts ugly and unflattering. its absurd considering all the designer clothing she has access to, not to mention GOOD stylists who could find designer clothing that compliments her height and shape. it doesn’t matter how expensive your clothing is, if looks atrocious while you are wearing it, it looks like expensive, designer shit.