Elton John fears son Zachary will be taunted because “he doesn’t have a mummy”

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Elton John seems like one of those types of people who worry so much and work up such a nervous energy that he’d be exhausting to be around. Last time Elton talked about parenting, he fretted that his son, Zachary, would have a very difficult time growing up if he and partner David Furnish didn’t get busy producing a sibling because, by Elton’s logic, it’s so difficult to be an only child. Not that being an only child is the end of the world, mind you. My daughter seems to be just fine. Would she like to have a baby sister? Sure. But she’s not suffering for lack of one.

Anyway, now Elton is worrying over another issue that seems to be of much more importance. That is, Elton is terrified that Zachary will be teased because he’s the son of two gay men and doesn’t have a mommy. Seems like a legit concern, right? Kids can be so cruel:

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He may have riches and fame but Sir Elton John has admitted son Zachary is going to face a “very difficult” childhood because of attitudes to their unusual family set up.

The 65-year-old star and his civil partner David Furnish, 49, became parents on Christmas Day 2010 to a child conceived using a donor egg and born via a surrogate.

But the singer fears his child will struggle with bullies because he works in showbusiness and because of he doesn’t “have a mummy.” Sir Elton told the Radio Times: “Being the child of someone famous is a huge ball and chain around your ankles. It’s going to be very difficult.”

The star revealed that 20-month-old Zachary calls him “daddy” and Mr Furnish “papa.”

Sperm from both men was mixed to fertilise the chosen egg — a process banned in the UK — and the child was carried by a surrogate. The whole process is estimated to have cost the couple in excess of $1million but it has not been revealed who the egg donor or surrogate is.

He added their unconventional family could cause further problems: “At school other children will say, ‘You don’t have a mummy.’ We’ve come a long way, but there’s still homophobia and will be until a new generation of parents don’t instill it in their children.”

Sir Elton insisted he would not push his son to follow him into showbusiness but wanted music to be a “big part of his life.”

[From Daily Mail]

I think that, at this point, Elton and David have probably already considered private tutoring for their son instead of a group education setting, but I think keeping him completely isolated from other children would be a bad move. As much as it might hurt for Zachary to hear other children say things about his daddies, it will probably also be a character-building experience. After all, everyone gets teased about something while growing up, right? Elton and David should just be thankful that Zachary is a healthy and happy child. The rest will come in due course.

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  1. spinner says:

    They knew this going in…that there would be these types of problems. That little boy is going to want to know who his mummy is. They ain’t seen nothing yet. That aside…I love Elton John. Have seen him innumerable times in concert. Nobody does it live like Elton.

    • joan of snark says:

      after all the crazy things Elton has said and worn, and he’s worried the kid’s going to be picked on for not having a mummy?

      Love you Elton!

  2. Kat says:

    I have loved being an only child. I don’t think it’s hindered me in any way, except for the fact that one day I will be solely responsible for the care of my parents. I never got picked on (though while we lived in Utah I was definitely odd as all my friends had 4-8 siblings), and never felt like anything was missing. I think they should only have another child if THEY want another child, not just because they think Zachary will need one!

    • Kim says:

      I felt it when both my parents were in the hospital and later when I had to make funeral arrangements.

      • Tansey says:

        For me, I’ll (hopefully) only have to be solely responsible for my father when the time comes. I have a brother and sister (both younger. Brother is 4 and sister is 19) by my mother from other relationships, but my father only has me. He has 3 other daughters (also younger than me, all younger than 11 from another woman) but their mother pretty much cut my father out of their lives. I’m all my dad has. Thankfully, my dad is one stubborn SOB so it’ll be a looooong time before I have to worry about any of that.

    • Liave says:

      This. This exactly!
      I have never suffered for being an only child. Yes, there have been times when I thought it would be neat to have a sibling, but to be honest I’ve also at times relished being the sole focus of attention from a very loving, close-knit family. My only worry is that I’ve come to realize that I’m likely to end up solely responsible for the care of my parents and my aunt and uncle in their old age, a thought that scares me, because I’m not sure I have what it takes. Never the less, everyone has their challenges in adulthood, siblings or no siblings…

  3. spinner says:

    I have one daughter & she resents being an only child. She has told me so. It breaks my heart because I was unable to have another. I guess I could have adopted but it didn’t feel right. What can you do?

    • Miss Piggy says:

      *hugs* If you had more who is to say that she wouldn’t then bitch that she wasn’t an only child? There is just no pleasing your kids sometimes.

      Do people really concern themselves with what sex your parents are and how many of them you have?

    • IzzyB says:

      My sister desperately wanted a sibling…until I got here.

      Don’t feel bad spinner. In a few years she’ll be sitting with you remembering the awesome times you gave her as a kid.

    • Elizabeth says:

      I can talk to your daughter and tell her about the downside. I am the 4th child and grew up with a definite sense that my siblings were happy with 3. They are/ were bullies and jerks and it still leaves a sense of emptiness today. My 2 older sisters made the decision and arrangements to put my mother in a nursing home and never consulted me. I found out after the whole thing was done. Tell your daughter to thank her lucky stars – siblings are no guarantee of closeness and love. Sometimes it’s just the opposite. Sorry about the rant but it hasn’t been a good day.

  4. Bad Irene says:

    I was adopted by a single woman and not one person has ever said anything to me in 32 years about not having a dad, and I was born and raised in good old catholic Ireland. People sure seem to get worked up about men being single parents though.

    In terms of this little boy I hope he has a happy and healthy life with his dads and they clearly adore him.

    • Ella says:

      Yet you ended up being Bad, Bad Irene.
      That said, the kid is loaded and has a decent name (not Blackandecker Flowerpower), I’m sure many would trade places with him

  5. Samigirl says:

    Children get picked on for numerous things. It’s part of life. Now, I don’t think bullying is good, but it happens, and we have to prepare our children for it. I was tormented in school and I still hurt from the things that were done to me. I was ill prepared for them, and I wish someone had told me how it really was.

    • girl says:

      True. I really, genuinely hope that he isn’t teased but the reality is that kids will tease for everything. They may tease Zachary because he was born with a silver spoon in his mouth. Doesn’t mean they should shed all their worldly possessions. There will always be something. To children, pretty much no one in their peer group is unteasable (if that is even a word). Welcome to parenthood. Watching your child suffer in any way is wretched.

      No matter how I or anyone feels about gay parenting, I’d give them the benefit of the doubt that they are prepared to answer any questions their little boy has about his mother and are more than willing to deal with any fallout.

  6. grisgrisny says:

    I don’t think keeping their son sheltered is the answer by any means. The world is changing, slowly but surely. Certainly in Brooklyn where we live, the families in our community come in all shapes and sizes and our kids seem to be pretty accepting of that fact. Some kids are raised by a grandparent, some have 2 mommies, some 2 daddies, some both. The important thing is that you are loved.

  7. Mar1ey says:

    This child will suffer more from neurosis brought on by his father than he will from other children worried if he does or doesn’t have a mother.

  8. NadineK says:

    hmm and i thought having a pepaw and a old bitter queen as a parent was the bigger problem…silly me

  9. neelyo says:

    I think he’ll get more ribbing for being the son of a bitch.

  10. KellyinSeattle says:

    I think the biggest problem will be being the son of a huge, world famous star like Elton. He’ll have many opportunities we don’t all get, but I hear the “ball and chain” thing. A lot of gay parents have to face the other problem; not having a mummy or daddy…I think the showbiz thing is more of a detriment than the gay thing.

  11. kay says:

    Elton might give more concern to the fact that is child will be taunted for having parents who throw tantrums in public (and on twitter!), cannot lose gracefully, and publicly declare opinions on others where they have no business (think Billy Joel).

    Seems to me he has a lot of cleaning up to do.

  12. lover says:

    love is all the baby needs, he has two days so what? he has two super rich dads im sure he will get over it. its all he knows

  13. RobN says:

    It’s possible that their concern about the only child issue is based on their being older parents. They may worry more about leaving him alone at an earlier age than most parents would.

    • Ella says:

      With that kind of money he won’t be alone, ca$h is to some people what gravity is to a satellite

  14. EmmaV1 says:

    Having unclassy parents who throw tantrums about other unclassy people (Madonna), who then handle the affair gracefully, makes them look worse.

    Plus, hanging out with a gay porn star on vacation is not ideal behavior either (the dailymail had a piece on that, gross!)

    I think someone above mentiond it, but having a b***h for a parent is probably what their son is going to get teased for.

  15. Carla says:

    There isn’t a kid out there that doesn’t get picked on for something. If it isn’t having two dads, it’s braces, glasses, freckles, height, etc etc etc. This kid is lucky he has two parents who love and care for him, and that’ll be enough to help him weather and survive whatever comes ahead.

  16. Kayla says:

    I may not know much about genetics but how is it possible they mixed sperm from both men? I thought it was one sperm + one egg. Did they just mix it all up & see what would stick?

  17. another nina says:

    I’m not sure why costs are so high – $1 million??? $50K IVF with donor egg in the best clinic, $50K surrogate; couple of $-000′s for embryo storage. May be half a mil for non-disclosure…But I doubt they dealt directly with a donor, most likely an agency.
    Oh, and my brother is the best that ever happened to me.

  18. MrsNix says:

    First, if they’re THAT worried about it, then they probably should’ve talked it out and gotten a plan BEFORE they adopted. I mean, these are the issues that gay parents have to work out for their families.

    Second…Elton, honey…you’re great, but you’re not that special.

    All kids get made fun of for something and, with Elton’s kids, it will probably be for having gay dads because it’s the most obvious thing. The chubby kids get picked on for being chubby because it’s the most obvious thing. The smart kids get picked on for being smart; the stupid kids get picked on for being stupid; the skinny kids get picked on for being skinny…and the kids with gay parents get picked on for being the kids of gay parents.

    That said, gay parents are not rare anymore, and get over yourself. Your kid’s biggest problem will not be that you’re gay…but that you’re a huge celebrity.